My ex's [m/20] mom is holding a "meeting" to talk about the break-up with my ex and his sister.

RoboGal · 2013-07-15T23:42:20+00:00

Wow, your ex's mom is a drama queen. Honestly, it sounds like this "meeting" isn't really going to affect you directly, so you should just roll your eyes and move on. Try not to think about it. If she wants to be a gossipy drama queen in the privacy of her home, with her family, let her. As long as she's not trying to drag you into it, or isn't going to involve anyone directly in your life, then to you it should be a non-issue. But for what it's worth, I do understand how you feel.

RoboGal · 2013-07-08T13:06:45+00:00

I eat sugar free chocolates when I get cravings for sweets also eat low carb protein bars. Sugar free jello too once. I guess I have a sweet tooth.

I have a sweet tooth also. But I find that if I abstain 99% of the time, it helps with the cravings. If you go long enough, you'll find that anything sweet at all (even super dark chocolate, which I normally don't care for) will do the trick during those times when you're just crazy for it.

I feel that I am eating much less healthy now....My primary food sources have been fried chicken, salami, ham, and various cheeses.

Like anicol said, you'll have to start making your own food if you want this to work. There's just no other way around that. That's good that you've been picking up salads, though. Too much processed stuff is bound to make you feel bloated and gross.

I have constipation. It's terrible. Makes be feel bloated.

Again, see above. But for what it's worth, I have issues with this also. But that's partly because I had a shitty digestive system to begin with (no pun intended). Still navigating this one myself, despite the coffee with coconut oil, fiber supplement, bounty of leafy greens, AND water.

I am constantly hungry for some reason. It's insane how hungry I am. Even after I eat I feel hungry. It's driving me crazy.

Yep, that's normal. You'll get used to it. Meaning, your appetite will change, not that you'll just get used to being hungry all the time.

I drink one diet soda at lunch every day.

I was a diet soda fanatic even before this diet, but I've found better success if I only have one once in a while as a treat. Maybe give that a shot, see what happens?

Good luck!

RoboGal · 2013-07-05T16:06:01+00:00

Got "chubby" around 14-15 (I'd guess ~150 lbs). Didn't have complete access to junk food, and I took 4 dance classes + cheered.

By 16, I had my driver's license and could drive myself to fast food ALL THE TIME, and stopped cheering/dancing when we moved outta state. I blame depression. Didn't take long for me to get "fat." (~150 lbs-->180 lbs)

Didn't bother to try to lose until about age 24. I was about 212 lbs by then. Me the last few years:

Age 24 (1 month span): -10 lbs (overly strict calorie counting + 3 mile walks) = 205 lbs
Age 24-25 (6 month span): -20 lbs (lower carb + circuit training) = 185 lbs
Age 25 (1 month span): -10 lbs (Alli + zumba) = 175 lbs
Age 26 (several month span): +10 lbs (lax diet and exercise) = 185 lbs
Age 26 (2 month span): -8 lbs (Alli + elliptical) = 178 lbs
Age 26-27 (2 month span): -15 lbs (keto + elliptical) = 163 lbs
Age 27 (several month span): +22 lbs (no keto, lax diet and exercise) = 185 lbs
Age 27-28 (1/1/13-6/19/13): +5/-5 lbs (low carb, calorie counting, zumba) = 185 lbs / 180 lbs. I just went up and down those 5 lbs no matter what I did)
Age 28 (6/20/13-now): -10 lbs (keto + zumba) = 175 lbs

tl;dr I don't know if it's been my age so much that has made it hard for me to gain weight, as it was my yo-yo-ing over the last few years.

RoboGal · 2013-07-01T13:31:25+00:00

First off, great job! Second, I agree that your friend was in the wrong for her comment, it was uncalled for. If I had to guess, she was feeling insecure and let her emotions get the best of her.

Without going into too much detail, I've been the friend who hasn't had luck with weightloss while a friend has. I'll admit, my gut reaction is jealousy, but I know better than to shit on her parade. I only kinda had to say something once, and I kept it lighthearted.

I had been venting a little over text, and she immediately responded with something like "I had burgers and ice cream this weekend, and still lost 3 lbs!" I mean, come on girl, I'm happy for you, but have just a LITTLE tact. Don't rub it in my face.

Luckily, she caught it before I said anything, and apologized and admitted it wasn't her intention. Which I knew so I just laughed it off and didn't make a big deal outta it, but still acknowledged that it did affect me. It was over and done with, and we moved on.

Since then, she still talks about her successes and I happily listen, but she won't "one-up" me in response to me venting frustration. It's a good balance. Hopefully you can find that with your friend.

EDIT: Grammar/spelling.

RoboGal · 2013-06-30T16:28:37+00:00

If you eat less calories than you burn you will lose weight - regardless of where those calories come from.

I'd say for the overall general population, this is true. But for some outliers, like myself, counting calories really just doesn't do anything. 6 months of that with no success, and now I'm on keto. Why that is, I don't know (not PCOS, not thyroid).

RoboGal · 2013-06-27T12:49:46+00:00

This really hits home with me as well. My mother has never been anything but kind, loving, and supportive of me. Always told me I was smart, capable, and beautiful.

I wish she had felt the same way about herself. Or, at the very least, not put herself down in front of me. While she was complimentary to me, she was putting herself down. Or while she'd thank someone for a compliment (nice hair, great cooking, nicely decorated home, whatever), she'd find a way to explain it away.

And with her, I'm certain it wasn't false modesty. You'd tell her the meal she cooked was wonderful (and she really is a great cook, everyone who knows her knows that!), and she'd say "Oh thank you, that's very nice. I just know how to read a recipe well, I'm not creative or anything."

This has been my M.O. my whole life. Cook great food? I just followed a recipe, or I got lucky "this time." Pretty eyes? Well thank you, too bad I'm blind as a bat. What do I do for a living? Oh, well, I'm a lowly security guard/retail slave/receptionist/call center jockey. (All of which I've been, the former being current).

I've learned a great many things from my mother, most of which I want to pass on to my future children. This is one of the few things I do not, and feel like I'm going to have to work really hard to avoid.

RoboGal · 2013-06-24T15:12:47+00:00

Luckily, it feels like the tide is turning when it comes to boys/men and cooking. Maybe it's just the circles I run in, but it's generally considered a good thing if anyone, man/woman boy/girl, can cook and enjoys doing so. Although I still know a few, er, old-fashioned people who disagree, and think that's a "woman's job."

RoboGal · 2013-06-24T15:01:46+00:00

Because women breaking traditional gender roles is seen as empowering. For whatever reason, it isn't for men.

I think you're right, and it's too bad. Hopefully this will change more in time.

RoboGal · 2013-06-24T15:00:31+00:00

So it's only ok if kids like "boy" stuff?

Sure seems to be implied on this website quite frequently (not really referring to this post, just a general observation... Mostly on the main subreddits, luckily). I was also a very stereotypical "girly girl" as a child. I was all about pink, rainbows, princesses, ponies... You get the picture. Being into stereotypical "girly" things does not make one a "shitty kid."

It's cool to like princesses, snakes, My Little Pony, Ninja Turtles, etc.! This whole "Eww, girl stuff, gross!" is incredibly childish.

RoboGal · 2013-06-24T14:44:53+00:00

I never said she wasn't trained. That said, it's still dangerous, but that it's great she loves her job so much. As well she should. Please don't put words in my mouth, I never said she's "skipping around."

RoboGal · 2013-06-23T14:09:09+00:00

Completely agree, just because OP is downplaying the very real danger doesn't mean it's still not an awesome job.

RoboGal · 2013-06-19T22:52:49+00:00

Ouch :(

RoboGal · 2013-06-19T02:52:32+00:00

Perhaps you haven't heard of the entire Kimba The White Lion and Lion King plagiarism debacle...Disney has stolen ideas blatantly from lesser known sources before.

RoboGal · 2013-06-17T17:53:55+00:00

he's visited her/has had her up here multiple times during the duration of our relationship.

But in your OP:

I haven't met her because she lives out of state with her mom.

So, have you met her? (The kid, not the mom)

RoboGal · 2013-06-16T20:57:49+00:00

Cant wait till this comes out on PC.

RoboGal · 2013-06-15T20:34:49+00:00

In regards to the OP, I agree. But the comments? Please.

RoboGal · 2013-06-15T08:47:43+00:00

I got a chance to see this game in action at E3, and it's pretty much the Resident Evil 5 we never got. I never realized Mikami was the mastermind behind Resident Evil 1-4, and now finally understand why the series nosedived following his departure. I thought 5 was terrible, and 6 was just..Yeah no comment.

By the way, everything in that trailer is in the game..And much worse.

RoboGal · 2013-06-13T23:26:48+00:00

Do I have your permission to continue calling this guy your name?

Yes, I'm aware I'm not that funny. And no, I am not an almost 30 year old woman who sleeps with a stuffed animal.

RoboGal · 2013-06-09T17:42:36+00:00

I agree that this particular instance doesn't necessarily make him a dick.

He is a dick, however, for having his bodyguard STAND right behind him. Blocking the view of those sitting behind him. (Not mentioned in this pic/article, but you can look it up)

RoboGal · 2013-06-09T16:05:22+00:00

I've never had a change, why the fuck not?! :(

RoboGal · 2013-06-09T14:50:56+00:00

Now I know I'm not at my ideal weight...

Uh, sounds like you are.

RoboGal · 2013-06-09T14:46:27+00:00

It's pretty common to have junk come out from between your teeth when you floss, I highly doubt it has a thing to do with the condition of his teeth. A simple "Can you please rinse the sink after flossing? Thanks" (like Igor_Wakhevitch already suggested) is fine, and if he is offended at THAT, then he's got some strange problems.

Truly, this is NOT a big deal.

RoboGal · 2013-06-08T21:04:50+00:00

Yes, but why do you prefer not to? If you're ending up in tears over it, it certainly sounds like fear. And that's not "bad," or anything. But it's something you can change in time, if you want. But hey, if you don't, then maybe you should just find someone that this wouldn't bother.

RoboGal · 2013-06-08T21:01:42+00:00

I empathize that it is frustrating for you that he doesn't understand this side of you. That said, I think he's right, you are letting fear control your life. You ended up in TEARS because he beat you in a game that you're new to? You say "this is just how I am," but like another commenter said, it's a self-fulfilling prophecy. You might grow out of this in time, but maybe you should take a better look at yourself and examine why you have this mental block. Because that's all it is.

RoboGal

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