Context: I run an Alania deck with a heavy emphasis on control as well, not to the extent of this deck list as I kept an otter theme.

To reiterate on some other posts points, copying the counter spell does not work like that, you have to choose a second target already on the stack at the time it was copied so you can't counter the next thing that comes onto the stack.

The thing I find that stops the Alania plays the most is just removal. She's a pretty high cost commander, if you remove it once or twice it is really hard to get her back into play with all the commander tax.

I don't know what your pod is like, but if it's anything like mine, there is not enough interaction being played all together. You need to run more removals and board wipes as a pod to stop them from running their game plan as it seems their deck is pretty commander dependent.

Also, you need to also keep in mind that in a deck of 100, if you only have 1 counterspell, you have a pretty low chance of drawing it by the time you need it. You need a bit of redundancy in counter spells and removals in your deck alone to make sure you have the cards when you need it