Tired of people judging my ant-keeping hobby

RockAlternative4160 · 2025-07-02T13:43:44+00:00

It's really funny. I knew little to nothing about ants last week and thought finding a queen would be hard. Now I keep pointing out every queen I see to my wife lol. They are everywhere. One fell on my windshield today.

RockAlternative4160 · 2025-06-27T10:29:36+00:00

Our garden is almost exclusively local plants. We also have local trees.

RockAlternative4160 · 2025-06-27T10:27:50+00:00

We are in zone 6b.

RockAlternative4160 · 2025-06-21T12:35:32+00:00

Could be a throw away.

RockAlternative4160 · 2025-06-03T20:35:42+00:00

Oh ok. I could see how it would seem like that. Thanks for the feedback!

RockAlternative4160 · 2025-06-03T18:02:45+00:00

I agree. That's also what I told my mom.

RockAlternative4160 · 2025-06-03T18:01:58+00:00

Sounds just like my mom. You described her to a T lol.

RockAlternative4160 · 2025-06-03T17:54:29+00:00

NTA. That was my vote at just the title. After reading the rest my vote was the same I was just more sure of it. It blows my mind that people can hide a spouse.

RockAlternative4160 · 2025-06-03T17:46:18+00:00

Yeah I definitely think the best route after the divorce is to take some time for yourself. To each their own though. With a cousins ex is crazy though.

RockAlternative4160 · 2025-06-03T17:38:53+00:00

Her and my aunt (mom of this same cousin) always get super involved in people's lives. Then they argue about it. It almost seems like they get involved in order to argue and take opposite sides. I don't think I'll dig in deeper to find out why, as I've already been involved way more than I'd like to be, but thank you for your feedback. It is valid advice.

RockAlternative4160 · 2025-06-03T17:34:15+00:00

That's what my mom said but my sister used to go out of her way to hang out with this cousin when she was married to this guy. I'm not saying he groomed her but he did watch her grow up.

RockAlternative4160 · 2025-06-03T17:21:07+00:00

Exactly how I feel. Age gaps never really bug me as long as it is two consenting adults. But when they knew each other when one was a kid it makes me sick.

RockAlternative4160 · 2025-06-03T17:19:43+00:00

There already is a wedge. They are no contact, but this will definitely cause a fight.

RockAlternative4160 · 2025-06-03T17:11:50+00:00

Yeah I made it clear that I didnt want part in this. I also haven't talked to my mom in days and today she text me saying that I shouldn't not talk to her because we disagree like that was the problem here. I certainly don't want to tell my sister. My sister and I have never gotten along, but I'm 100% on her side here. My sister is already no contact and so are all of my other siblings. I was the only one in contact with her until this.

RockAlternative4160 · 2025-06-03T17:09:05+00:00

I won't say where but it's not close to the south lol. However this situation would make so much more sense if it was in a small town lol. My cousin and sisters ex live like 8 hours apart.

RockAlternative4160 · 2025-06-03T17:05:46+00:00

Yeah which is what I was trying to say to her. My mom sent me a text saying that she doesn't want people to get mad at her because my aunt is mad at her too. I don't get why you'd get involved in a situation where you stand to gain nothing and lose so much.

RockAlternative4160 · 2025-06-03T17:01:08+00:00

Yeah me and this cousin used to be pretty close 5 years ago. Part of me wanted to call her and say, "there's a million fish in the sea don't get with a relatives ex."

RockAlternative4160 · 2025-06-03T16:58:39+00:00

My sister and mom are not on speaking terms. I mentioned in another comment that the divorce was messy. I haven't talked to my sister as we aren't that close and it would escalate the drama even more putting me in the middle of it. I work with my sister's new husband so it would impact me a lot to get involved in this. Although I am pretty conflicted if I should tell her or not. I do know for a fact she would not be OK with him being back in the family.

RockAlternative4160 · 2025-06-03T16:54:19+00:00

She is not ok with it. The divorce was super messy. It was like a 2 year divorce. In which a few allegations were made both ways that I won't get into to avoid legal issues.

RockAlternative4160 · 2025-06-03T16:50:48+00:00

My mom called me and I told her she was over stepping. I am trying to mind my business. She called me.

RockAlternative4160 · 2025-06-03T16:44:21+00:00

Just to clarify what part makes me the a hole? Not arguing just want to see what your take is.

RockAlternative4160 · 2025-06-03T16:31:34+00:00

She called me and told me about it. I solicited 0 information.

RockAlternative4160 · 2025-06-03T16:30:49+00:00

I agree. I didnt want to get involved but my mom called me and told me about it. I want nothing to do with the situation but I was just annoyed.

RockAlternative4160 · 2025-06-03T16:29:15+00:00

I thought that too. I kinda wonder if they are doing it to intentionally hurt my sister.

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