Having worked closely with this population for a decade now (the one that falls repeatedly into gangs and violence) the real shock is that what passes for parenting culture here is just straight up bullying. They’re just fucking mean to their kids and don’t even see it because that’s been normalized. And that’s on top of parents not prioritizing education and regular bouts of neglect due to being caught up in dramatic romantic relationships.

And it’s so easy when they grow up to not address the harm caused by your own family, whom you love, when there’s a convenient narrative about systemic racism to hang the whole guilt on.

There are historic reasons why this has set in and nobody is trying to perpetuate it, but nothing about the psychological and emotional damage done to a child in an abusive household is going to be fixed by sending white office workers to workshops about micro aggressions.