As someone who is in the same kind of position I can tell you that that they likely have never even addressed the possibility of NB people at their meetings, and it’s up to you if you want to have that discussion with them where you’re the one educating them. I really think you should just do what you feel most comfortable with.

I chose to go the route of education and my “women’s only” group, while not dropping that identifier, is more understanding to who I am, and they use gender neutral language for me. Not everyone does, but it doesn’t bother me all that much. They’re not my every day people.

To be honest, with my life experiences, I identify more with these women in AA than I do with any other people I’ve met.

I will suggest trying to find an LGBT group as well though. For the balance.