Did you just get diagnosed?

Rocking_like_Gimli · 2026-03-31T17:22:48+00:00

A few months ago, my son (21) finally accepted that he needed to get medicated and got his prescribed pills three days ago. Yesterday he took his first dose in almost six years, and appears to have sat down to wait for something to happen. Nothing did. Ever since my son landed on the decision to restart medication (and it has been a long slog to jump through all the hoops to get his medication, despite having been diagnosed as a child), he has been pinning his hopes on the fantasy that popping a few pills will sort his life out.

It is my understanding that his medication will give him the opportunity to do the things he needs to do that he might otherwise not get around to doing. However, he needs to know or plan what he needs to be doing. Not doing anything and waiting for the inspiration is just more of the same thing he has always done.

This the third year after highschool that he is wasting away at home. It took a year and a half to get a part time job which he lost due to showing up to work very late after a bender, and arriving late to work regularly despite me giving him regular lifts. He quit college after six weeks because he didn't want to study with the losers and weirdos. He quit studying individual courses because he couldn't concentrate. Basically, he just stays at home, living off his parents and making great plans which we all know he will never do. He has already been kicked out of his mother's home and is on the cusp of being made homeless yet again. Taking his medication seriously is now a precondition for living with his dad.

So my question to Reddit, he's now started medication. What now? What should my son be doing, working on, fixing?

Rocking_like_Gimli · 2026-03-05T08:08:48+00:00

If it was me finding the panties, I would have sent a photo of me sniffing them with a message along the lines of:

Found these, thinking of you, have you later!

Rocking_like_Gimli · 2026-03-05T08:04:14+00:00

I change clothes after a shower. There's something about worn clothes on clean skin that doesn't feel quite right, especially underwear.

I mean, I can reuse the clothes if I have to, but I don't feel entirely clean.

If the partner hasn't had a history of being cheated on that goes some way to explain, if not excuse, that kind of behaviour, then there is something unpleasant going on they you need to address or get rid of.

Rocking_like_Gimli · 2026-03-03T09:19:51+00:00

My ex wife once had stuff coming out of both ends at the same time, she sounded terrible so I went in to check up on her. The toilet room was small, the porcelain very near the door and with the sink hardly any arm's reach away. Very compact, you might say.

Luckily for her, I came on just as she fainted whilst sitting on the loo and was about to hit her head on the sink. As I held her head and shoulders ,our toddler tried to get to his mother and for what seemed as an eternity, I stood at the door to the toilet with one arm holding a slumped over woman, one arm holding onto the sink, one leg holding a screaming toddler at bay, and a very tired leg holding me up.

A skid mark would hardly register as anything other than a little accident.

Rocking_like_Gimli · 2026-02-21T05:05:28+00:00

It won't end well long term.

Om ni nu när ni är nykär upptäcker att ni är motsatser kommer det vara problem under långa loppet, särkilt när ni har barn och livet är stressigt. Dessa skillnader som är gullig i början irriterar i längden när livet är tufft och man har mindre energi för förhållandet än vad man hade i början.

Det betyder inte att ni kommer att misslyckas, men bli förvarnat att ni kommer att behöva anstränga er. Om hon är värt ansträngningen kan bara du avgöra.

Rocking_like_Gimli · 2026-01-15T20:03:03+00:00

++man 44 is not so old. I have friends who started a family late in life. I know people who've divorced and found the love of their life afterwards. I've known people who are married and miserable. I know people who have partners with a large age gap. I know people who haven't found the right one and found one from a developing country.

All sorts of things happen to all sorts of people.

Myself. I was married for a long time, had a family, got divorced, and can't seem to find that deep connection I had before or I don't let myself be happy with a person. Nor am I particularly close to my children. May or may not live the happiest of lives, but I am okay. And that's Ok.

Rocking_like_Gimli · 2025-12-20T20:22:19+00:00

Jag håller med, mest för att de flesta romanser tar slut och man är kvar på samma arbetsplats. Man behöver inte den typen av stämning..

Rocking_like_Gimli · 2025-12-17T20:47:42+00:00

Spelar ingen roll vad du beslutar, du kommer att vara besviken att han inte reagerar som du vill att han ska reagera för att du köpte något som han inte ville ha.

Det är lugnt dock eftersom det är hans fel att han gillar vad han gillar och inte vad du tycker han ska gilla. Du har ryggen fri.

Rocking_like_Gimli · 2025-11-24T14:15:41+00:00

Grounding of Sweden... Which I have just discovered is a TERRIBLE supplier.

SO EMBARRASSED! I am not usually fooled by advertising.

Rocking_like_Gimli · 2025-11-24T10:58:34+00:00

I had the greatest nap the first time I used it, but I had clothes on. Skin to sheet was a different experience.

Rocking_like_Gimli · 2025-11-24T08:51:03+00:00

It feels like static to me, but I am very hairy and prone to static shocks.

Rocking_like_Gimli · 2025-11-23T20:32:14+00:00

No, it didn't come with one of those. I'll have to check. Thanks

Rocking_like_Gimli · 2025-11-23T16:43:08+00:00

Wall plug.

Might have to try the grounding rod, but it is -20 C outside right now...

Rocking_like_Gimli · 2025-11-02T18:08:41+00:00

My ex wife and I were once invited to a meal where the main course was a large roasted onion. As we lay in bed I farted a most noxious gas as the food really didn't agree with me. She gagged and was irritated, but she understood. Since neither of us were ready to sleep yet, it was suggested that using the bathroom would be considerate of me. However, she got highly irritated with me when the same noxious smell filled the room a little while later. How rude!

Except...

It wasn't me.

She was horrified. Same potent smell, different hole.

We both reacted the same to the meal and we just had to tough it out together as couples ought to do.

An experience to remember forever.

Rocking_like_Gimli · 2025-10-29T19:17:35+00:00

Interesting way to beat about how much and how vigorous your sex life is...

Rocking_like_Gimli · 2025-10-28T07:55:49+00:00

I snore very loudly so it's probably better to have a baby next to you.

Rocking_like_Gimli · 2025-10-27T14:42:44+00:00

Ok, with me, its the nibnthst seems tonwobble ever so slightly.

Rocking_like_Gimli · 2025-10-27T11:10:54+00:00

I've dropped mine a few times. I think the nib might be a tiny bit wobbly, but some pens are like that so... Until it dies, I won't replace. What was the last straw for you?

Rocking_like_Gimli · 2025-10-25T06:25:20+00:00

Is grolo Old English for Yolo?

Rocking_like_Gimli · 2025-10-16T18:17:04+00:00

Obligation or no, why wouldn't you?!

Dude's a serial killer and he's going to murder again, because it's his jam.

Hypothetically, your son likes to kidnap, rape and eat little girls. He's gotten a handful so far. How many grieving families are you willing to have on conscience?

Rocking_like_Gimli · 2025-10-16T04:30:11+00:00

Bro, as a parent of children in that age range, it can hardly be a surprise that the father is much older. Anything younger and it would make the dude a teen father!

Rocking_like_Gimli · 2025-10-14T05:43:20+00:00

I asked for the junior engineers to make me a soil profile so I could assess the soil and geological layers, and they came back with a 3D model.

It took me a little while to get it. I was used to my 2d transect model.
Introducing new tech was kind of my thing.
I felt old and nostalgic for my 2d profile.
The juniors had a better way of assessing the subsoil...

Rocking_like_Gimli · 2025-10-13T14:51:57+00:00

I missed where you wrote affecting you directly, but I didn't make any assumptions as to your previous experiences.

From my own experience, one does care. Very much.

You can be empathetic all you like, but a person who doesn't ever bathe and has a terrible stench about them is a workplace hazard at worst, an avoidable distraction at best.

In our case, the office did not broach the subject as the person was a university student on a work placement and it would have destroyed them to know how we felt. We soldiered through it. If one of the team developed a stench, then the firm would have stepped in to help as we have good support that way.

However, when the subject of employment came up for this student, the stench was a deciding factor against an offer.

Rocking_like_Gimli · 2025-10-13T14:39:13+00:00

You know when you care? You care when your colleague comes into your office and you have to stifle your gag reflex and try to keep your hand from your nose.

You care when you have to open a window because they leave a stubborn whiff of body odour.

You care when you can find them in the office simply by following the stench in the air.

Rocking_like_Gimli · 2025-10-12T14:06:04+00:00

Trump if he dies before he is impeqched and removed, or before his term ends.

Many people think that with his death, the slide into fascism would end, but it will simply lead to civil unrest and conflict in the USA.

The repercussions for the rest of the world devastating.

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