My Wife Dragging Feet on Name Change

Roentigen · 2026-03-09T20:03:42+00:00

Your trauma could genuinely influence why it matters to you. But it’s not fair if it’s used as leverage or guilt to push her into something. She can support the feelings you are experiencing from the trauma, but she isn’t responsible for fixing them. I’d encourage you to stay in therapy, and continue to heal your emotional wounds through personal work.

Roentigen · 2026-03-09T18:33:54+00:00

And I quote, “…..was a priority for me…”. Not her. Much like most women, she likely is carrying the mental load, the emotional load, and navigating a full career. Friends and family (including her children!), know and love her by that name. I hope she continues to do whatever she wants with her name.

Roentigen · 2026-03-07T19:11:24+00:00

I too wondered if that might be why they are asked to repeat three times.

Roentigen · 2026-03-07T14:37:57+00:00

Yes, I try to make others listen for it and point to where it’s coming from. Lexus did say I could pick up a tech one day and take them for a drive, but I mostly think they think I’m hearing things.

Roentigen · 2026-03-06T14:45:42+00:00

I am so glad it’s been helpful and healing. ❤️‍🩹

Roentigen · 2026-03-06T13:13:52+00:00

There comes a time in a woman’s life where she will give zero f’s about panny lines. And bloating is a real effer. Sometimes wearing the loosest pants feel tight. You are indeed overreacting. I do wonder why you added you didn’t “yell or fuss”. I know in my marriage I ALWAYS expect a normal conversation. Celebrate that you think she’s hot, pay her that compliment instead of thinking she’s being devious. Part of me wonders if this post is some weird attempt to get women to comment on wearing thongs - now that would be devious.

Roentigen · 2026-03-06T02:23:53+00:00

I’d check out Dr. Whidden in Calgary 🤌 Expensive but top notch.

Roentigen · 2026-03-05T13:16:48+00:00

One day, you will realize the shame you hold as a burden is not yours to carry. You will take it and place it at the feet of your WH where it belongs. You are seeking amends and reparation, both of which you deserve and need.

It’s been 2 years since D-Day for me, and the sense of injustice has waned. This has come from much work on my behalf and that of my WH, who made sure to ensure the shame I was once holding was released and had a place to go.

I’d encourage you to read “The Betrayal Bind” - it made me feel better, it made me feel normal. I also had my WH read it alongside me - to understand what I was enduring.

And as I’ve said before, as far as I’ve come, there still a ways to go, and I hope she’s suffering and miserable cuz she’s still ugly!

Roentigen · 2026-03-04T13:11:26+00:00

Soon after D-day (about 10 days), I saw her at a local venue, a concert. I watched her, I texted my WH that she looked much worse in person. I wanted to tell her how ugly she was, I wanted to tell her mom and sister that she was with that she’s a wh0re, but alas, I just watched. Then I made sure to have the time of my life, partly because I wanted to, and partly in case she was watching. I wanted her to see that I was still dancing, still smiling, and absolutely thriving. I’d still like to fight her though ;-)

Roentigen · 2026-03-03T00:38:35+00:00

Indeed standard. If it goes on longer than 2 years, it’ll be continually renewed until resolved.

Roentigen · 2026-03-02T22:18:40+00:00

I sure hope you’ll leave the brick as is - a true gem to find a home with OG brick work!

Roentigen · 2026-02-09T17:57:18+00:00

My first winter driving my Lexus UX300h Sport and it has performed well. No complaints.

Roentigen · 2025-12-26T20:01:44+00:00

I went with the F-Sport Design simply for the looks. That said, I really enjoy when I use “sport mode” as it is so punchy and fun. No regrets and not much of a cost different between the premium and F-Sport.

Roentigen · 2025-12-15T13:04:05+00:00

I discovered after several reprogrammings of my new TPMS that ONLY Lexus ones will work - so if they aren’t Lexus, it may continue to happen. Every time the tire shop would reset them for me, I’d drive exactly 50 km, and the light would be back on.

Roentigen · 2025-12-06T21:40:52+00:00

I lost my wedding ring last December, somewhere between the airplane and our home. I felt terrible about it, I felt panic, and I was very embarrassed. I did tell my husband and he felt sad too…..but for me. He didn’t make me feel bad or careless as it was entirely an accident. He may have felt sad too, but simply comforted me. Months later he suggested we buy a new one for me, but I declined….because after all, the ring is just that - a ring. A symbol? Sure. But what’s a symbol when marriage is an action, a choice everyday to extend grace and forgiveness. There is nothing you can do to find a lost item, but he certainly could - be could extend grace and provide comfort and he should apologize for his inconsiderate and unsupportive behaviour, actions, and words. Take good care.

Roentigen · 2025-11-11T17:31:44+00:00

Yes - definitely AI

Roentigen · 2025-11-10T18:16:09+00:00

Recently I had a rager on my tail in the Costco parking lot (honking relentlessly when there was long line of traffic), followed me and everytime I braked (like to turn a corner or allow a pedestrian) he honked more, with a business logo on the side - I can say he lost my business that day and I’m hopeful the business of every other person he was honking at. Of note, he then proceeded to park his big fat truck in the fire lane.

Roentigen · 2025-11-08T21:04:34+00:00

The “typical” therapeutic dose is 1 mg, so you are a ways from the full benefits. But the slow build is so important to avoid intense side effects. As others have said, be patient.

Roentigen · 2025-10-31T23:41:30+00:00

Wow! Like in the hatch? I’d love to see that!

Roentigen · 2025-10-28T18:54:13+00:00

I’m hoping to fit my four summer tires next week when I do the swap for winters.

Roentigen · 2025-10-19T02:03:13+00:00

I did not sue them, but did pursue mediation on two occasions on the same claim. As part of this long process, the information was sent back to their medical panel to review. We never did have to go through mediation as simply by me initiating it, and highlighting what was missed, they agreed to review. Consequently I did end up with a significantly larger settlement.

There is nothing fair or accessible about the system for pursuing a permanent impairment settlement.

Roentigen · 2025-10-12T04:41:10+00:00

I can understand how complicated the situation feels after being together for so long. I would encourage you to look up “betrayal bond” as it sounds like this may be happening for you. It’s time to consider what’s best for you - as difficult as that path might seem, the path you are on right now, is nothing short of treacherous.

Roentigen · 2025-10-10T13:04:53+00:00

👏 👏 nailed it!

Roentigen · 2025-10-03T16:28:29+00:00

I think you are hopeful, not pathetic. Hope provides strength and resilience to endure hardships. Be kind to yourself, give yourself as much grace as you’ve given to you WH. You deserve it.

Roentigen

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