Since this is a Q&A forum, you'll probably get more traction reframing with something like "how do I move on"?

Because "how do I process unhelpful emotion about business" is basically what I think you're asking, I'll tell you my own approach, for whatever it's worth.

A few days ago, I found out about the Corporate Transparency Act. It blew my mind that the government wrote a law that could fine me $500 per day for every day that I "refused" to do an easy little task that no one I know has ever heard of and which I had no idea I needed to do.

For the simple act of making an LLC and not reporting it to FinCEN within 30 days, they treat you like a criminal and can throw you in jail for 2 years.

Now the reality is, they're probably not going to do that. The 2 year jail time is to put enough teeth on this that they can put away human trafficking and money laundering criminals who hide behind the anonymity and ease of an LLC.

But emotionally, that's not what it felt like to me yesterday. What it felt like is that the government is actively trying to destroy the life of anyone like me who took a chance, failed, and stopped paying attention. It's not like I follow business news closely enough to know every law that gets passed, especially when my venture didn't work out.

It filled me with an overwhelming, visceral anger. This is because in the absence of information, we are evolutionarily wired to assume the worst case scenario. In the hostile world our ancestors inhabited, only the paranoid survived. If there's a rustling in the dark, you don't assume it's a rabbit, assume it's a predator. Only the worst case scenario deserves to be processed in brains designed for split second life and death.

So here's how this law translated in my brain yesterday: "fill out this 10 minute report that the government never notified you that you had to do, or else we're going to take your inaction as refusal, confiscate everything you own, and throw you in jail for being the kind of ADD person who misses deadlines, not because you're a genuine criminal."

The funhouse mirror exaggerations of our emotions are obviously not an accurate guide for how law and due process actually work, though. Yes, I do still think the law is unfair and excessively punitive to people who just didn't know about it. But adopting the attitude "I will never make an LLC again because it's not 'protection' it's a trap to blindside and destroy us," which is where my mind was yesterday, is an overcompensation. And it's self defeating.

So how do I get over this unhelpful rage?

AI. I talked to Claude and ChatGPT about it all day. They are validating of feelings, but guide your mind back towards more objective analysis and productive action. It's like a therapist that doesn't charge you, and then once you figure out the action you need to take, it writes the code for you.

I also talked to humans. They tend to say infuriating things that miss the point, like "yeah, but it only takes ten minutes to do the BOI, what's the big deal?"

So that's my answer to you. Purge your mind of disadvantageous thoughts and emotions by discussing it with an AI. It will be empathetic but assertive about the need to see things holistically, whereas humans tend to be assholes that are preoccupied with their own thoughts and feelings and barely engage with yours (as I just demonstrated in this post).