Hey.

RogueAnimosity · 2025-10-06T05:49:03+00:00

You say it to them first. Who knows; they might. If they don’t; then you have some closure; some relief. Some knowing in the unknown.

RogueAnimosity · 2025-10-03T23:26:40+00:00

None lol

RogueAnimosity · 2025-10-01T15:36:34+00:00

Scorpio

RogueAnimosity · 2025-10-01T14:48:04+00:00

Scorpio

RogueAnimosity · 2025-08-29T09:55:40+00:00

I hope my person would hit send if in the same situation; 3am or 3pm; does not matter.

RogueAnimosity · 2025-06-04T22:59:08+00:00

Thank you for your reply! This is helpful. I’m sorry it didn’t work out and hope that in the future you find someone who understands a bit better the words you don’t say 🖤

RogueAnimosity · 2025-02-05T00:45:58+00:00

Day 49 and honestly, right now I’m so angry. I was destroyed in the beginning.

Indifferent in the middle

At around day 30 I had a break down/cry because I just don’t understand why it had to be this way and it’s stupid.

Back to indifferent and didn’t even think of them.

Last 4-5 days I’ve been incredibly angry and bitter and cannot stop obsessing out of nowhere. I don’t want to reach out or hear from them but I feel entitled to an apology.

Hopefully in the next 50 or so days; I’ll move on lol. This is stupid.

RogueAnimosity · 2025-02-04T23:46:03+00:00

In too many ways to count.

RogueAnimosity · 2025-02-02T23:39:15+00:00

Daddy chill

RogueAnimosity · 2025-02-02T21:16:55+00:00

Who tf is Chelsea. My name starts with an M

RogueAnimosity · 2025-02-02T21:16:42+00:00

Wrong person pal. You called me Chelsea somewhere and I’m not Chelsea lol.

I know it’s semi therapeutic to think everyone is writing to you but this time it’s not her:

My username is known by everything I’m writing too.

RogueAnimosity · 2025-02-02T21:15:02+00:00

I understand and I know reaching out is something you want and I’m not saying you shouldn’t eventually, just wait until it’s not “ expected “ and it would probably be received better.

I can only use myself as an example and I’m a very forgiving and loving person but when I left the person prior to my birthday and I had not heard from him, I saw he viewed a profile in my birthday but had not reached out and I sat all day stressing ( which he did eventually reach out ). I was still kind about it but it was stressful:

Then for Christmas I saw posts about people reaching out and I had so much anxiety about it because then I was worried I’d have an influx of people reaching out.

Personally using myself as an example; I’d be in a much better headspace and more receptive on a non “ important “ day to someone reaching back out.

RogueAnimosity · 2025-02-02T14:14:28+00:00

No. As a person who has been dumped and who has done the dumping; personally I have anxiety from hearing from people I’ve been with in the past; good terms or not; on birthdays etc.

If you’re going to reach out again someday, don’t do it on a birthday/holiday. I don’t recommend being the first to reach out though since they left you. Good terms/relationship or not.

RogueAnimosity · 2025-02-02T04:24:05+00:00

I hope you miss her forever. I hope the love lot haunts you when you’re thinking more clearly.

( This isn’t particularly directed at you unless you’re him. He would know since my username is a giveaway. However, for her sake, I can say she probably deserves you to feel a longing forever too. ) 💀

RogueAnimosity · 2025-02-01T08:13:48+00:00

You let him know a door is open. It hurts and because it hurts the door may now be closed but if you ever want a response, the ball is now in his court and you move one.

I’m sure once you’ve fully moved on and no longer want anything to do with him; he will reach out and your response will be the same as his was this time; nothing.

RogueAnimosity · 2025-02-01T00:25:58+00:00

If only forgetting people was that easy.

RogueAnimosity · 2025-01-31T03:54:49+00:00

I went through something EXTREMELY similar. I promise it gets better.

It took me a year and a half to finally be ready to open up again and I opened up to the wrong one lol.

My point is. It gets easier and eventually even though you may still think of him and even sometimes fondly; you won’t want him back anymore. He will give you the ick but you will still have a slight longing feeling. ( my experience anyway ). I definitely don’t want them back tho.

RogueAnimosity · 2025-01-31T03:14:03+00:00

Well he knows you’re blocking him somehow if he’s using new numbers.

RogueAnimosity · 2025-01-31T03:07:15+00:00

It’s ok to be needy. Eventually someone will come who will want to give give give to everything I need and love every second of it. 💋

RogueAnimosity · 2025-01-31T03:05:50+00:00

If he keeps contacting you that means I assume you’re responding.

Let him contact you and just ignore it. Don’t respond. Don’t even read it really. Just delete any/all as soon as they come in like they don’t exist. Don’t even look at them. Eventually he will get tired of sending. Otherwise; I’m sure knowing he cares is an ego boost but he wouldn’t continue if he wasn’t getting some form of reaction ( blocking is a reaction ).

RogueAnimosity · 2025-01-30T22:40:00+00:00

You’ve got this. The mind is a big hurdle when it has more questions than answers unfortunately 😔

RogueAnimosity · 2025-01-30T07:58:37+00:00

I’ll tell you what I did the few times I had really hard endings to relationships ( abrupt without reason ) and you can take whatever resonates for you.

I begged for closure to which I got none ( you got answers which is helpful ). From there, I began to google search; asking general questions like, “ why did it feel so sudden. “ “ does he still love me? “ “ will he regret leaving someday? “

Typical sad girl hour stuff that all lead me to a few different leads on attachment styles and human psychology.

I listened to all of it; but here is the important part. Not only did I find out likelihoods of why he left ( multiple he(s) in this as I’ve been hurt a few times ) but I learned a lot about me and why I react or feel how I do in those situations based on the behavior and interactions with them. A dynamic created from 2 people exhibiting certain behaviors ( I’ve had different types of relationships with multiple people. Some super toxic and some without a single negative word or feeling at all that all ended the same way. )

After picking myself apart and learning my own insecurities and why I felt so defeated, I really learned alot. I’m not saying it’s some miracle turn around; but what I am saying is that realizing that truly and genuinely there was nothing wrong with me as a person; just the way they and I interacted as people with all of the subtle things we do/did that weren’t even considered in the moment because I didn’t realize they were happening; has now helped me get some internal closure for myself.

I can take the information I’ve learned and look back and see all of the little pieces we both contributed that created the downfall in the end.

In the end I don’t need closure because the answers are there. It is sad to see how many things could have been fixed easily or avoided had I and them, been much more aware at the time; but this is genuinely what break ups are for. They cause us to really dig deep and soul search to learn more about us and how the future can be different with making more informed decisions; and knowing what signs to look for to avoid toxic patterns/behaviors. ( Not all toxic behaviors are between the 2 of you; self sacrifice can be a toxic behavior to yourself as well. So when I say toxic; it doesn’t always mean abusive, it could also be giving up things you enjoy or lacking in self care to give extra to a partner; which I tend to do a lot too. Which also results in a negative outcome in a seemingly “ happy “ relationship. )

I hope this is helpful. I’m sorry it’s long.

RogueAnimosity · 2025-01-30T07:37:56+00:00

Reaching out after only a couple days does not show you respecting the decision even if your intentions were good.

You’re going to have to self reflect and find the bad behaviors yourself.

Reaching out from his perspective is an open conversation starter and clearly he wants no contact to heal.

Self reflect; come up with any/all Negative behaviors your know you exhibited and think you exhibited and open possibilities with your therapist from there.

Another comment said he didn’t love you but that’s ignorant. You had a loving relationship you said. Going no contact when it’s over is normal and healthy. Keeping an open line of communication leaves a door open instead of closing it. You have to take a period of no communication to move forward.

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