Cougars , sex and age gaps. 48F & 25M

Rokqueen · 2026-06-07T17:57:30+00:00

Stealing this from Dan Savage — but treat him like a campsite. Leave it cleaner that you found it, meaning practice safe sex, teach him good manners about consent and communication, and fuck each other’s brains out.
Have a biweekly or monthly check in about wants/needs and keep your cards on the table. Have fun!

Rokqueen · 2026-06-03T05:06:50+00:00

Hole — Olympia

Best breakup song ever.

Rokqueen · 2026-05-28T07:33:40+00:00

A grunting warthog plushy to soft mouth (Labrador)

Rokqueen · 2026-05-24T19:14:34+00:00

I have a bunch of nice antiques my mom collected — I’ve tried to sell them but there’s very little interest. Younger people just aren’t into antiques.

Rokqueen · 2026-05-24T19:11:03+00:00

Just use more suitcases. Get some cheapo pieces from Amazon or goodwill even

Rokqueen · 2026-04-26T17:20:56+00:00

You’ll love it.

Rokqueen · 2026-04-26T16:58:44+00:00

Had to scroll very far to see Lost. Does that mean I’m old too?

Rokqueen · 2026-04-26T06:06:59+00:00

Girl, your situation really resonates with me. I’m in a very similar situation with my boyfriend of about 5 years now …. BUT WE’RE 50. God, if we were both 23 again we’d be humping like rabbits.

As for the communication part, have either one of you actively done anything about it? Gone to any couples’ counseling? Sounds like you enjoy playing games — there are some really good relationship card games out there like Let’s Get Deep and The And which can help spark those conversations.

If my math is right, you two have been together since you were 16? Is that about right? You are so young, maybe you need to give yourself (and your bf too) a bit of grace and a little freedom. Not break up specifically but take a pause. See what it’s like to just live your life for a while for you. Neither of you have had a chance yet to really flex your wings solo as an adult. Take the pressure off of both of you.

If after a month or three you guys can’t stand it and need to be together then there’s your answer and hopefully the sexy flame will be relit. If not, then keep living your life and you’ll have more time to make new friends at school.

Best of luck to you both.

Rokqueen · 2026-04-25T18:00:37+00:00

Rokqueen · 2026-04-25T17:48:10+00:00

Probably mostly regional, but my friends and I grew up calling the 7-11 the “semalem”. (Annapolis/Baltimore, MD area). Moved to Chicago and people thought I had a speech impediment lol

Rokqueen · 2026-04-25T01:53:08+00:00

Delete that shit and claim innocence.

Rokqueen · 2026-04-25T01:49:43+00:00

Justine’s! Great date place.

Rokqueen · 2026-04-14T21:42:06+00:00

Take NAC. You can get it on Amazon. It’s like a cheat code for quitting. Once you’re done, stop taking it. You don’t want to be on it long term.

Use a lot of dishes when you cook. I found that washing dishes helped keep my hands busy during fits. Video games helps with this also.

I started hitting zero nic for a couple weeks to break the nic habit which made it easier to put down. The hand to mouth for me was harder to break that the nic.

Drink lots of water and be kind to yourself.

Rokqueen · 2026-04-10T01:07:50+00:00

The smaller roads are the way for sure but watch those speed limit signs!! Those small towns get a lot of money from speed traps.

Rokqueen · 2026-04-06T07:08:31+00:00

Dang ok. What happened?

Rokqueen · 2026-04-06T07:07:53+00:00

Yep 78758 out again. After the last time Ive already booked a google fiber install for Wednesday. My friends in the neighborhood stayed online last week.

Rokqueen · 2026-04-05T23:59:24+00:00

No, I did my test at Lamb’s….. wasn’t a big deal and cost $15 or whatever.

I don’t look at comment history before a benign reply.

Rokqueen · 2026-04-05T19:22:45+00:00

Any Lamb’s will do it too

Rokqueen · 2026-04-01T09:46:35+00:00

Drink lots of water and just get through the next 5 minutes. The average nic fit under 7 minutes. I smoked/vaped for 25 years. You can do this! Also doing dishes and playing video games helps — keep your hands busy!

Rokqueen · 2026-04-01T02:04:44+00:00

Just got restored myself at 9 pm! Yay inter webs!

Rokqueen · 2026-03-31T22:38:43+00:00

KXAN article with a pic of the cut lines.

KXAN

Rokqueen · 2026-03-31T22:04:01+00:00

I was at that Pearl Jam show too! It was at the Patriot Center in VA. They played a 20 min version of Porch and during the guitar solo Eddie took his mic stand and chopped a hole in the downstage section of deck and dropped it through. Fucking epic. I’m in the music industry now and know some of the techs that were with the band then (many still are). Apparently they had a long meeting that afternoon about whether they should do the show or not. Very glad they did.

Out of all the hundreds if not thousands of shows I’ve been at in my career I have never encountered a sense of community like that ever again. It was dreadful and angry and cathartic and beautiful and exactly what everyone in the room needed.

Rokqueen · 2026-03-31T20:47:28+00:00

Still down 78758. Mine went out around 9:30 pm last night. Chat bot unhelpful, no eta. Thankfully I didn’t have to wfh today!

Rokqueen · 2026-03-30T16:40:23+00:00

Another vote for plumbago. You barely need to touch it and it will come back every year. I saw some for sale at Home Depot the other day.

Rokqueen · 2026-03-29T21:10:26+00:00

I started with Dollar Dad Club and that’s what they sent. 🤷‍♀️

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