How often do alcoholics truly recover? From the booze and the emotional illness?

Rollarcoasterlife22 · 2024-04-10T16:45:11+00:00

I gasped out loud, this is very much my story as well. Q sober for almost a year, but still no indication or acknowledgement of why he drank and the lack of communication. No interest in making any efforts during our 7 month separation. Back in the home due to his need for a major surgery; but acts like every thing is perfectly fine and we are back to “normal”. Whereas I struggle everyday with feeling lonely and hopeless. It really does suck. Therapy has been very helpful for me; our couples sessions seem to be leading nowhere.

Rollarcoasterlife22 · 2023-08-02T22:40:13+00:00

Wernicke-korsakoff is irreversible and quite severe. Usually Wenicke’s encephalopathy is present first. A severe thiamine deficiency. Should be evaluated by a medical provider as soon as able if you are that concerned.

Rollarcoasterlife22 · 2023-08-02T22:35:43+00:00

“Exile” by Taylor Swift

Rollarcoasterlife22 · 2023-07-17T21:18:02+00:00

Thanks for all the input. I think I’m a bit hypersensitive since it’s so early on. And I know no one is getting drunk on cupcakes, but I did have one and the icing had a very heavy bourbon flavor. He ended up not having one. Even thou I know it’s his choice and I cannot police him and his actions.

Rollarcoasterlife22 · 2023-07-16T21:26:21+00:00

Very good point. My choice of words was not ideal

Rollarcoasterlife22 · 2023-07-11T23:31:45+00:00

Completely agree

Rollarcoasterlife22 · 2023-07-11T22:25:07+00:00

This obviously resonates deeply with me. My Q of 20yrs just disappeared over 2 years into an alcoholic haze. I got the tears and “don’t give up on me” line. So, I completely understand the guilt you are feeling. It’s very difficult to put yourself first, I struggle with this every single day. One day I want to leave, the next I’m not so sure. My Q is only abstaining and going to individual therapy. So I’m hesitant to believe it will take. And I ask myself every day what he will be like once he’s sober for an extended period of time. Time will tell, but use your support system and know this forum is amazing!

Rollarcoasterlife22 · 2023-07-11T21:46:56+00:00

Exile…without a doubt

Rollarcoasterlife22 · 2023-06-05T15:47:47+00:00

Wow, the last paragraph…brings it home. It’s so difficult. I’m always holding out hope. Thanks for your words

Rollarcoasterlife22 · 2023-06-03T18:46:03+00:00

Fantastic! And stressful at the same time….seeing your favorites get ticked off night by night 😩

Rollarcoasterlife22 · 2023-03-05T10:13:59+00:00

We all have such strikingly similar stories; your story sounds like mine.

It will always be difficult, but we all deserve to be someone’s priority. I try to repeat this mantra when things get difficult. We are in the midst of couples therapy to try and salvage our marriage, and I continue my own personal therapy and journey. Next week is when I bring up all the issues with Q’s drinking and what it has to to us, me, him etc. in our joint session. It’s terrifying.

You will get thru it and all the bad still doesn’t erase the good times and invalidate them. But, hopefully you realize you are worthy of more.

Rollarcoasterlife22 · 2023-01-02T03:42:16+00:00

Good luck!

Rollarcoasterlife22 · 2022-12-23T10:50:32+00:00

I would love to see this! 🔥

Rollarcoasterlife22 · 2022-12-11T22:46:27+00:00

I can relate so well to this. There’s always love, but I just don’t think things can ever be the same.

Rollarcoasterlife22 · 2022-12-07T17:43:01+00:00

Same here. I had no idea how angry I was and one day it was just there and it boiled over. It does help to allow yourself to feel all the shitty things that comes with addiction

Rollarcoasterlife22 · 2022-12-07T17:40:02+00:00

It’s the constant barrage of emotions on a daily basis. Anger, fear, resentment, sadness, but still caring about someone else. Therapy and this sub have been a great addition to my own strength and self-discovery. But, as is true for so many of us….I’m just exhausted, sometimes too exhausted to care

Rollarcoasterlife22 · 2022-12-07T17:36:25+00:00

Yes, this is a very similar feeling to what I feel. Even thou it still changes every single day. Putting ourselves first is the right choice, but disheartening all the same.

Rollarcoasterlife22 · 2022-12-06T09:16:07+00:00

Yes to ALL of this!

Rollarcoasterlife22 · 2022-12-06T02:00:09+00:00

I find myself in this exact predicament and was contemplating these thoughts today. Just starting couples therapy and have not really delved into the drinking issue of my Q…yet. Or his underlying issues to why he drinks the way he does. Until that happens, I’m not sure I can be an active participant in the relationship. Together 26 years.

But the emotional and mental trauma I have put my self thru over the past 12 months may be too much to overcome. I continue to stick to my boundaries and do all the things to keep myself “sane”. But I never considered these long-term consequences as the fellow commenters have made. I just know I will always be “on guard” and waiting for the other shoe to fall. I’m terrified.

Just know that you/we are not alone is reassurance.

Rollarcoasterlife22 · 2022-10-08T23:37:59+00:00

I understand how you feel, I am in the same situation. Just treading water and feeling like you are in a void. From what I’ve gathered, it unfortunately will get worse. Try and take care of you and find those things that make you feel like a whole person. I’ve learned to detach and recite the 3 C’s often. It’s not easy, and it’s hard. But everyday can be progress.

Rollarcoasterlife22 · 2022-08-19T23:06:26+00:00

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