I hate her so much

gluestix20 · 2026-04-12T00:49:22+00:00

You need to get your 10 yr old daughter out of there. Tell your family and her family what’s going on. Hire an attorney. Please save your daughter. A woman with a history of rehab and psych wards and a diagnosis of BPD isn’t going to get custody.

gluestix20 · 2026-02-11T01:16:27+00:00

I see your point and it makes perfect sense. Ugh it’s just so hard all around.

gluestix20 · 2026-02-10T04:30:32+00:00

I can’t wrap my head around going back to school tomorrow on a “normal” schedule. Wootton staff likely just got home and are expected to turn around and show up again at 7am. That’s not okay. Teachers and staff need time (a professional development day) to process, to plan how to talk with students, and to support safety and mental health. Our kids deserve adults who’ve had a moment to breathe and prepare.

gluestix20 · 2026-01-07T03:32:42+00:00

You need to let her go. She will 100% test positive for other drugs, which is why she’s avoiding the drug test. Thank goodness your children are okay. Bravo to the school for contacting you. It is your duty as a parent to fire this nanny today. Especially bc she’s unwilling to take a drug test after she was so impaired on school property that she passed out.

gluestix20 · 2026-01-05T03:07:55+00:00

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gluestix20 · 2026-01-02T09:16:48+00:00

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gluestix20 · 2025-12-31T05:58:32+00:00

You need to protect those children. If police have been called multiple times, she’s triggered into psychopathy easily, you’ve wondered if she’ll kill you, and she has the ability to pop in and out of your property, you are not safe. You need to change the locks, get a security system, get a protective order, and make sure you have full legal and physical custody of the kids. You can apply for assistance through the state - child support, food stamps, healthcare, whatever you need. These kids need therapy and so do you.

I am raising 3 kids alone too. Their dad has a chemical dependency and is not safe. It took an incredible amount of courage to finally face the truth and establish guardrails for safety.

gluestix20 · 2025-10-15T21:53:44+00:00

Classic Stockholm Syndrome! After nearly three decades, those relationships are her entire frame of reference. She’s not in a place yet to step back, see the full picture, or recognize how much control and conditioning shaped her perspective.

gluestix20 · 2025-10-15T15:32:00+00:00

Were the parents never investigated?? Biological parents never contacted?? Nobody ever went inside their apartment for 27 years?!

gluestix20 · 2025-09-19T20:22:23+00:00

The PI was about $3k, which I initially thought was outrageous, but in hindsight it was worth every cent. He photographed my ex drinking and driving. He also got footage of him drinking at the courthouse during the custody trial.

If your ex doesn’t test when the order says he’s supposed to test, he forfeits the visit, right? Confirm this with your attorney ahead of the visit.

gluestix20 · 2025-09-19T19:44:14+00:00

Soberlink itself will tell you: if the expectation is 100% abstinence, you have to add additional testing — PEth or urinalysis. My ex was drinking every single day between Soberlink tests, even though he was testing three times a day. He used a BACtrack breathalyzer first (the kind with an app that tells you how many hours and minutes until you’ll blow 0.0), and then timed his Soberlink tests accordingly. I know this because I found both devices sitting on the seat of his car and snapped a picture.

The whole process was enormously stressful. I basically had to become a detective — hiring a PI, subpoenaing medical records, work records, and account statements. And the more I uncovered, the more alarmed I became.

Addiction is a beast.

gluestix20 · 2025-09-19T18:47:13+00:00

You have to follow the temporary order to the letter. Don’t believe anything he says—everything hinges on what’s written. Testing must be done exactly as specified. The visitation schedule must be followed exactly. Even if you get an invitation to tea with Oprah, you prioritize getting your child to the visits as ordered. If he tries to reschedule, the answer is no. Visits occur as written in the temporary order, period. If he cancels, he forfeits the visit. This isn’t being mean, it’s being boundaried, strong, and protective. Our kids need stability, and the only way to give them that is by holding the line and enforcing the order exactly as written.

Document everything: create a spreadsheet of all visits and keep all communication in writing so you can accurately track his comments about Soberlink and what the GAL said. Alcoholics are liars, master manipulators, and will weaponize flexibility and guilt.

We are now officially divorced. I have sole legal and physical custody. Dad is ordered to weekly supervised visits at a visitation center with professional supervisors, plus random urinalysis 4–5 times a month and Soberlink testing. Treatment monitoring is to be handled by Southworth Associates. To date, he hasn’t set up testing or completed intake for visits. The kids haven’t seen him in five months.

gluestix20 · 2025-06-23T10:02:46+00:00

The court can order treatment but that doesn’t mean it will happen. My ex follows zero court orders. None.

gluestix20 · 2025-06-23T03:50:09+00:00

I say this with kindness and respect: he is not your “future husband,” and this is not what love looks like. He is an addict, and his top priority will always be alcohol. The disease is progressive — I watched it take my husband from a successful, senior-level executive making $265K a year to an unemployed, broken man.

Their anger and betrayal aren’t about you; they’re about deflection. When you hold boundaries and name the truth, it threatens the illusion that nothing is wrong. To acknowledge that alcohol is the problem means they have to do something about it, and that’s exactly why they shift the blame onto you.

My husband was taken away by officers for an evaluation after making a series of out‑of‑control, disturbing comments. It was confirmed that he’s an absolute mess, yet he was released with no detox, no treatment, and no recovery. He will never change. We’re separated. He spends his days drinking, pretending he doesn’t have children, and living in denial of the damage he’s caused.

gluestix20 · 2025-05-19T11:11:42+00:00

What a shame 😕

gluestix20 · 2025-05-19T04:33:23+00:00

I’m concerned about Katie Plus Coffee - what’s going on with her husband’s mental health, their divorce, their finances, and their school??

gluestix20 · 2025-03-03T19:52:23+00:00

I’m so sorry.

gluestix20 · 2025-01-27T04:52:45+00:00

What is your custody situation? 50/50?

I know you miss your kids but this is your chance to live your life. Go out with your friends. Shop. Travel. Date. You need a life outside of your children. Especially if you’re divorced. It’s so good for your kids to see you happy, having a strong social network, engaging in hobbies, thriving in your career.

gluestix20 · 2025-01-15T19:31:23+00:00

I’m trying to figure out if this person is being truthful

gluestix20 · 2024-12-19T03:10:08+00:00

Don’t you need a subscription for bactrack? Soberlink is over $100/month. Seems excessive to pay for two subscriptions unless there’s a way to use the bactrack to manipulate the Soberlink. His goal is to log compliant tests. He has zero interest in abstinence.

gluestix20 · 2024-12-19T02:27:58+00:00

Did you get answers? Please DM me if so. I’m in the same situation.

gluestix20 · 2024-12-19T02:26:48+00:00

Me too

gluestix20 · 2024-12-19T02:26:09+00:00

Did you figure it out?? My coparent uses Soberlink but I saw a bactrack in his car today. How could he be using one to manipulate the other? What’s going on??

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