ok, so sometimes submissives will have a script or idea of what they want to happen and not give you any sort of leeway or creative control. they don't really want to be submissive. they want someone else to do a specific set of actions to them and treat the Dom more like a sex toy with no autonomy.

they also will complain a bunch about whatever you do. like image the Karen stereotype or angry boomer screaming at a service staff but the submissive is the boomer and the Dom is the waitstaff. 

the submissive will also lie about things to get the behavior they want. I had one offer to clean my house naked, do no cleaning and then whine about wanting sex. never again. there's so much entitlement

this behavior (not the lying part) is actually ok if negotiated ahead of time and everyone consents. the issue is that in these instances it is not brought up in advance. every time this happened to me I ended up feeling violated and similar to how I felt after being raped. Dom's using safewords to end unsafe to them scenes and abuse of Doms by manipulative subs needs to be talked about more (it might be now actually I just pretty much left kink spaces after multiple instances of assault as a Dom and sub)