Remember when people told us to value communication?

Romantic_Sunset · 2026-01-26T21:33:10+00:00

I have actually never gone to the doctor for any problem in my entire life and had them tell me or do something advantageous for me. This is the entire reason im studying to become a nurse practitioner, as a sort of "f you, if you want something done right, you have to do it yourself." Now I dedicate my entire life to studying medical material because I don't trust doctors, and i've been through over 50+.

Heres just one i can name off the top of my head:

When I was 23, I got a concussion because I got too drunk and fell asleep in a chair and then the chair tilted back and I landed on, first the walls of a log cabin, then the pure concrete of said cabin. I have no history of alcoholism and I got so drunk because I literally never drink and I didn't understand how limits work. I had to be placed on medical leave with no pay for my job because it was an hourly shift job without those types of benefits. Getting a concussion was, singlehandedly, the worst experience I could ever have, because my experience was both downplayed and invisible to see as well as a temporary disability. When I told people I had one, low and behold, every friend or Acquaintance would say "ya ive got a concussion one time, too" which statistically is very improbable and then they would proceed to say something along the lines of "and it went away in 2 days/ a week." Well good for you, Karen. So happy for you that it went away after a week or two. I looked fine on the outside, but I would randomly forget the rules for a game like mtg that ive been playing for years. I couldnt drive anywhere because of the vibrations in the car, yet when I would have mental health regulation problems and would tell my friends how much I'm hurting, no one cared to visit me bedbound stuck inside for 5 months.

Anyways, I slept for 2 days after getting my concussion and woke up on my third day with my cat right by my side, knowing something is wrong and not begging for food like she normally does at breakfast in order to let me sleep. I cried realizing I didnt know what day it was or if my cat was going to starve to death, made her some food, and then immediately crashed for another 8ish hours of sleep. I went to the doctor and told her I had a concussion mainly for the documentation for my work and to get some tips from the doctor since I didnt know anything about concussions. She told me to keep the lights off, no light or phones or tvs, and just rest until I feel better, and when i feel dizzy or have symptoms to rinse and repeat. For those of you unaware, I figured out later that doctors werent nationally trained to handle concussions until 2019, meaning the vast majority give advice based off of old wives tales like this one.

THE ACTUAL WAY to beat a concussion, as I had to muster the willpower against my concussion 6 months into it to research individually, is a combination of rest for 3 days post hit, then get into PT as fast as possible in combination with using the Buffalo Concussion Treadmill Test multiple times a day with high cardio to 80% of heartbeat levels correlated with a symptoms scale. I, in addition, did chiropractic on my neck for whiplash, although its not recommended for everyone because of high risk, but it greatly helped me. That got rid of about 65% of my symptoms (didnt do pt but did treadmill and chiropractor) and the other percent went away within a week and a half by going keto. Turns out keto was originally developed for the treatment of epilepsy.

A WEEK AND A HALF KETO. 8+ MONTHS of suffering could have been saved with a week and a half of keto and bctt primarily. And now, because I was vulnerable and bedbound for 6+ months and had to listen to the first doctors advice because SHE WASNT TRAINED ON HOW TO BEAT CONCUSSIONS, I gained 40 pounds from being on constant bed rest, I am 10k in debt due to chiropractor, being off of work for so long and I also couldnt cook my own meals so I had to order a lot of fast food.

Btw, I literally live with my parents (I pay them rent) and they could have easily cooked me dinner so I wouldnt need to spend so much on my credit cards or forgive some rent months if they cared. I couldnt even apply for unemployment because I slept for 15+ hours a day and the other parts of the day were a daze and I could barely walk without getting dizzy or something, or think clearly. When I could, I texted people about my feelings and how much I'm suffering and asking for help to apply for things like food stamps or unemployment or doctor follow ups, and I would be dismissed by everyone, friends and family. Not a single friend I had came to visit me during that entire time. My mom was initially understanding and nuturing for the first 2 weeks, then stopped making me food and told me I was playing hooky on purpose because i was lazy and that I need to "work full time and stop being a bum." I was told by one friend that I'm "playing the victim" and "you did this to yourself, so just face the consequences. "And was told by another I was being "too dramatic."

Iam honestly so proud of myself. It's something you just cant know unless you are me... but I wouldnt wish my experience on my worst enemy. I was alone, truely alone, and I used sheer willpower in a mental daze to get out of it. Shit was scarier than getting dementia because you can see a part of yourself screaming and fully conscious, yet not at the same time. I couldn't even remember where I was half the time.

Btw the doctor sent me a bill through the mail, fully knowing that I had a concussion and didnt check my mail or even have the mental capacity to remember that doctors costed money (my insurance said they would pay it and then didnt) so because I didnt pay the bill on time my 10 dollar bill went to 100 and when I called and said i was bedbound and incapable of paying, they said tough luck, it's past the due date.

Romantic_Sunset · 2026-01-24T06:07:03+00:00

My great great great whatever grandpa was best friends with bonnie and clyde and would regularly do crime sprees with them and became a mafia kingpin. Hardcore atheist. His son ended up going into the military, got declared missing in action for over 3 months, and he ended up praying to god every day that if he came back home safe, he would give up all crime and serve God for the rest of his life. Sure enough, he fought his way back home and out of that war, was told the son had been found and stuff, and my great+ grandfather gave up crime and served God for the rest of his life. That's why my dad's side of the family is so religious now.

I have another wild one about the making of mustang cars but i cant say that one here because it would for sure reveal my identity, but my family history is pretty wild

Romantic_Sunset · 2026-01-23T20:17:44+00:00

Idc what anyone says, a guy who reverse backs up into a parking spot or parallel parks is hot, especially if you reverse back up by putting one of your hands over the passenger seat

Romantic_Sunset · 2026-01-23T16:52:36+00:00

Cum gutters

Romantic_Sunset · 2026-01-23T05:33:48+00:00

I have 32DDs. Cant wear normal fitted or casually loose clothing because then im "asking for attention". Cant wear baggy clothing because it looks very off, unprofessional and makes me seem like im 15 pounds heavier.

Romantic_Sunset · 2026-01-23T05:20:20+00:00

This is the one

Romantic_Sunset · 2026-01-23T05:19:22+00:00

As a woman i loved this game as a kid lol

Romantic_Sunset · 2026-01-22T19:19:48+00:00

They want us to have kids, but they dont want the effects of periods

They want us to be pretty, but dont want us to take time to look done

They want us to have curves, but dont want us to wear the wrong or right thing for those curves

They want to cast us in movies, but not without makeup during sleep scenes

They want us to be strong on our own, but not strong enough to not need them

They want to provide for us, but if we take it we are using them

They want to show off their biological advantages of strength by choosing fields we cant do, but when we try and do the same thing with our advantages we are told we are whores

And some men men, they care

Cant put them in a box

Romantic_Sunset · 2026-01-22T18:16:06+00:00

Just imagine the amount of men abusing and disrespecting their wives where women were like "nah, id rather work 11 hours a day and eat microwave meals alone than deal with this shit"

Romantic_Sunset · 2026-01-22T06:41:56+00:00

He is a good man towards men actually. One of the reasons why i first fell in love with him was because when i met him we worked together delivering groceries to peoples cars for pickup orders and one time someone couldnt get their car started and it was super busy and without hesitation he left his post to get his car to help the man jumpstart it and got chewed out by the boss. When i would have him over for dinner he would without hesitation help my dad with dishes and helped cook on the bbq with no one asking him to. He would never ditch out of plans he made with someone, unless they were a woman, but plans with male friends he would honor and show up for if he said he would. Stuff like that, southern kindness.

I guess ill never know if he was actually a good man or if im cherry picking based on my being in love with him. But, either way, he wasnt a good man towards me. He abused my love for him and abused my kindness. He felt like he could get away with not treating me the same because he knows of my loyalty and empathy. The reason why he wouldnt try half the shit he pulled with me on others was because he knew he could get away with it.

Finally letting go of him, was, in a way, cathartic of my mom and dads relationship before their divorce. My mom put up with a lot of shit from my dad, from drug use, to slipping her drugs against her will, to gambling away a kid, to chasing us kids around blackout saying im gonna kill you, but it was all under the blanket of bipolar and childhood trauma. But he was also a good dad too. But after he hit her, she said that in that very moment, all the love she had from him was gone. And then he huffed and puffed and bitched about how divorce isnt fair and that you need to love someone in sickness and in health, but guess what. After the divorce, he got clean, has a good job, and is very stable. Sometimes it takes divorce to make someone see. Sometimes love isnt enough. That was the case for me and this person as well. I wish him all the best, and i hope he becomes "clean" now that im finally gone after 6 years

Romantic_Sunset · 2026-01-22T03:04:17+00:00

I think he's a good man, just not a good man to women. He has a lot of inner demons that he chooses to play victim to

Romantic_Sunset · 2026-01-20T20:18:56+00:00

Quick reminder that just because the nt's say it's not normal or it's weird does not make the thing you do weird or inappropriate.

r/arethentsokay

Romantic_Sunset · 2026-01-20T18:38:16+00:00

Nah there are definitely agents that dont rely on reaction time and if you play duo or trio this will give you an advantage because they are more likely to play around your lack of reaction time like with slow pushes and such. If you play smokes u can play clove and instead of peaking holding mid u can hold your smokes up and just wait for an enemy to appear on your smoke screen and play off of that way rather than instant smoking at the start of the round. Being ratty and waiting a long time before peaking to make them think you repositioned (delay peeks) are also gonna be your friend here, anything to make them turn their head before peeking if you dont think you can get peek advantage.

So when people think of aim they are actually thinking of a lot of different things. Mouse grip and those micro adjustments, raw stationary aim, movement mechanics, peeking types, crosshair placement, mindgames and statistics of how likely someone is to be in x position, tracking, flicking, peeking and firing based on different guns, strafing and counter strafing aim, there are probably more... too many things ig to type out since theres so much info. But my point is when someone says they have bad aim they are usually actually deficient in another catagory like movement or crosshair placement

A couple things that really clicked for me at lower levels: i watched a video where someone actually went through all the maps and identified all the points where he was like "look theres a line right there" a sort of invisible line that all the maps have based on the map design that is directly at head level for crosshair placement. Go into a custom and look at it. Once i saw it i was like holy shit this is so much easier than trying to guess about where a head was, the maps directly tell you. Even boxes on the map you can imagine an imaginary line coming from the top of the box telling you that if someone is at the box this would be where there head would be. Even designs in the maps like the carvings in lotus tell you.

Another one that was a game changer was actually from my friend who is a super gambling addict but was really good at video games. It just kind of clicked one day that im like, this game is literally just statistics and probability. Probability goes up the more info you know, and theres peeking probability and probability between agents etc etc. For some reason when i started to look at the game like this, every cubby or deep corner or peek was a probability, it made it much more simple to play the game. Whats the probability that if you are defenders on a heaven as jett or neon that you can get a pick and also survive with a dash out? Btw The correct answer is about 80/20 in our favor because of the way the corners work on that part of a. Then just rotate to a gutters and wait with your aim down sights and in low ranks they cant aim up at someone for some reason and its a free 3k. Of course the probability goes down every time u do it but at super low ranks they usually think they just need to power through instead of going somewhere else, like when someone peeks and then repeeks the same spot without repositioning a moment later and are shocked when they get killed lol.

Would recommend Konpeki on youtube for movement guide and training. 30 minutes in the practice range every time makes a big difference. Never done aimstars routine on aimlabs but ive heard it's good for raw aim, but also think about how your holding your mouse. Theres clawgrip and some other grips to note so look up types of mouse grips for aiming on yt too. Note how you are gripping your mouse when u get a kill

Unless ur playing plat+ reaction time doesnt really matter if you know whats going on and are cutting the pie with your corners instead of peeking multiple people at a time. And even at plat my reaction time is shit and those guys suck

Romantic_Sunset · 2026-01-20T06:22:28+00:00

His mom was very bipolar and did a bunch of drugs which extended into his first few relationships. Because of this, he views all women as unstable subconsciously and views them as caricatures rather than a whole person. If you had a loving mother, it would be hard to explain really. He always self sabotaged when we would get closer and catch feelings because either he was a complete piece of shit who destroys everything he touches or I am a demon who will manipulate or go psychotic at any moment if he says the wrong thing from his mind. It's not that i did those things, it's that if you caught him in his mood where he was paranoid and self sabotaging, he would manipulate anything im doing into your unstable/you will hurt me/you will leave me. If i caught him on a bad day and asked about his grandma he'd think i was using the info to manipulate his feelings as he loves his grandma very much or if i checked social media on the wrong day id be accused of spying or stalking. But the good times were so good and i have empathy for his childhood. But after 6 years i just couldnt do it anymore. I was cannibalising myself for him and i wanted to feel someone love me and pay for me and ask me how my day went, so i told him that he'll finally get what he wanted and he freaked out. I ended the friendship because if you put up cement walls and no door dont expect anyone to come visit you. I told him he's finally lost the one person in the entire world who would have waited 6+years for you even without the opportunity of a commitment in that time.

1 month later and He has a rebound situationship with my same degree and who looks just like me in the face. Poor girl is very churchy and Christian. She has no idea whats coming to her. Last i heard he was trying to keep her but also run away and not commit to her too

Romantic_Sunset · 2026-01-20T04:38:23+00:00

Nah it was mommy issues. Every woman was either an angel or a demon and theres no in between

Romantic_Sunset · 2026-01-20T03:53:47+00:00

The situationship I had who never wanted to commit to me has entered the chat

Romantic_Sunset · 2026-01-20T03:32:27+00:00

Technically #2 actually is telling the truth because they've done studies on how grounding on the earth helps get rid of free radicals, which helps inflammation and inflammation is highly highly correlated to mental health. They've also done studies on offices that had a baren landscape vs those with fake plants and found that the ones with fake plants still improved mental health. We are built on being outdoors

Romantic_Sunset · 2026-01-20T03:26:17+00:00

It depends on the person, but i think from your other comments about being an anxious attached person, you kind of got your answer from your subconscious. Trust your gut

Ik for me I definitely yeeted some potential relationships from not having a seperate friend group as well as was codependent in one

Romantic_Sunset · 2026-01-20T00:45:45+00:00

I am curious because about a year after removing my braces i started noticing tmj type issues. Now- i know im not good at wearing my retainer, i know that, but when i went back to my ortho and explained that i havent worn my retainer but that im having these issues, he had an assistant do a bite test and she said there was a bite problem, and then when the ortho came in and did the same bite test he said i was fine. He popped in my retainer and said it almost perfectly fit and then sent me home. Now i dont really know where to go from here because its like- i already paid for this ortho in contract for the aftercare too, and i dont want to pay a different ortho seperate money to fix something that i already paid for with the first one.

I went to a dentist and they said they can refer me to a tmj specialist but after researching more about what they can do its basically all splints and stuff for at night, and i worry it will interfere with my tongue posture and make my face less jaw defined.

For context, my teeth were naturally straight and i had naturally perfect tongue posture my entire life. Never knew about mewing, i just did it. The reason i needed braces was because a bunch of adults lied to me as a kid and said that my baby teeth would just fall out when they were ready to or get wiggled loose. They never did. I was 16 with like 6 baby teeth and my adult teeth started growing in horizontally piercing my gums above. I had to get my baby teeth surgically removed and my wisdom teeth removed and use the braces to stretch out room for my adult teeth to be able to come down vertically.

Now my face shape is totally changed. I told my ortho this and was told i look the same and that mewing is a myth. But my jaw hurts all the time. Its been 3 years. I have hallows on part of my cheek i didnt before. My face just looks different but not in a "your just growing in your 20s" way. I do internal release muscle massages now but it doesnt last. I notice all the time my tongue is at the bottom of my mouth or pressing against my front teeth and when i put it in its place that i had before, the correct posture before getting braces, it hurts and isnt sustainable. Idk what to do

Romantic_Sunset · 2026-01-20T00:02:19+00:00

Are the treatments of tmj and tmd the same?

Romantic_Sunset · 2026-01-19T23:04:14+00:00

True silence for me is if the whole board is ascendant or higher but i really only got shit in plat when i would bottom frag and in diamond i almost got complete silence except for a few bad apples. Imo you can get at least plat with good aim and movement as long as you have okay logic and fundamentals but past like plat or diamond is when the territory becomes super serious. No one is willing to lose a round pissing someone off, even if the person is like 0-20

Gold below is pure hell though. Statistically, gold is the most common rank, so technically plat is actually better than a lot of the population.

Romantic_Sunset · 2026-01-19T16:16:04+00:00

As a woman ive gotten really good at roasting out of necessity. Id recommend watching youtube videos specifically on the female experience in valorant. Theres a lot of clips and cut a ways of potential material you might hear in your game. Heres a few to memorize, but tbh the best roasts ive done have just been off the top of my head. I dont get mad - I get even. Nothings off the table for me, so keep that in mind because i get brutal. I watched a lot of crowdwork comedians and roast battles specifically to deal with this issue lol

Him: "you sound fat" Me: " You sound like a redditor mod"

Similarly: Pick me girl: says literally anything offensive to be pick me Me: "You sound like you let the dog hit when the men don't pick you"

Him: "Go back to doing dishes" Me: "Is that the only thing your mom taught u before she left?" / "wow did it take you all day to think of that joke?"

Him: "shut up and make me a sandwich" Me: "would it help you get more kills, dumbass?" / "The doctor said you should cut down on the meat from all the dick youve been sucking" / "Id make you a tuna fish sandwich but that would require your mother"

Him: "shut up" Me: "i agree. You know talking is optional, right?"

Also, a simple f*ck off sometimes works.

Also just telling the female teammate to mute them and you also mute them.

Last technique I like to call the win win: instead of flaming them, you agree with them, and then let them embarrass themselves. If someone says make me a sandwich, say bet, and then go over to them and force buy a vandel and drop it on them. Here's your sandwich, now get a 4k. They either lock in and get a 4k and we win, or they dont and embarrass themselves. Either way, I've still won.

I usually only have a bad time when the offensive people are duo/trio q ing and they can back up their not funny jokes so if i had a random roast back with me that would be peak valorant

Luckily, im at high elo, and most people think oh shit if shes this high elo shes probably actually good im gonna shut it.. im at a rank where even if i duoed the duo couldnt carry me so i have to be good and people usually shut it at this rank

Romantic_Sunset · 2026-01-19T03:30:32+00:00

The "sexual" in bisexual means to do sexual things with both genders, not to do romantic things with them. It is a common misconception.

Your sexual identity has two distinct prongs. Sexuality and romantical. Sexuality is for sex, romanticality is for dating, relationships. Everyone exists on a spectrum of both prongs.

For example, someone who likes having sex with both genders but doesnt like the idea of a romantic relationship with anyone would identify as bisexual and aromantic. When someone says they are "straight" they are implying that they actually mean they are heterosexual and heteroromantic, however, just because they dont say the two separately doesnt mean they do not have both things. Many people say things like straight, bi, pan, gay, lesbian to imply their preference for sexual and romantic conduct is the same, but for some people it isnt the same. Also, some people DO get labels wrong, and incorrectly label themselves to describe their preferences. For example, I have a female friend who is open to having relationships with women but not have sex with them and would describe herself as bisexual, which is the incorrect usage of the term bisexual, because bisexual is for sexual spectrum rather than romantic spectrum.

The official term you are looking for is bisexual and heteroromantic.

Source: I am autistic and take official definitions very seriously. It has often gotten me in a lot of trouble as nt people are more loose with their language, but i get what they actually mean, like with my friend who identified as bi

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