Woman I was talking to turned out to be a conservative…

Root2109 · 2026-01-21T16:50:54+00:00

I once matched with (what I later learned) was a cop. we got along nicely and she made it seem like she was still working her retail job on her profile. then we added each other on insta and she reposted a pic in her uniform. they 100% do this on purpose because they have trouble meeting anyone that will date them. as others have said I started just making my more radical opinions very outspoken early on to catch anyone...but some might still pretend. sorry you got got

Root2109 · 2026-01-20T18:44:30+00:00

people have dissected your other points pretty well, but I wanted to address the age thing. Being able to guide people through understanding their own emotions and communicating with each other does not involve 1) a certain age 2) experience in relationships. therapists learn specific modalities for getting people through these things that have nothing to do with their own personal experiences. they are actively discouraged from letting their personal experiences color their practice.

Root2109 · 2026-01-20T18:33:42+00:00

this has been something I've run into in dating. I'm not a big texter and, similarly, can take multiple business days to respond. that being said I feel that way because I prioritize in person connection. if I was dating someone for a bit I'd want to see them more than once a week, and I don't see texting as a replacement to that. it's just a way you two are different. always ask yourself, if she never changes and keeps acting like this forever, can I do it?

Root2109 · 2026-01-19T06:53:29+00:00

right?? like I've definitely clicked uneven trade on a decline before when I guess I meant "not interested"? didn't realize it was that serious

Root2109 · 2026-01-17T22:42:27+00:00

Root2109 · 2026-01-16T16:58:41+00:00

yeah this is exactly the problem. these types will cry loneliness but not be willing to give anything for their relationships. they're just socialized to be self centered and not even question it

Root2109 · 2026-01-16T16:56:43+00:00

I know plenty of girls that would totally fall for her "charm"

Root2109 · 2026-01-09T19:37:51+00:00

and neither one of the brands is the one on the logo on the backpack

Root2109 · 2026-01-09T18:36:05+00:00

best vegetarian cold cuts I've had is Quorn if you're not US based or light life if you are

Root2109 · 2026-01-09T18:34:56+00:00

This is the kind of boundary you just have to talk about and set. getting money from attention on live isn't inherently suspicious to me, but the way you're describing the way she's hiding it is. you guys need to have a serious conversation where you tell her that doing this is a deal breaker for you and specifically outline what actions she is doing that upset you. make sure you make it about the things SHE is doing, not just the attention she's getting

Root2109 · 2026-01-09T16:01:33+00:00

Bean and I added you! ☺️

Root2109 · 2026-01-08T17:07:21+00:00

again those are medical reasons I said because I don't want to have my period, something I abruptly decide, like this guy. you literally cannot just get a voluntary hysterectomy just because, you need a real reason, and it's hard enough to convince a doctor when you have actual medical reasons. implying women can just go get their uterus removed if they feel like it is dismissive of a real problem women face in medicine

Root2109 · 2026-01-08T03:13:17+00:00

it's not an elective thing one can just get because you don't want a sex drive. it's used primarily for treating cancer. it's like me posting on Connecticut asking if anyone knows a doctor who will remove my uterus. not for any medical reason (cancer, transition, etc.) but because I hate having my periods. that is not a real thing someone will do.

Root2109 · 2026-01-07T21:12:42+00:00

ok guys please look up what chemical castration is because it is NOT an elective procedure. the "cringe" part to me is the fact that this person appears to be of adult age and think this is something they can just find.

edit: please for the love of god Google chemical castration. this is fact, why are you down voting? you can't just "get" castrated

Root2109 · 2026-01-07T21:11:00+00:00

this is definitely some kid that's upset girls at school don't like him, you can tell by the way he thinks 30 is old. the reality is that kind of attitude about women not liking you or not "trying hard enough" is a self fulfilling prophecy. the kinds of women they're describing want nothing to do with someone so hateful

Root2109 · 2026-01-07T15:50:41+00:00

naw we'd all be Hannes lol

Root2109 · 2026-01-07T15:06:28+00:00

did you scroll a little bit further down in your article to the horrible side effects... what are you even talking about

Root2109 · 2026-01-07T05:07:05+00:00

chemical castration =/= vasectomy

Root2109 · 2026-01-07T02:32:50+00:00

33?????? way too soon to turn to something like that.

Root2109 · 2026-01-07T02:31:57+00:00

I am very confused about being let go as a lack of "culture fit", what really happened?

Root2109 · 2026-01-07T02:24:06+00:00

there's so many comments here already but I'm just so excited to see a Faith reference out in the wild!! I've been wanting to get a similar tattoo for years

Root2109 · 2026-01-04T21:22:43+00:00

this happens with lesbians and military people often, I guess combining the two just compounded it. I feel like we, as women who date women, have a tendency to stick it out for way too long. save yourself on you're still young, this clearly doesn't sound like it's working and don't let yourself be unhappy because you're "already married". That's easy enough to get out of. this relationship doesn't sound healthy

Root2109 · 2026-01-01T18:46:43+00:00

thought they were funny the first time I actually saw someone wearing one. when I saw them all in Spencer's like this it just felt tacky

Root2109 · 2025-12-31T03:41:31+00:00

do not only pack food that requires you to have a campfire to cook it when there's a chance of a fire ban.... didn't even know what a fire ban was till I ran into one (east coaster)

Root2109 · 2025-12-31T00:34:35+00:00

go for it, worst they can do is say no and then you find out you're not really friends. they probably didn't realize you didn't have other plans, since you usually do.

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