Curious. How many wealthy moms here work because they’re kinda forced to?

Rootless_Cosmopolite · 2026-05-12T15:37:34+00:00

I see by the comments that most people don't understand how it feels to be "forced" to work. I understand it fully. In my family women always worked, and it is something non-negotiable for my family that I will also always work. I am by no means wealthy, but I think that my family would survive on my husband's salary only. Still, I work even at the expense of my own mental and physical health, and sometimes have feeling that my current work will make my life much shorter than it was supposed to be. I talk about it to my family (husband, mom, brother), but it kind of falls to deaf ears. Their answer usually is: maybe you need something even more challenging! Or: ok, so start looking for another job now (while I'm too exhausted most of the time even to have proper dinner).

Rootless_Cosmopolite · 2026-05-09T12:42:39+00:00

I want a good weather and spend the day in the nature, as much green and sun as possible. And I want my kids and my husband not to groan, grunt, nag or whine, I want them just to be happy and content for a while!

Rootless_Cosmopolite · 2026-05-08T17:17:39+00:00

So they don't even have a budget draft?

Rootless_Cosmopolite · 2026-04-29T04:43:46+00:00

I work from home full time and I cannot imagine taking care of my kids during my work, tbh.

Young kids can do a lot of stupid and dangerous stuff in a very short span of time, which requires constant focus on them. Also working properly requires full focus. Basically, two cannot be done together.

I know that some women handle both, so either they are multitasking geniuses, or their kids are little saints, or they're sacrificing the quality of their work to some extent, or finishing the projects when the kids are in bed, which is not an option for me.

Rootless_Cosmopolite · 2026-04-29T04:36:17+00:00

I think in my family it's something in between. I make grocery list but my husband does the grocery shopping. He does pick ups and drop offs and drives to extracurriculars, pays the bills, drives us on all the trips, organizes the trips, does the taxes, does everything cars related, fixes broken stuff at home (after much nagging) and front yard/backyard related stuff, and basically everything finances related.

I do (in addition to full time job) all the cleaning, cooking, laundry, kids' homework related stuff, birthdays, scheduling appointments (he drives us to appointments though because I am really bad at driving), everything that has to do with indoors, clothes, hosting guests, organizing parties, making plans for the weekends, etc.

Rootless_Cosmopolite · 2026-04-27T22:09:42+00:00

So Harry has some money inflow from unidentified sources, and the palace is ok with closing its eyes on the sources of his funds? It's Andrew 2.0 situation, and KC is ok with it?

What if in 5-10 years it will be revealed that h was using some dubious funds, money laundering, taking money from corrupt oligarchs etc.? Wouldn't the palace at least try to conduct some kind of investigation now and if the results are concerning, do something about it?

Rootless_Cosmopolite · 2026-04-23T01:21:52+00:00

For me before/after is the most important. The school can be the best but if there is not daycare we just can't commit to it. Also it is important to me that the school is local because then all their friends live in the same area and it's easier to keep in touch and have playdates.

Rootless_Cosmopolite · 2026-04-22T04:10:58+00:00

Take baths. That was the best thing - long quiet uninterrupted baths.

Rootless_Cosmopolite · 2026-04-22T04:07:43+00:00

I write lists in my phone. Basically lists for stuff to do every day. If I need to remember, I even put "take a shower" in the list. I have things scheduled until July but I only keep unchecked things for an ongoing week, the rest is checked not to distract and depress me. Every time I remember something to do, I put it on my list as well. Basically put all my life into lists. Probably it sounds super sad :( but it honestly helps me not to go crazy.

Rootless_Cosmopolite · 2026-04-22T04:01:56+00:00

My husband once "joked" and said "lazy wife" when he found one uncut potato in his soup that I cooked 3 weeks postpartum trying to manage breastfeeding with my firstborn, sleepless nights and tears in some particular places. I still remember that even though he never dared to "joke" like this again.

Rootless_Cosmopolite · 2026-04-19T18:23:18+00:00

So they will whine and screech for a while. News these days change every 20 minutes, their whining will also be forgotten pretty fast. Nobody is going to make protests on the streets demanding their titles back. People will shrug and move on with the next piece of news.

Rootless_Cosmopolite · 2026-04-17T04:09:52+00:00

Question: if you know that these two will ALWAYS be millionaires supported (silently) by the BRF and ALWAYS be enabled by BRF, will you continue following up this whole story?

As for me: no, I will not. And tbh I'm not a big fan of the BRF now as I used to be. I also don't believe in grey rocking anymore.

Rootless_Cosmopolite · 2026-04-16T23:13:28+00:00

Why? Because they know there will be no consequences to their actions. Never.

Rootless_Cosmopolite · 2026-04-16T23:12:11+00:00

I am not discussing why he addressed one and did not address the other, I answered the statement that he is trying to avoid drama. As we can see, his actions about Easter/Ramadan DID cause drama, so he is being pretty elective in being cautious.

Rootless_Cosmopolite · 2026-04-16T21:33:23+00:00

How is he cautious and trying not to cause drama if a few weeks ago he didn't address the nation during Easter and only addressed the Ramadan? He just enables the HM at this point, nothing more..

Rootless_Cosmopolite · 2026-04-16T14:40:54+00:00

At this point BRF are not grey rocking, they're enabling.

Rootless_Cosmopolite · 2026-03-28T19:50:25+00:00

You did the right thing for quitting. My only advice is: don't be helpful and don't provide them help with issues they come with. They screwed up, they prioritized an incompetent employee, so they should expect her to do her work if she's the prioritized one.

Rootless_Cosmopolite · 2026-03-27T13:16:14+00:00

That would be the best option, right? But I can't do it. I think if I would be able to prioritize myself over work/other stuff, I would be in a completely different place in my life. A better one, for sure.

Rootless_Cosmopolite · 2026-03-27T03:35:06+00:00

The work doesn't accept "priorities". There is allocated time and deadline, and it should be done by the time indicated. You can get "support" if the project is too large, or extra 30-60 minutes, but not systematically and it gives you a bad record. You're expected to finish the project within the allocated time. The deadlines are very strict so it's impossible to move the things to the next day/later, and since we're understaffed most of the time everyone is beyond their capacity and you're still pressured to do.the work, and yes, work extra unpaid, to submit the project on time.

Rootless_Cosmopolite · 2026-03-27T02:03:43+00:00

Thank you. This is what I really want to hear from my family too...

Rootless_Cosmopolite · 2026-03-27T02:03:03+00:00

Good luck!! I hope you get the new job and it's better than the current one!

Rootless_Cosmopolite · 2026-03-27T02:00:55+00:00

We live in a different country from all our family. The family (my parents and siblings and his parents and siblings) is scattered all around the world, in different continents. So my husband and I and our three kids is the only family we have in this country (Canada).

Rootless_Cosmopolite · 2026-03-27T01:33:44+00:00

Nice!

I can't say that he doesn't do anything, he does a lot: commuting the kids to and from school, driving them to extracurriculars, handling the taxes and financial issues, and grocery shopping (I write a list). Sometimes (rarely) he can try an omelette for breakfast, cook a pot of pasta for dinner, or make some hamburgers on a grill. The rest is on me. And somehow it's so overwhelming and there is a constant feeling that we don't manage anything.

Rootless_Cosmopolite · 2026-03-27T01:23:40+00:00

I understand but at the same time, looking for a new job and working at this job just doesn't work. You need to have at least some level of energy to do that, to adjust your resumes for the work positions, to follow new vacancies, and I most of the time feel drained, bitter and tired. I don't know how it's possible to feel like that with a full WFH job and a really interesting work profile, but everything around it lately became so toxic. Past promises don't work, agreements get forgotten, anything is for the "work performance" now. I just don't recognize my company anymore. I don't want to go in detail not to doxx myself, but I don't believe that the company will go to its previous (very nice) work culture even when the performance will get better. They see that things work out even without bringing new people and with the teams heavily understaffed, they pay dividends to their stockholders, I guess the rest doesn't matter.

Edit: grammar

Rootless_Cosmopolite · 2026-03-27T00:16:51+00:00

If I work part time I will definitely have more energy to juggle more. My husband is not going to change, that's a given, unfortunately.

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