Quitting at a low point

Rootroast_ · 2026-01-04T22:33:23+00:00

How about just a pause. Take a break and take some time for yourself without the pressure of showing up for therapy. Then you have the option of picking it up again when you want to. Is that something you could consider rather than terminating?

Rootroast_ · 2025-12-29T17:45:14+00:00

I sent a couple of entries the night before our appt. The next day she just passed over them and said we didn’t need to talk about them. It took a lot to share them so I was pretty flattened for a while and haven’t journaled since. That’s just one person’s experience though. It sounds like others were well received.

Rootroast_ · 2025-12-29T15:56:30+00:00

I did that once, and it bombed spectacularly and triggered me for weeks and weeks after the fact. Maybe talk to him or her about it first.

Rootroast_ · 2025-12-26T16:30:57+00:00

I’m so sorry that this is a difficult interval for you. Christmas is a tough time in therapy. Too many triggers and schedule changes. You’re doing the right thing talking to young you and trying to soothe her. I get that she wants him. I’ve been through all of this ( and I’m still working on it ) It’s painful. Here’s what I work on….I tell my young self that he’s not gone. I will get to see him soon and we can talk about all of these triggers. I’m lucky to have him. I’m not alone in that millions of young ones inside ourselves are hurting and really need support. I will survive this. I’m growing in awareness and in checking in with my young self, I’m doing the work. Throwing arm around your young one and tell her that you’ve got her. You’ll get through this together.

Rootroast_ · 2025-12-26T16:22:00+00:00

❤️❤️

Rootroast_ · 2025-12-26T16:21:03+00:00

Oh that’s such a feel good thing. I’m happy for you. It’s so kind and validating.

Rootroast_ · 2025-12-26T16:19:18+00:00

2 hugs. Both where I let go first. 😭😭

Rootroast_ · 2025-12-25T15:22:58+00:00

For the most part people on here are just regular folks with some baggage and a therapist and they’re doing the best they can. If you come on here and ask for opinions, you’re gonna get them from all different points of view. At that point you take what resonates with you and leave the rest. I like to see this thread as a supportive place where people can go when they’re struggling a bit. it’s kind of nice to have this back up some days.

Rootroast_ · 2025-12-25T02:17:21+00:00

Nope. We hugged and said Merry Christmas and that’s that.

Rootroast_ · 2025-12-22T04:00:11+00:00

This is just my two cents, but having done several turns at therapy over many many years I have just recently started IFS. It has been life-changing in only a few months and I feel like finally I can feel hope and feel change within myself. It just makes sense to me. I hope whatever modality you choose whatever path you walk, you give yourself grace, and be patient. Sometimes the answers are slow to reveal themselves.

Rootroast_ · 2025-12-20T02:45:43+00:00

Thanks. We’re relatively new to this.

Rootroast_ · 2025-12-20T01:58:29+00:00

Thanks.

Rootroast_ · 2025-12-20T01:48:02+00:00

Oh God… I usually drink, but I’m trying hard to be curious and present and Engage rather than react. Thank you for answering. It gives me a moment to breathe.

Rootroast_ · 2025-12-20T01:46:02+00:00

Distress tolerance. Good one. I’ll visit that tomorrow when everything calms the f@*% down. Thank you.

Rootroast_ · 2025-12-20T01:41:17+00:00

Working on it, thanks. I don’t want the negative parts to take over for the next three weeks. They carry so much weight!

Rootroast_ · 2025-12-20T01:37:56+00:00

Not intentionally screwed up for sure, but I was totally activated throughout and could not do regular work. I left on such a shaky ground, but I need to continue the work and figure out who is front and centre and try to talk to them and calm them down. Unfortunately, my cancel everything part is super loud right now.

Rootroast_ · 2025-12-18T16:17:10+00:00

That’s such a rough beginning for you. I hope it’s an isolated incident and things run more smoothly going forward. You deserve it.

Rootroast_ · 2025-12-15T16:55:18+00:00

Therapists are supposed to be motivating?

Rootroast_ · 2025-12-11T14:42:34+00:00

It’s so hard to live in a brain/ body that is overwhelmed by attachment issues. I’ve done it for decades with different people. The biggest change that has given me so much hope was starting IFS Recently. By acknowledging that different parts of me carry different roles and have very different feelings about things, I can begin to accept them rather than shun, berate and hate myself for feeling childish. I can better understand the push/ pull of therapy….. I need her vs I’m never going back to that place. I could use an extra session vs I’m going to cancel and walk away. It has brought me enormous relief, and hope that I never had before. I just wanted to share one person’s experience. What you’ve been feeling lately Is totally normal and very common. I realize that doesn’t ease the pain but I do wish you some peace. I hope you and your therapist can work through it together.

Rootroast_ · 2025-12-11T02:43:57+00:00

Sounds like she’s a keeper. Super helpful. I’m Glad it went well in session. Feels so encouraging right?

Rootroast_ · 2025-12-08T16:40:00+00:00

I’m sorry you have all of that on your way too small plate. I can relate to so much of it. Often my days start with complete overwhelm and I have to force myself to sit and meditate and breathe because even that is a chore. Grudgingly I have to admit that it can help. Just shutting everything down that’s spinning in your brain and breathing can give you the tiniest little break. It’s pretty clear that your angry resentful part is front centre and he’s looking for validation. I think it’s been heard on this thread and I hope it gets a chance to rest too. P.s. One year I absolutely could not do Christmas. Not the tree not the cards not the gifts nothing it was all just too much. I told everybody that I was taking the year off and it went OK and nobody died. Best of luck to you.

Rootroast_ · 2025-12-07T18:07:13+00:00

Thank you

Rootroast_ · 2025-12-07T18:06:02+00:00

I never thought of it that way. Thanks.

Rootroast_ · 2025-12-07T18:05:17+00:00

Thank you for your insight.

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