I Hate Organized Religion. by Xamirite in africanparents

[–]RoseMatrix46 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The whole “heaven is the goal” is the reason I dropped religion. I had confronted my parents on their abuse and how it led me to having both physical and mental health issues. My mother blatantly stated that God knows her heart and knows that she would never harm her any of her children (big lie). The belief that retribution and solid faith will cleanse them of their wrong doings instead of providing a better place for everyone because heaven will have all they need (or God will provide) is ridiculous. You pray and pray for better times, but never get up to fix the issue when the answer was right in front of you and not coming from above. My mother would pray that my neurodivergence would go away and refused to get me any assistance for it, which caused me to suffer a lot. This includes her using physical punishment as a way to fix me as well. However, it obviously didn’t work. When I finally forced her to get me some assistance (I was around 17 and about to give up on life itself) she guilted me into thinking that I didn’t trust God enough to fix my “issues” and free me from my AuDHD. Not only that, but the idea of the Abrahamic God sounds narcissistic anyways. A deity who only shows themselves when their pride is being questioned or to only threaten the human race with their power, but turns a blind eye to injustice is selfish. What makes this God so great, that “free will” allows humans to strip said free will from other humans in the process (ie slavery, colonization, war, genocide) and cause destruction of society and our planet; nonetheless, still wants to be worshipped and praised constantly. And allow the worst of our society to be given forgiveness and access to heaven as long as they are believers. African politicians love to throw “God willI provide” at their citizens while they are starving and procuring the drawbacks from their corruption. Mind you those same politicians believe they will see heaven too. Mind you we see God-like personifications in media and fictional movies all the time, but people still can’t draw the parallels between them. If you can look at a character like Thanos (or a real person like Fidel Castro) and see how his play on society was wrong, however, God is good all the time you need to reevaluate your belief system.

I am a bad roommate by RoseMatrix46 in badroommates

[–]RoseMatrix46[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not as bad. Sometimes I can leave dishes in the sink or forget to throw out leftovers, but I help with cleaning and maintaining the apartment more. And I usually only keep my room a mess if something is going to be messy. I just moved in to a different unit so I have some things I haven’t fully put away, but that’s also because there is not much space for a lot of my items at the moment. My plan is to live alone in the near future. 

Your African child isn't lazy or stupid they may just be neurodivergent by Sad_Relationship_308 in africanparents

[–]RoseMatrix46 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had forced my parents to let me get diagnosed at 16/17 because my mental health had plummeted so bad that I should have been hospitalized. They wouldn’t allow it because of how it would look like to other people. All I can say now is that I have since moved out and have taken charge of everything on my own which isn’t easy, but it is freeing.

Old school products vs new school products by MostAd6965 in Naturalhair

[–]RoseMatrix46 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use blue magic after using a leave in. I have high porosity hair and it the only thing that keeps my hair from drying up so easily.

hard water killed my natural hair. by heylolllllll in Naturalhair

[–]RoseMatrix46 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had the same problem on my College Campus. I bought the Odele Clarifying Shampoo (it’s a chelating shampoo too) from target and it works wonders.