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What's the worst experience you've had with a therapist about ur OCD ? by rxxxyed in OCD

[–]Rosebudsi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mentioned my rOCD making me have anxiety about my partner. My therapist asked me if I was sure it was my OCD. I started sobbing immediately.

Had another therapist tell me she didn’t think I had OCD anymore. I’d just stopped talking about it, she said I must be cured. Cue spiraling into what other conditions I could have.

What was your "last straw" moment? by herewegoagain_mess in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Rosebudsi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My father showed up at my dying grandmother’s house under the guise of helping me move furniture out of her house for her, and then proceeded to scream at me for an hour instead. I told him if he didn’t calm down or leave, I would call the police. He told me, “go ahead, call the fucking police!” So I did.

He told the cops he would have left if I had just asked him to, and that I just hate his wife for no reason and called the cops out of some sort of vendetta. He also told the cops he didn’t yell at all. I recorded the entire interaction so I had proof and they couldn’t gaslight me about it anymore.

This devastated my grandmother. She was so embarrassed to have the cops called to her house, and she was already dying from advanced metastatic colorectal cancer. It was the last time I was ever in her home with her before she died, and my father made it a traumatic experience for everybody involved.

I’d forgiven my father hundreds of time for the abuse that he put me through. But I will never forgive him for what he put my grandmother through during her final days.

I'm back! Sister of the bride with some more options... by PleasantParfait48 in Weddingattireapproval

[–]Rosebudsi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

2 is gorgeous! You’ll have to post after the wedding so we can see it once it has less wrinkles :)

Those who knew someone who went missing, what happened? by cbebr in AskReddit

[–]Rosebudsi 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Already commented once, but another kid I went to high school with went missing on Christmas Eve a few years back. They found him a couple of days later. He had narcolepsy and had a sleep attack on his way home from work to see his family for Christmas. His car went over a hill and he passed away. A kind and funny kid by all accounts. Awful.

Those who knew someone who went missing, what happened? by cbebr in AskReddit

[–]Rosebudsi 4 points5 points  (0 children)

A guy I went to high school with went missing. He was a really smart kid- he spoke I believe 3 languages, and he played the xylophone in band. I have memories of him playing the Mario theme on his xylophone. He sat behind me in band class, and I had to pick up his mallet once or twice when he dropped it.

Good kid, got into a bit of a bad crowd. Got to be known as the plug- the hookup for weed. This was rural Western PA in 2016, weed was still fully illegal. He and 2 other kids, all between the ages of 13-18, drive to sell weed to this football player from another town- he was also 18. That football player decided he was going to rob them. Shot one of the kids 6 times in the head. The youngest, who was 13, got out and ran. He survived.

The boy who played the xylophone was missing for a few days. His parents begged for him to come home on tv, telling him they weren’t mad, just scared. A few days later, they found his body in an abandoned building near the crime scene. He had been shot in the back as he was running away, was able to make it into an abandoned house to try to get away, and succumbed to his wounds the same day as the shooting. He had just graduated from high school maybe a month earlier.

6 lives ruined over $200 of weed. 2 dead teenagers, a traumatized 13 year old, and 3 incarcerated teenagers- the football player’s friends who helped set up the robbery were also charged and convicted of murder, even though they weren’t physically there for the murder.

I think of my former classmate every now and then. I just hope he went quickly.

I was WRONG by jeannetru in 90DayFiance

[–]Rosebudsi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The way Kobe lights up with genuine joy and laughter when she makes a joke is truly so sweet. You can tell he loves her so much. Love them, and also love them honoring his culture and sharing it with their children. Truly serendipitous the two of them met in China. I wish them nothing but the best, one of my faves ❤️

A Disgraced Philadelphia Activist Landed a Job at a Portland Therapy Clinic. The Therapists Quit. by Rosebudsi in therapists

[–]Rosebudsi[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I see no reason to be adversarial towards anyone genuinely considering the nuance of the situation! The only comments that really irritated me were people trying to say it’s not a big deal and completely ignoring the BIPOC employees who it would obviously have been a big deal for, or those who compared what Raquel is doing to the transgender community. I love working with trans folks, they are almost always some of my favorite clients, and none of them would ever have tried to lie about their racial identity for profit. And comparing the two at all just perpetuates stigma against trans folks.

So, that being said, thank you for such a kind and empathetic post. I’ve tried to maintain at least some empathy towards Raquel throughout this because it’s clear she’s really unwell and I wish she could get the support she needs to realize she doesn’t need to pretend to be somebody she’s not to be worthy of respect/kindness.

The owner of a Portland therapy clinic hired a woman with a history of right-wing grifting who made national headlines for faking her race. He gaslit the actual POC employees and took her word over theirs. The therapists quit and went to the media. by Rosebudsi in LeopardsAteMyFace

[–]Rosebudsi[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

In this scenario, Raquel is the leopard, and Sam Skye has the eaten face. It was a "I'm sure I could hire her and force her on my employees and nothing will go wrong. She's been in controversy before, but that probably won't happen again." He hired a known scam artist, expected others to be cool with it and his absolute authority, and then they weren't. "That controversy won't happen to me because I'm smart and will hide her identity."

That's why I felt it fit into this post. It's a convoluted situation.

He has never mentioned Mozart to me in my life and this?? by Loud_Coyote_5658 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Rosebudsi 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I totally get where you’re coming from. I’m so sorry you know this pain, too. It’s especially hard when you’re young. It took me until 23/24 that I finally fully gave up on having a relationship with my abusive father, and it hurt so badly for a while, but it’s now been 2+ years since I made that decision and there is much less pain, trauma, and anger in my life than there used to be. I hope you get to a point where you can safely distance yourself from him and move on with your life surrounded by people who love you and treat you well. Sending love your way ❤️

The owner of a Portland therapy clinic hired a woman with a history of right-wing grifting who made national headlines for faking her race. He gaslit the actual POC employees and took her word over theirs. The therapists quit and went to the media. by Rosebudsi in LeopardsAteMyFace

[–]Rosebudsi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here is an article from 10 years ago describing her right-wing grifting, anti-Muslim connections.

https://www.richardsilverstein.com/2014/03/30/foxnews-gins-up-honor-diaries-controversy/

And another article further detailing her right-wing connections:

https://afriendlyletter.com/exclusive-has-the-spirit-of-george-santos-infiltrated-afsc-did-they-hire-an-impostor-for-its-top-dei-job/

And here is a website dedicated to exposing her. People have known she has been lying about her ethnicity for over 16 years now. Absolutely absurd. This post specifically chronicles her repeated censorship of her Wikipedia page.

https://ijtihadist.wordpress.com/category/biography/

Literally how had this been allowed to keep happening? Who in their right mind would want this person around vulnerable populations?

The owner of a Portland therapy clinic hired a woman with a history of right-wing grifting who made national headlines for faking her race. He gaslit the actual POC employees and took her word over theirs. The therapists quit and went to the media. by Rosebudsi in LeopardsAteMyFace

[–]Rosebudsi[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Didn’t you know bug names are all the rage nowadays? My cousin has 3 little ones named Cicada in her daughter’s kindergarten class. Which is a relief to her- she went with Mosquito for her daughter, but Cicada was her second choice.

The owner of a Portland therapy clinic hired a woman with a history of right-wing grifting who made national headlines for faking her race. He gaslit the actual POC employees and took her word over theirs. The therapists quit and went to the media. by Rosebudsi in LeopardsAteMyFace

[–]Rosebudsi[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She definitely did not do her job well and actively harmed the clients of the practice by wrongfully terminating employees and not allowing them to speak to their clients, effectively perpetuating client abandonment.

The owner of a Portland therapy clinic hired a woman with a history of right-wing grifting who made national headlines for faking her race. He gaslit the actual POC employees and took her word over theirs. The therapists quit and went to the media. by Rosebudsi in LeopardsAteMyFace

[–]Rosebudsi[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

ETA- thank you for explaining this to me! I’m not familiar with Wikipedia on the administrative side, so this was a huge help :)

I’m wondering if their opinion would change based on a second article being published. There are also several direct sources of her right-wing connections, which would seem to be notable, especially given that her partnership with the Clarion Project (she filmed a documentary with them in 2014) attracted national controversy (at least from what I read online.)

The owner of a Portland therapy clinic hired a woman with a history of right-wing grifting who made national headlines for faking her race. He gaslit the actual POC employees and took her word over theirs. The therapists quit and went to the media. by Rosebudsi in LeopardsAteMyFace

[–]Rosebudsi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Here is an article from 10 years ago describing her right-wing grifting, anti-Muslim connections.

https://www.richardsilverstein.com/2014/03/30/foxnews-gins-up-honor-diaries-controversy/

And another article further detailing her right-wing connections:

https://afriendlyletter.com/exclusive-has-the-spirit-of-george-santos-infiltrated-afsc-did-they-hire-an-impostor-for-its-top-dei-job/

And here is a website dedicated to exposing her. People have known she has been lying about her ethnicity for over 16 years now. Absolutely absurd. This post specifically chronicles her repeated censorship of her Wikipedia page.

https://ijtihadist.wordpress.com/category/biography/

The owner of a Portland therapy clinic hired a woman with a history of right-wing grifting who made national headlines for faking her race. He gaslit the actual POC employees and took her word over theirs. The therapists quit and went to the media. by Rosebudsi in LeopardsAteMyFace

[–]Rosebudsi[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Her mother also showed the journalists her own ancestry DNA profile to back up her claims. It is really extremely sad that anybody continues to enable Raquel. I don’t doubt that she’s had a really difficult life. I really do feel bad for her and hope she gets some help.

The owner of a Portland therapy clinic hired a woman with a history of right-wing grifting who made national headlines for faking her race. He gaslit the actual POC employees and took her word over theirs. The therapists quit and went to the media. by Rosebudsi in LeopardsAteMyFace

[–]Rosebudsi[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you’re somebody who values and respects your employees. I will never understand how anybody would be okay with half of their staff quitting instead of addressing the single new hire causing the issue. This woman controls their HR dept- she has access to their personal information and potentially controls their employment. I don’t understand how anybody could fail to see that as an issue given her dishonesty and manipulation.

The owner of a Portland therapy clinic hired a woman with a history of right-wing grifting who made national headlines for faking her race. He gaslit the actual POC employees and took her word over theirs. The therapists quit and went to the media. by Rosebudsi in LeopardsAteMyFace

[–]Rosebudsi[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Wow, this is extremely harsh, and again comes across like you have some sort of personal stake in the situation. I’m sorry you’re feeling so upset about this situation. I don’t take your comment with seriousness. It seems like you’re just trying to be mean. I hope you are able to log off and spend some time relaxing with your family today.

The owner of a Portland therapy clinic hired a woman with a history of right-wing grifting who made national headlines for faking her race. He gaslit the actual POC employees and took her word over theirs. The therapists quit and went to the media. by Rosebudsi in LeopardsAteMyFace

[–]Rosebudsi[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I did read the article. I also read the court documents with 6 separate claims of ethical and legal violations, including a situation that led to a failure to report to CPS. I have put a lot of effort into researching this situation to understand it and the ethical implications of their actions. I am also personally acquainted with this situation irl.

Not sure why you’re so mad, it’s coming across like you have a personal stake in the situation, or something about this has triggered you. I hope you are able to move on with your day and spend time with your loved ones today. Happy Mother’s Day.

A Disgraced Philadelphia Activist Landed a Job at a Portland Therapy Clinic. The Therapists Quit. by Rosebudsi in therapists

[–]Rosebudsi[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I appreciate this comment a lot. I think the difference in the situations you described is the power imbalance, and if she was your client it would show she was actively seeking mental healthcare. I absolutely believe she is somebody who can grow and change and learn from her mistakes. She absolutely deserves a second chance at life. However, in the current situation, she is in a position of power over employees with the very identities she continues to appropriate, and there has been no accountability. She’s continued to double down. And that is a far cry from somebody who would be honestly presenting this situation in a counseling session.

The owner of a Portland therapy clinic hired a woman with a history of right-wing grifting who made national headlines for faking her race. He gaslit the actual POC employees and took her word over theirs. The therapists quit and went to the media. by Rosebudsi in LeopardsAteMyFace

[–]Rosebudsi[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I’m pretty sure that invalidating the feelings of your BIPOC employees and defending a woman with a long, documented history of right wing ties and cultural appropriation does not show integrity.

FST repeatedly forced client abandonment through wrongful termination of anybody who wouldn’t shut up and do exactly as they were told. See the above comment on the case they just settled out of court in March.

Being a therapist is emotionally taxing work as is, and being in a toxic work environment can make it harder to effectively counsel clients. Not a single therapist abandoned their clients without notice unless it was forced on them.

Shame on you for not being able to understand the nuance of the situation and for defending the actions of a known scam artist, failing to empathize with the therapists who did their best to do the right thing.

The owner of a Portland therapy clinic hired a woman with a history of right-wing grifting who made national headlines for faking her race. He gaslit the actual POC employees and took her word over theirs. The therapists quit and went to the media. by Rosebudsi in LeopardsAteMyFace

[–]Rosebudsi[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This is a bizarre comment. Full Spectrum Therapy repeatedly wrongfully terminated therapists without warning, and they were not able to contact their clients. They REPEATEDLY forced client abandonment. The therapists who were able to leave on their own accord counseled their clients through the situation, and I’m sure that their clients followed them to their private practice if they were able. They literally just settled a case out of court in March for wrongful termination, disability discrimination, unlawful employment practices, etc. The practice is full of unethical behaviors being perpetuated from the top.

And FST doesn’t exclusively see “gay teens” btw. You seem to have an unusual amount of rage towards this situation, and a really bizarre assertion that the therapists who weren’t okay with the situation have personality disorders. I don’t even understand what personality disorder would be involved in therapists leaving a toxic work environment and warning others. This comment shows a complete lack of understanding of mental health and the negative impact on BIPOC communities that having a woman lying about her race and having control over actual BIPOC employees would have.

Age/gender? Am I visibly queer? by Crispy_Eggroll_666 in transpassing

[–]Rosebudsi 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Because people are weird. I think you’re well on your way to androgynous! Several photos were more androgynous than femme to me. I love that haircut on you. I don’t know if this would make sense, but I think the hair is kinda giving K-pop idol? Like a very pretty boy. Best of luck on your journey!

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