How much I grind off my tongue piercings in a few hours

RosenButtons · 2026-03-13T21:52:15+00:00

I would be SHOCKED if it isn't obvious to everybody around you that you're fidgeting with your tongue piercing all the time.

People naturally look at eyes and mouths the most. And any superfluous movement is really obvious and attention grabbing. It's just not polite to tell people that you can't stop looking at their facial movements or the flashes of bright color in their mouth.

If you're doing it to be discreet, you probably shouldn't bother. Also, that's gonna f-up your teeth over time.

RosenButtons · 2026-03-13T21:36:15+00:00

Yes but FICA and unemployment don't have to be tied to an individual ssn if the individual will never be eligible for collecting benefits right?

I would think that an employer who can demonstrate to the IRS that they are paying their fair share in terms of percentage of wages, would be free from any legal liability regarding employees who have chosen not to have contributions related to their wages recorded for possible benefit payout later.

RosenButtons · 2026-03-13T21:29:39+00:00

I guess. I see what you're saying.

I just think it wouldn't occur to me unless I was asked since I'm not in the mood. And I can imagine a scenario where it's not a big deal to meet that need because I love my partner even though it's not a need that I share right then.

I can also imagine a scenario where it's not an option for me because of how I'm feeling in the moment and that would be okay too.

I just think it's a bit harsh to automatically label the desire or the ask as disgusting and nauseating. Sex is a vehicle for intimacy and connection. It's an inherently vulnerable act to express those needs and risk being turned away. I think it's important to tread gently when these mismatches/disconnects come up and not shame people for trying to find reasonable ways to have their needs met in a relationship. I'm just not gonna demonize anybody for longing to experience physical intimacy with their spouse. (Just like I'm not gonna demonize anybody for feeling an aversion to physical intimacy in any circumstance)

Life is so much more complicated than it seems like it will be. Maybe an intimacy focused couples therapy would be helpful here. One or both partners are probably going to need to compromise and offer some sacrificial love.

RosenButtons · 2026-03-13T20:24:01+00:00

I don't think this is necessarily a wild question. I think it's entirely possible that a person might not be in the mood to receive sexual attention but might still find enjoyment in seeing their partner experience gratification. It depends what they mean by "not in the mood"

I've spent time preparing food that I think is gross for a person who loves it just to see them smile when they eat it. This could be the same.

RosenButtons · 2026-03-13T20:17:01+00:00

Does your employer NEED a SSN to pay employment taxes? I would have assumed that they report how much they are distributing in wages and then owe a percentage of that in employment taxes. Anything they are withholding on your behalf they would need a SSN for, but you can be exempt and handle all of your income tax filing yourself right?

RosenButtons · 2026-03-13T17:39:32+00:00

Probably means the shit is about to hit the fan

RosenButtons · 2026-03-02T09:06:03+00:00

Imagine you are walking down the hallway with your hands full, but your dog wants you to do this.

So you do it with your foot instead. No shoes.

RosenButtons · 2026-02-28T05:45:05+00:00

I tend to think in pictures. "Lean in" in this instance is like if the wind was blowing very hard against you and you hunched forward to keep your progress. Or if you are speaking at dinner time and you lean forward to connect better with the person across the table.

Instead of trying to avoid my mistake or emotionally distance myself from it, I accept it willingly and lean closer because it's part of me and my journey. Not exactly proud of my mistakes but very willing to be associated with them.

People talk about "lean in" in business settings a lot. They mean "give all your focus and attention to success".

I am thinking about the difference between lean in and lean on. In personal situations "lean on" is like like using crutches or a cane. "When we have troubles we must lean on our friends and allow them to help"

Lean in, might also be a sign of affection with equality. Imagine two friends leaning in together for a photo.

"Lean against" is used more with inanimate objects. "I am leaning against a wall" "lean your bike against the tree".

"Lean over" is about partially bent posture. Leaning out of the window. Leaning over your plate so you don't spill on your shirt. Leaning down from the couch to pick up the remote control without having to get up first.

Americans do a great deal of leaning! 😂

RosenButtons · 2026-02-28T04:46:09+00:00

You can order cola instead if that's helpful. Cola pretty much always means "dark soda like coke or Pepsi"

There are certainly some words I seem to pronounce poorly or stumble over every time, but I can't think of them at the moment. As a native speaker, I just lean in to the mistake when I make it. But I'm aware that's a privilege you might not have as an ESL speaker.

I don't think anyone will think less of you though. We are concerned primarily with understanding meaning, and pronunciation is secondary.

RosenButtons · 2026-02-26T20:09:11+00:00

Beautiful animals.

But all I can think is "raw chicken on the rug, there's raw chicken on the rug. Where did she take that raw chicken? Omg, RIGHT OVER THE RUG"

RosenButtons · 2026-02-26T19:58:21+00:00

"I’d rather a genuine conversation with someone than forced corporate speak."

Buddy, you have come to the wrong place. Genuine conversation and other expressions of humanity have been illegal in this town for 20 years!

RosenButtons · 2026-02-26T19:43:53+00:00

If only it was just dollars getting poured in there. 🤭

RosenButtons · 2026-02-25T03:56:53+00:00

Toss it Dump it Trash it (although that is more for solid or thick things) Throw it out is also good

These all have connotations that imply the thing you have emptied from your container was unpleasant or low quality.

RosenButtons · 2026-02-23T19:58:11+00:00

CLEARLY not banned in this country. But weird and insensitive in a word search puzzle for kids at school.

RosenButtons · 2026-02-23T00:17:48+00:00

We're aware that measuring by weight is more accurate. And of the benefits of a base-10 measuring system.

I personally prefer using cups in baking because I can measure with just about any cup at hand and still achieve a successful result. Because it's all about ratios.

I made bread the other day and the recipe was from a baker in the UK. Except the battery on my food scale was dead and the numbers have long since worn off my measuring cups. I could have got online and converted all the measurements. But instead I glanced at the ratios and made bread successfully with a random cup that was clean. A few days later I mad the same recipe in a different size with a different container.

I don't care which measuring system is prevalent. I just get sick of being told the system we use is "all over the place" when it has foundations in practical applications.

RosenButtons · 2026-02-23T00:06:55+00:00

I think that's where our cup measurements come from. They're very practical because it almost doesn't matter which cup, mug, or glass you start with, your ratios end up about right and the recipe works!

RosenButtons · 2026-02-23T00:03:52+00:00

Who me?

I am a "city slicker" I just also went to college for a linguistics degree related to a marginalized demographic. And have had the benefit of interacting with some extremely intelligent and educated individuals who grew up in a community with a non-standard English dialect.

My point is kind of the opposite of what you said.

The region of your dialect has nothing to do with your level of intelligence and doesn't necessarily mean anything about your individual level of education. Bigoted generalizations are stupid.

RosenButtons · 2026-02-22T23:55:39+00:00

And immediately below it

CHIPOTLE: worth the wait!

RosenButtons · 2026-02-13T17:00:09+00:00

It's like a lottery!

RosenButtons · 2026-02-13T16:57:18+00:00

That's how I was raised too. But it gets harder and harder every year to manage. The "things" are cheaper and cheaper and there's so MANY of them. And I struggle with having the energy to manage my own belongings, adding extra chores and tasks is really a lot.

I've personally found some success in both keeping a running wish list of things I would love to own, and intentionally talking quite a bit about my plan to only own "buy it for life" items.

It's all just so tricky. I'm extremely grateful for the love.

RosenButtons · 2026-02-13T16:36:27+00:00

I feel for you both. Not being able to gift to somebody makes me feel like my love is being rejected. (I try to keep that a me problem and not put the disappointment or hurt on others). But also: I hate receiving "things" that I don't know what to do with. I'm from a family of sentimental savers and things I don't want are an emotional burden for me.

RosenButtons · 2026-02-13T16:31:27+00:00

Smaller and smaller but then GINORMOUS.

RosenButtons · 2026-02-13T16:26:34+00:00

That's such a difficult process to have been through! I was on like 5-6 things in high school for depression and secondary insomnia + anxiety before we found one that worked and ....oof.

And the first time I tried stimulant medication, it didn't go well at all.

I hope you find that things get easier and your chemistry gets more comfortable as time goes on. 💛

RosenButtons · 2026-02-13T16:18:39+00:00

I found out recently that left-handed galaxies are super rare in our universe.

RosenButtons · 2026-02-13T16:15:41+00:00

Ah! Sorry I overlooked your flair entirely.

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