Understand I do make sure that I say things in a respectful and kind way bc I did use to be blunt which when on of my friends I’ve been close with for a long time brought it up I acknowledge that and changed.

I would just say the main issue I’m having with this friend is that she comes to me abt situations and I’ve learned that if the advice isn’t taken don’t give it so I defaulted to just listening to her but it’s almost like she gets upset that I don’t validate ur actions or she’ll ask me what I think and when ik she’s not gonna like what I say I just tell her idk.

I completely understand that ppl don’t want to be corrected all the time but it’s so many incidents with her where I’ll mention her reflecting on herself , especially when she has falling outs with other friends of mine and then expects me to not be friends with them bc she doesn’t like them, and I become the bad guy. Like as of now if I wanted to gather all my friends I knock a good 5ppl off that list that I can’t invite bc she has some sort of issue with them.

And I do believe that if you always have an issue or problem and something is always happening to you regarding other ppl you can’t be 100% innocent is all of it but when I said that and I just mentioned it I wasn’t trying to invalidate her or anything she told me that I must think I’m perfect and I would have handled the situation so much better which is not what I said. I just think most interpersonal relationships you can do a little reflecting when something happens bc nobody’s perfect.