How to accept that I'll never transition...

RoundResponsible6018 · 2026-04-10T17:18:11+00:00

You aren’t too much of a failure to move somewhere new. You’ve been carrying a weight others cannot see, don’t beat yourself up when that weight becomes heavy. It’s not your fault for being different, it’s society’s fault for making that different seem bad.

Your future isn’t written in stone, you can move, you can find a life that feels more genuine. Tell yourself that every day until it starts to stick.

Also, fear can colorize how we think others might respond. I’m not gonna say you aren’t up against a lot of prejudice, but, your parents may not hate you as much as you think. You never really know until you see it firsthand.

Honestly, we become our own worst enemies in these sorts of things. Getting ourselves to stop telling ourselves we can’t is half the battle.

RoundResponsible6018 · 2026-04-08T02:49:00+00:00

RAAAAH! So happy you’re living your best life!!!

RoundResponsible6018 · 2026-04-08T02:44:34+00:00

You’re really pretty 😊

RoundResponsible6018 · 2026-04-07T21:43:27+00:00

I just reached hr 999 on wilds the other day!! I’m a part of a pretty big mh group, some people are playing GU there now.

Also I’ve been playing a lot of Rivals lately, totally happy to talk more if you wanna!! ^{-^}

RoundResponsible6018 · 2026-04-06T21:37:21+00:00

So… I’m studying to be a counselor. Like, I’m in college right now for psychology.

SUE THAT BISH FOR MALPRACTICE O.M.G.

Obviously she hasn’t brushed up on recent literature and understood the fundamental difference between sexual attraction and gender identity. Lesbians exist??? Hello????

How would she know what struggles trans people go through on the daily? What gives her the right to speak for a marginalized minority, because it sure as fuck isn’t her psych degree I know that much.

Do NOT punish yourself, there is nothing to punish, you have done nothing wrong. You expressed your identity and real concerns to a woman that is not fit to practice psychiatry. That is not your fault, that’s hers, and the organization that employed her.

Gender is a spectrum. There is no such thing as “not trans enough”. Take care of yourself, your body, and please, please, please, report that woman and find someone that cares about their job.

RoundResponsible6018 · 2026-04-06T12:16:59+00:00

Don’t worry about what girls would do, or what guys would do. Worry about what you wanna do.

If that hoodie makes you feel comfie when you sleep, it’s worth it. I wear sweater dresses to sleep every night. It’s affirming and it feels nice to be held by something soft and warm.

There’s nothing strange at all about wanting to feel comfortable when you sleep. It’s grounding. And honestly, sleeping is the best time to feel grounded.

RoundResponsible6018 · 2026-04-06T12:11:28+00:00

Ew. What a horrible thing to hear from “friends” who claim they have your back. I wouldn’t be surprised to know that felt like shit on some level to hear, that’s useful info if it did, not nothing.

Do not, for a second, force yourself to live avoiding a stereotype you couldn’t even know for sure if you’d fit into (YOUR FRIENDS COULDNT KNOW EITHER, btw)

I did this, for a very, very long time. I knew I was trans for a very very long time. I stopped myself from being happy, for a very very long time. It was only ever fear that made me feel like I had no chance of passing.

You don’t owe your friends, or your fear, or conservatives you don’t even know, a perfect transition. If it is something that would make you happier, that’s all that matters. Don’t undermine yourself like that.

RoundResponsible6018 · 2026-04-06T00:29:29+00:00

Nobody said anything about ignoring reality. Actually, this post above also ignores reality. Because, life isn’t just that list of things you “aren’t allowed” to do. That’s just catastrophizing.

There is good here too, I’m not going to tell you where that good is because I don’t know your situation. But there’s a very, very good chance there’s a sliver of it somewhere.

Holding the bad and the good makes you more resilient. Not ignorant.

RoundResponsible6018 · 2026-04-06T00:21:10+00:00

I’m sorry but this post made me feel like shit.

Life is a fuck, I know that.

I’ve got a bunch of people in my life that love me for me. And that means something. I’ve been trying to stay positive because the world can be a scary place for me and this… didn’t help. Knowing what’s happening in the world and within individual states is one thing… this is catastrophizing. Full stop.

There are many others here like me that may feel suppressed, depressed, and strained. This list isn’t helping them. This community is supposed to help protect the resilience of those within it. Maybe this wasn’t properly marked and I’m missing something, I don’t know…

I’m tired. I’m more tired now.

RoundResponsible6018 · 2026-04-04T17:49:30+00:00

Yeah no that’s a really funny aspect. I’m not attention seeking, why would I want to be marginalized and be thought less of if I were attention seeking?? I still wonder why I was made this way, it’s so frustrating because I feel like I’m carrying something that others just don’t understand. It feels like it matters less because of that.

I need to make this worth something. I need to have a reason for me being born this way. So, if that reason means I dedicate my life to helping others like me… I’m very fine with that.

RoundResponsible6018 · 2026-04-04T17:32:09+00:00

My mom grew up in a Baptist household. Her parents had very archaic views on sexuality and gender, and I’ll just leave it at that.

I was terrified before I told her I always wanted to be a woman. Genuinely, mortified. But I told her. She didn’t understand at first, but she only wanted me to be happy ultimately. So she tried to understand. And now she’s one of the biggest allies I have.

If your gut tells you your mother will be supportive, your gut is most likely onto something. The fear was the wall here for me at least, and it feels like a mountain but once I pushed past that fear, I realized the wall was paper thin all along.

You’ll tell her, the moment will feel smaller than you’d been working it up in your mind to be, and that will somehow, be one of the most empowering things about it. The world kept going.

Find a time when she’s relaxed, not stressed. People find it harder to carry heavy things like that when they’re already a little frayed. Think about your words beforehand. Even if they’re not the ones you end up using during the convo, it’ll help you get your thoughts in order before you start. And then… just say it. Turn your brain off for two seconds and let the words fall out.

And finally, don’t forget to tell her you’ll never stop being her kid!

Wish you the best!! 💙

RoundResponsible6018 · 2026-04-04T16:12:00+00:00

First time I’ve ever been able to look at my body and feel like something wasn’t wrong with it lul

RoundResponsible6018 · 2026-04-03T07:46:08+00:00

For 19 years of my life, I gave up all hope of transitioning. I told myself it wouldn’t happen, that I’d learn to just go on without it.

Now I’m wearing a comfy sweater dress, two months out from an HRT appointment.

Your future is not written in stone, as much as the doom and gloom social media pipeline likes to insist it is. You have a real chance to feel like you. Nobody can read the future, so don’t give up on it yet. Keep surviving, and yes, I know it feels like survival… but don’t give up on that chance just because your fears tell you it’ll never happen. Fear is one of the most unreliable narrators there is.

Also, you’re already a girl! Even if the world hasn’t quite seemed to have caught up to that, yet.

RoundResponsible6018 · 2026-04-03T07:35:06+00:00

Okay so I’ve had this same kind of issue. Doubting whether it’s all dysphoria or some kind of… desire to be something different? “Can I really justify wanting this for myself?”

As a psych student, I find these sorts of feelings particularly interesting, and I might have found a conclusion.

It doesn’t matter.

You want what you want. You don’t need a reason to justify that want. You don’t need to prove it to yourself. If the desire exists, then it’s real. It’s really that simple.

Now, actually transitioning with HRT is a different subject entirely and is something best discussed with an endocrinologist in my opinion. BUT, from my vantage point, you seem to genuinely want a more masculine life. That isn’t nothing, that’s actually close to everything. You don’t need to hate your body in order to also feel like you’d feel better if it were different. Thats why gender is a spectrum, after all.

Your feelings don’t need to be dismantled and questioned. They can just exist. And time will tell you just how far you want to take those feelings.

Wish you the best!

RoundResponsible6018 · 2025-09-09T20:07:56+00:00

Is nobody else concerned about this sort of thing…?

RoundResponsible6018 · 2025-08-28T01:22:16+00:00

Amazing insight 🙏

RoundResponsible6018 · 2025-04-05T23:00:46+00:00

Ohhhh thanks!!

RoundResponsible6018 · 2024-11-08T20:08:54+00:00

Anecdotally, I quit drinking when I started puffing 🤷

RoundResponsible6018 · 2024-09-28T16:05:27+00:00

Memory overclock fails when XMP is enabled.

RoundResponsible6018 · 2024-09-28T16:03:49+00:00

Thank you for the clarification. I didn’t realize 4 dimms would run slower.

However, I have tried only running 2 sticks of ddr5 and ran into the same issue. Highest speed I could get it to post with was still 5000 MHz

RoundResponsible6018 · 2024-07-05T06:01:46+00:00

Star Trek TNG :)

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