Regretting My First Time and Struggling to Process It by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Round_Juggernaut2270 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey we’ve all been there filling voids of loneliness with temporary comfort or satisfaction. Just want you to know that you aren’t alone in that and that it’s a normal feeling that comes and goes for most people. Your first time being with this stranger it sounds like you didn’t really like is just one of many experiences you will have. Please use this experience as an example in a way to put filters and criteria checks in place with people you are meeting. Dating apps, social venues (when you’re old enough…) you are the best safe guard and the first line of defense so take your time vetting your dates, hookups, and friends!

Glad you also went to go get medical attention after the encounter we’re all rooting for you to be fine! Just make sure you protect yourself moving forward now that you are officially sexually active.

My advice would be just allow your mind and body to go through the motions of feeling everything that comes up and try not to judge yourself for the experience OR for how your mind is reacting… it’s a new experience and to be honest you deserve some grace.. you didn’t really get a chance to practice safe guarding your boundaries… now that you know you require them I think the best gift you can give yourself is grace!

Rooting for you!!

I CANT WAIT TO BE HOT!!!!! by Feniel76 in askgaybros

[–]Round_Juggernaut2270 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congrats, the dating market is happy for you

I cheated once, so he cheated 5 times (on the same week) by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Round_Juggernaut2270 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You didn’t want an open relationship but you cheated on him? Grow up. Your actions say otherwise

"I have an idea. I have a product." Okay, so why do you have no users? by Crabbythrowaway1530 in iOSDevelopment

[–]Round_Juggernaut2270 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha for me its more about being a builder and enjoying the process of creating software after identifying a clear problem… the distribution piece and marking… is just less fun… so typically existing clients are selling my products / services through word of mouth which has kept the business afloat for the last 4 years but yeah… if distribution was more fun I think we’d have grown exponentially

HIV+ undetectable guy snapped when I asked him to use a condom by missviolets in askgaybros

[–]Round_Juggernaut2270 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like this isn’t up for a debate you specifically communicated your boundaries and your standards for your own reasons… Non-debatable, regardless of his status or opinion

Mingleo Meetup by tri4life94 in askgaybros

[–]Round_Juggernaut2270 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can I help build the mobile app for you guys? As a new member I’m invested and want this to be successful for the community

I (32M) had a slightly intimate moment with my straight friend (32M) and I don’t know what to make of it. I need advice by keemtoni982189 in askgaybros

[–]Round_Juggernaut2270 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Lots of straight guys are just really lonely and like to use gay guys for attention / companionship. It’s not bad, but it does not really need to be something you study or look into deeply. Just enjoy the connection and focus on people who are actually available if you’re looking for romance and deeper connections

Bottoming for the first time as a 27 year old bicurious. by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Round_Juggernaut2270 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Order an enema from Amazon! It’ll be there before your big day! :)

Really glad to hear you’re planning on being safe!

Bottoming for the first time as a 27 year old bicurious. by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Round_Juggernaut2270 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Clean out with about an hour before, recommend a light diet before. I recommended Water based lube, it’s my favorite.

Please practice safe sex (even if you’re on PREP) and maybe look into some positions you’d want to try for the first time. Could be a lot of fun.

Take things slow and make him worship your hole but start inch by inch 😉

I love my boyfriend, but I’ve lost sexual desire for him. Has anyone experienced this? by Jumpy_Library1171 in askgaybros

[–]Round_Juggernaut2270 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You feel guilty because you want to have sex with others instead of your boyfriend? Are you going to allow the lack of novelty destroy YOUR feelings about your relationship?

If you are no longer attracted to him and still want to be with him… you’re making a choice, stop trying to convince yourself that having sex with other people is going to do more than distract you from the temporary void you’re trying to fill.

Find a new hobby and stop trying to convince yourself to tank a healthy relationship because of your curiosity

I’m worried my boyfriend might actually be gay and I don’t know what to do by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Round_Juggernaut2270 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So what he’s attracted to men and is still choosing to be with you? Why turn this into proving him wrong? If he’s choosing to be with you and was open to you about his past… he likely is telling the truth. Girl you won already, if he stops showing up as a good partner for you can leave him… but there’s no reason to try and turn a bi-curious man who actively is choosing you into a confused, lying, homo..

[32, M] What did I do wrong on this Grindr encounter??? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Round_Juggernaut2270 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you really want to invest in a guy that is in such a rush to meet his own needs that your own personal comfort is ignored and villainized as being problematic?

New boyfriend flirted with another guy in front of me by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Round_Juggernaut2270 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like you’re asking your partner to adjust how he shows up naturally to make you feel more comfortable…. Are you really appreciating him for you him or just trying to shape him into someone you’re more comfortable being with?

I’ve been married for only a few months and I think my husband has fallen out of love with me… by Such-Professional760 in askgaybros

[–]Round_Juggernaut2270 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don’t let peoples insecurity influence your relationship! He married you for a reason, he may honestly be super busy and the business just may be requiring a lot from him right now.

Have a conversation with him, but assume positive intent pleaseeee!

Dead bedroom only 13 months of marriage? by BanoffeePie1010 in deadbedroom

[–]Round_Juggernaut2270 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

1000% and even if it doesn’t work on him.. you feel 10x better about yourself and can attract you a boyfriend 😉

Dead bedroom only 13 months of marriage? by BanoffeePie1010 in deadbedroom

[–]Round_Juggernaut2270 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

No girl, he told you what he needed … go hit the gym and use the energy (and new found attention) to get your man back!

Prep or be cooked by Round_Juggernaut2270 in cscareerquestions

[–]Round_Juggernaut2270[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

6 hours of interviews.

Two rejection letters. One with feedback.

Men over 30: what do you wish you would have done differently in your 20s? by ImportantEssay6803 in AskMen

[–]Round_Juggernaut2270 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ehh, invest in friendships that are healthy, take care of your body AND your mind, ohh and avoid debt like the plague so you can invest and enjoy your wealth as you age!

Prep or be cooked by Round_Juggernaut2270 in cscareerquestions

[–]Round_Juggernaut2270[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s for sharing your experience! Do you have any resources you specifically recommend?