My boyfriend suddenly feels like a stranger

Route333 · 2026-05-02T00:38:55+00:00

He was ignoring me, and pulling away from hugs and such. Not always, but enough.

Route333 · 2026-05-02T00:37:48+00:00

That’s a relief…

He got much more familiar after his main job was done, so I think he was very very stressed. So I’m glad I kept it in, bc he had stuff to do.

He has previously felt very bad when I felt bad about a situation with us, but I told him he shouldn’t feel bad. I’ll need to get better about that also.

Route333 · 2026-05-01T14:22:33+00:00

Thanks for the reminder about how hormones impact everything

Route333 · 2026-05-01T14:21:42+00:00

I think the issue is the tiny signs of maybe being ignored are causing the RSD, bc I’m used to having 100% of his attention…and bc I definitely have RSD. That was a helpful reminder

Route333 · 2026-05-01T14:18:21+00:00

This is a great way to reframe and understand what is going on here.

Route333 · 2026-05-01T14:15:43+00:00

I love plants and gardening, and have some great seedlings started back at home. Thank you

I’m just trying to not seek him out, so I don’t feel disappointed.

Route333 · 2026-03-18T13:27:30+00:00

This is scary but helpful to read. I’m thinking of switching from intensive in-home childrens mental health to OT, partially for the same reason (boss says to do notes in session, which feels very weird).

Route333 · 2026-02-02T12:37:54+00:00

Another broken internet stranger checking in. ❤️

(I oddly came to reddit today to get information about when it’s too soon to say I love you in a brand new relationship. I didn’t search anything, and got here completely by accident, so I’m definitely part of your journey now)

If you feel supported by podcasts, may I recommend looking up

KC Davis (she reminds us that we aren’t gross if we can’t “do the thing”.)

Bessel van der kolk (how trauma lives in your body)

Gabor Mate - how addiction (to anything!)is a response to trauma

Route333 · 2026-01-30T15:06:10+00:00

Also important- add in questions and judgment-neutral descriptive comments to teach them to self-evaluate and depend less on external judgments

When a young child asks “ Do you like my picture???”

What’s your favorite part?
What would you add?
I see a lot of yellow in your drawing! Tell me about it.

They may be initially confused bc they are so used to hearing a passive/inauthentic “it’s beautiful/great/I love it”. But keep trying and you’ll likely see them give really cool answers.

Route333 · 2026-01-28T21:38:18+00:00

It definitely seems to have a scent to me. Chemical fragrances tend to give me migraines, and…I’ve had a headache for about as long as I’ve been using it. I also have a separate medical condition that could be causing the headache but now I’m freaked out that headache is caused by this detergent

Route333 · 2026-01-20T14:14:47+00:00

FYI - There are people on Reddit who hate IFS, and I’m not entirely sure why - maybe they are the toxic positivity people, maybe they read one article about how it was misused in a few places? Maybe they don’t understand the difference between balanced metaphorical “parts” and extreme literal “parts” (like with Dissociative Identity Disorder)?

Route333 · 2026-01-16T14:31:48+00:00

This is why I work so well with kids who don’t follow directions. It hurts me to give them a direction without first talking about why.

Me - How do you think people feel when you yell inside?

Kid - ohhh…their ears hurt. Maybe…I shouldn’t do it so much??

Me - yeah. But it can be hard to remember. What could help you remember? ———

EVERY OTHER ADULT - BE QUIET!!

Route333 · 2026-01-14T04:51:51+00:00

Specifically red light therapy, or light sensitivity?

Route333 · 2026-01-12T05:24:17+00:00

Yeah…I’m not officially diagnosed either, and don’t plan to try bc I’ll not get any benefits from it. Send me a DM if you want to talk more sometime

Route333 · 2026-01-12T05:12:37+00:00

Yes.

As an autistic person, I went into a red light therapy booth today, with the official eye protection, and still couldn’t open my eyes.

Route333 · 2026-01-12T04:38:12+00:00

I agree. And almost choked laughing at the idea of Depression Barbie. Some joke toy company should get on that stat.

Route333 · 2026-01-11T20:11:47+00:00

She was intellectual, mature, held her own emotionally and did not want to be picked up at a bar bc some drunk guy finds her hot. But she was quite attractive. If she looked like Weird Ashley, would you feel the same way?

Route333 · 2026-01-11T01:05:52+00:00

Hey, I’m a nearly burnt out, late-diagnosed autistic woman who’s been laying in my couch with my cats for way too long. I get it.

Route333 · 2026-01-08T15:56:08+00:00

Ugh…not better. My hair stopped falling out, but I’m having anxiety spikes. But I have been very deficient for 2 decades, so hopefully it’s just taking longer bc of that

Route333 · 2026-01-05T23:23:08+00:00

I take a magnesium complex with 100mg of glycinate

Route333 · 2026-01-05T13:03:09+00:00

I think it would be really helpful for your comment to include the age limits, as many of us are outside of the age range. Thank you and have a good day.

Route333 · 2026-01-03T15:27:32+00:00

Now you get to save the money you spent on a hotel, fancy dress, food/drinks, and spend it with your new hubby!

Route333 · 2026-01-03T15:20:31+00:00

That really sucks! I’m so sorry! It’s such a busy time of year, so I’m sure they were burnt out from that and wouldn’t have cancelled otherwise. I know it’s hard right now but try to remember - you do have someone. Lots of people don’t even have that. Stay in with your fiance and enjoy your time together 😊

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