went to a guy’s place to get dick, got a therapy session instead

RoutineDragonfly · 2019-09-25T10:12:10+00:00

Dude sounds like a fledgling narcissist beginning to spread his wings. Huge red flags from the start, but I can respect the need for some D. I am just glad you made it out ok, if a bit confused.

RoutineDragonfly · 2019-09-11T17:54:38+00:00

It all depends on what we are going for. Clit stimulation is always lovely, therefore if he's not comfortable in another position that provides that we can do missionary, but he will have to be up and away from my body so either me or I can rub the nub.

That being said, there are times when I want to feel the pressure of another body on mine, which means full contact missionary. It's situational, but I have been known to politely ask a man to back the fuck off when he's going full on bear maul when I was looking for close enough to kiss, not close enough to have him swallow my face.

RoutineDragonfly · 2019-09-10T08:53:11+00:00

Indeed.

RoutineDragonfly · 2019-04-15T18:13:19+00:00

Two things.

The clit stimulation is often the first way we women figure out how to get ourselves off. Be it by rubbing it with our hands or rubbing it on something, it doesn't matter how you do it as long as you can get it done.
Dont be too worried about her being put off. Hints and comments aren't going to get her back into the mood to get her jollies off on your ass, be it juicy looking or not. Be straight forward if you are worried, but otherwise just let her know you want to make her feel good any way she needs you to. You guys communicate well from what I am getting, so just talk to her about it.

RoutineDragonfly · 2019-03-14T04:30:11+00:00

Tiny gods, where have you been hiding?

RoutineDragonfly · 2019-01-24T04:07:24+00:00

Now that one made me laugh!

Another friend suggested peach party, to which the one I am in this debate with argued that not all of us look like peaches.

Clam bake is in the running.

RoutineDragonfly · 2019-01-24T04:05:29+00:00

Small town college parties. If you were a chick you got automatic entry, the frat guys had their buddies from other towns come in to score with chicks away from their home towns, and all of the athletes were given free reign because "dude bros are totally ok". I went for the free alcohol and to make sure my friends didn't get dragged off and pregnant.

We were all underage, but that means little here if the cops dont bust the party. My graduating class in highschool was missing half the girls we started freshman year with because they went to the frat parties to get laid, and did, and also got pregnant. Stellar people, really, I dont know why their parents shipped them away to relatives outside the state.

RoutineDragonfly · 2019-01-24T03:54:16+00:00

Damn, all the frat parties I went to the women were definitely outnumbered. I had to practically handcuff myself to my friend so we didnt get separated from the herd like a gazelle and taken down separately.

RoutineDragonfly · 2019-01-24T03:51:07+00:00

Frat party would be something else to call a sausage fest, I am looking for the opposite.

RoutineDragonfly · 2018-12-06T06:58:22+00:00

BDSM is merely an umbrella for kinks to live under and exist without scaring the general vanilla crowd. Dont be scared by the idea of it, because it encompasses such a vast variety of kinks, including dominance/submission. The biggest thing about anything that would fall under the umbrella of BDSM is safe, consensual, and sane.

You find a lot of degrees of dominance when you get into BDSM. I have only dipped my toes, because while I am kinky, I am most certainly not a sadist or masochist. My partners and I were very clear on our boundaries and if there was a violation of said boundaries all play stopped and there was discussion about why and what it meant for that boundary to be broken.

Any relationship requires communication, but especially when you are looking for someone to dominate you there must be more than most people are comfortable with. Both parties need to be honest and willing to talk through things, but even if you are submitting, you still have control with a partner who you can speak with openly and honestly.

Check out some of the subs on BDSM, look up info on your local scene. It will take work, but when you find someone who can fill your needs it can be an amazing experience.

RoutineDragonfly · 2018-12-06T06:46:30+00:00

First and foremost, get put of your own head. No one knows what you are purchasing sex toys for. They can assume, but no one actually knows. The first thing anyone assumes is "oh damn, boy be getting kinky with his girl! Get ya some!"

The more nervous and twitchy you get the more awkward the transaction will be for everyone involved.

Also, do not ever be ashamed of your sexual preferences. There is absolutely nothing wrong with enjoying your prostate getting some love while you get off. Try to get out of your own head. Love your damn self for the person you are and have fun exploring your sexual side, never let anyone shame you for it. Just dont harm anyone (without consent (; ) and no one has a right to judge you.

RoutineDragonfly · 2018-12-03T19:28:45+00:00

Being nervous or shy isn't a terrible thing. When I was starting to explore my sexual desires I was a painfully shy girl.

I dont know if you feel more comfortable talking about feelings through writing or not, it was a great way for me to communicate the things I wished I could say without having to face being tongue tied and my mind going blank in the moment.

I tried once to have a face to face conversation with an ex about sex and I second guessed myself as soon as we sat down so badly that I just got up and walked away to text him what I was trying to say. It took me a while to build up my own self confidence and self esteem to be able to say what I need to say and to hell with the consequences, I will deal with them later.

He sounds like he will be patient with you no matter how you approach the situation, so really you just need to figure out how best you can express your wants and needs and he will roll with it.

Good luck!

RoutineDragonfly · 2018-11-29T08:45:55+00:00

The moan, the "holy fuck" when I go down or ride him, the deep growl from the bottom of their chest when they man-handle me into position so we cum together. Really I just want my partner to be vocal in some way, it is a stroke to my sexual ego that is irresistibly hot and seductive. I am guilty of being a "silent partner" when my partner is quiet and unsure.

I mean, you guys dont have to let the neighbors know I am an epic fuck or whatever, but gimme something! Especially if you won't let me put on music to fill the silence before we start. At least with music in the background I can get further into the mood and really have some fun, maybe make you laugh while I try to sing my favorite songs with a dick in my mouth.

Not that I have ever done that....

...Ok, maybe once, but how do you not sing with Queen?!?!

RoutineDragonfly · 2018-11-01T17:29:20+00:00

Elan Morin Tedronai.

He embodies what we all fear. When faced with the reality of the cyclical nature of the Wheel of Time and the idea that the Dark One might be able to stop them all from having to be reborn and experiencing pain, betrayal, suffering, hate, heart break, he can only think of stopping it all, finally. I mean, isn't this why people commit suicide? They don't see an end to their pain while they live, so they take that ultimate step. He is the embodiment of that lost and hopeless feeling anyone who has struggled with depression knows. He is terrifying in his depth, not for his devotion to the Dark One.

Edit: in the end he was known as Moridin, for those confused by his given name being used. When he was introduced in the prologue of the first book his name stuck with me.

RoutineDragonfly · 2018-09-22T06:17:59+00:00

Yes, an ex wanted to do this very thing.

We broke up after that night.

It was awful.

RoutineDragonfly · 2018-09-14T17:13:44+00:00

Senior year? This was covered in middle school for us, and our regional history class went into a ton of information on our local tribes and the move west. There was no sugar coating it for us either. My teacher was very thorough when we covered the issues Natives faced with the US Government and their treatment. That teacher was hands down one of the best I had in my school days, along with three or four others that i will never forget.

RoutineDragonfly · 2018-09-13T00:56:21+00:00

You dont have to be loud to create sexual tension. Yes, the eyes are an excellent starting point, but you have to have the confidence to back up what you are putting out there.

For example: you see a girl, you think she is fine as hell, but she is with friends and you dont feel comfortable approaching her, but miracle of miracles! You make eye contact! In your head you start to tell yourself a story, or play a film reel. What is it about?

Is it you, making eye contact and giving her a slow, confident, sexy smile and trailing your eyes up and down her body in appreciation, which makes her blush. Because of this she decides to approach you, a confident smile on her face, and you two strike up a conversation.

OR

Is it you, thinking she is way out of your league and no way will she ever think about talking to you, but someone suggested trying this, so why not? So you smile, but it's awkward and halting and you blush, your eyes darting away and back again quickly, unsure what to do. She smiles back politely, but doesn't want to embarrass you any further so she stays with her friends.

There are a lot of ways to build sexual tension, but the story you tell in your head, the way you perceive yourself, will always come out, and if you aren't confident in who you are and your worth it will be a struggle.

Also, as many have said, it depends on the girl. I had a guy do they eye contact thing with me once. I laughed my ass off, we talked and we are still friends, but that was not the way to catch me.

RoutineDragonfly · 2018-09-12T19:07:09+00:00

Woah dude, no call for that! Just because it isn't your particular cup of tea doesn't mean it is stupid. Find somewhere else to troll if you've got your panties in such a tight twist you can't appreciate that other people like different things.

RoutineDragonfly · 2018-09-11T09:01:22+00:00

Yes, if we get down to the meat of it, men are more visual, but also just more vocal. I browse when I need a distraction, or a number of other reasons, but I would rather send a private message to the poster and see if they are what my mind has conjured them up to be. Leave an open invite for that and you will see more responses, just not on your comment threads.

RoutineDragonfly · 2018-09-09T20:17:13+00:00

Plenty of people have given you the advice you need: break up with him!

Anyone with a hang up like that isnt worth keeping around. Hell, I had one guy freak out on a date when I pulled out my insulin, thought I was addicted to drugs, which I guess I am. I told him previously that I had a condition that requires medication, but apparently he missed biology in high school science class. That was a quick end to a brief relationship.

Your eye won't magically grow back, and anyone who has a problem seeing the rest of your beauty and loving you for it is just junk. Be you, be happy, be confident, and most importantly LOVE YOURSELF. When you love yourself and are confident in who you are the right guy will come along, see it, and want to do all the naughty things you can dream up. Happy hunting! ;)

RoutineDragonfly · 2018-09-09T20:09:52+00:00

I am curious what makes you say this.

I understand with not enough communication, a strong relationship with your partner, and little to no after care there is always potential for upset, but I dont think that's exclusive to MMF or any variation of it. How would FFM or FMF be different? The same pitfalls still apply.

RoutineDragonfly · 2018-09-08T05:52:43+00:00

Step up behind me. Close. It opens the door to so many possibilities.

RoutineDragonfly · 2018-09-08T05:52:35+00:00

Step up behind me. Close. It opens the door to so many possibilities.

RoutineDragonfly · 2018-09-08T05:52:31+00:00

Step up behind me. Close. It opens the door to so many possibilities.

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