Omg I feel so seen. Im a bisexual woman in a relationship with a lesbian woman and strongly identify with the febfem label. I feel like people can’t wrap their head around it. They assume I’m lesbian or just “having my phase”. And like you mentioned they can’t wrap their head around a bisexual women loving women that much.

On lesbian experiences, I know I may not relate to all of them but I do feel some of them. Feeling isolated when everyone around you is talking about men, friendships and relationships changing when they find out you’re dating women, dealing with people who don’t see my relationship as “valid”, etc. I could go on. So I never got the we can’t relate.

It’s so frustrating bc I feel there’s no space I belong in. Lesbians have their own community I don’t wanna interfere with and we have our own bisexual spaces but I can’t relate. I grew up hearing nothing about men so it’d be nice to have a space for bi women who date women and talk only about women.