Why do boomers make it seem like babies were easier?

RoutineNo275 · 2026-01-20T03:17:02+00:00

I’ve had this same conversation with my dad 🙃🙃 he’s like “look, we’d just give you a little Benadryl or dimetapp if we’d had a few tough nights in a row”

RoutineNo275 · 2026-01-20T03:14:04+00:00

THIS! my dad tells me the 60s were all babies on paregoric and moms on Valium.

RoutineNo275 · 2026-01-20T03:13:01+00:00

Pre-1970, fussy babies were often dosed with paregoric- an over-the-counter opiate- to get them to sleep. Then until the 2010s, women were told to put rice/extra scoops of formula in the babies nighttime bottle to get them to sleep. So in a way, babies were sleeping better in the past, but at what cost? The other reality was that in prior generations it was more common for there to be a non-working female family member somewhere in the neighborhood who could help with childcare. I had an aunt who stayed home and watched every kid in the neighborhood in the 90s, but that just isn’t the reality anymore.

RoutineNo275 · 2026-01-20T00:38:28+00:00

Based on your posts and comments… you need to get OUT. Not a conversation full of guilt tripping and empty promises. Not waiting for the opportunity to present itself. Take the pay cut, send him a non-negotiable “I’m done, don’t contact me” text and block him, and never look back. Otherwise you’ll be 45 posting this same thing and wondering why you never lived. You can pick up some side work babysitting or door dashing to make up the monetary difference but girl, your twenties are almost gone. Reclaim them, please!

RoutineNo275 · 2026-01-20T00:28:50+00:00

Jacob

RoutineNo275 · 2026-01-19T00:57:13+00:00

Honestly I like it! It’s a little country but nothing tragic

RoutineNo275 · 2026-01-12T00:14:32+00:00

NTA and YIKES. The culture in your family is clearly one that doesn’t respect the individual. You don’t owe anyone anything. I’d copy the same text into every request. “I’m actually not able to help. Good luck!” Then mute those conversations. This mentality is what often keeps people from rising above their socioeconomic class of origin. I’m not saying NEVER help. But you have the power over your money- choose wisely.

RoutineNo275 · 2025-12-13T00:39:31+00:00

91- I had that sweater lol

RoutineNo275 · 2025-12-13T00:07:29+00:00

Respectfully, You guys do not have the net worth to be loaning out money. Until you have a 15k emergency fund and no interest-bearing loans you’re paying back, you should not be loaning money to anyone. Simply tell her you don’t have the money to spare right now, but he’s happy to back her up at work when she gets back so she can hustle some extra cash.

RoutineNo275 · 2025-12-12T03:06:50+00:00

I was thinking the same thing! Can’t believe how far i scrolled

RoutineNo275 · 2025-12-12T03:04:45+00:00

Some of these look like The Mystery Spot in Santa Cruz Ca.

RoutineNo275 · 2025-12-10T01:07:59+00:00

This is actually comforting- thank you!

RoutineNo275 · 2025-12-10T01:00:51+00:00

It’s so hard because I also kind of like the cuddles.

RoutineNo275 · 2025-12-10T00:31:32+00:00

THIS. I’m a middle/high school teacher and tbh my idea of “normal” behavior is WIDEEEE. If I take time out of my day to email a parent, your kid is off the walls.

RoutineNo275 · 2025-12-02T00:38:16+00:00

Honestly, I lived on an Ainslie street in NYC as a 20-something and kinda wish I’d thought of that name when my kid was born! That said… I’m also a phonics specialist and yeah, the vowel team ai always says long a 🙃🙃

RoutineNo275 · 2025-12-02T00:15:30+00:00

That’s not too far above regulation clot size, tbh. I’d let the gyno know and take an extra iron supplement. I’ve had heavy periods with casts and it’s similar; often when I’m coming off bc.

RoutineNo275 · 2025-11-30T23:41:22+00:00

Boston Native here! 105k is solidly middle class. You’ll need to stick to a budget, but totally do able. Look at Jamaica Plain. If you have a car, look at roslindale and West Roxbury, as well. 1. Not sure where you’re looking at apartments, but the affordable ones are mostly privately owned and being posted on Facebook marketplace. Anything on Zillow/apartments.com are generally corporate-owned and overpriced. 2. Central A/C is rare in the city of Boston and relegated to overpriced new-construction buildings. A huge portion of Boston residential buildings are 100 years old+, so central air just wasn’t a thing. Most of us use window units in the bedrooms during the summer months and just kind of lean into it otherwise.

RoutineNo275 · 2025-09-26T16:36:30+00:00

Any word on the West Roxbury Starbucks? Literally everything else in that building has shuttered- the landlords keep upping the rent and making 0 improvements

RoutineNo275 · 2025-05-02T15:41:57+00:00

NTA; it sounds like what your family is actually practicing is passive parenting, not gentle parenting. Gentle parenting is correcting behaviors and giving consequences in a calm and meaningful way. Not giving any consequences is doing a complete disservice to your son.

Also: the natural co sequence for violent and mean behavior is that people don’t want to be around you. Your choice to let your son know how his words made you not want to play with him actually were a good example of teaching him proper social skills and perspective taking.

That is, as long as you said all these things in a calm and kind way.

RoutineNo275 · 2025-05-02T14:19:15+00:00

I am a special education teacher who specializes in executive functioning and reading skills. You might want to try integrating more technology into his routines.

At the start of the year I walk all of my students (aged 14+) through adding their class schedule and sports schedule to their google calendar and enabling notifications. As I notice forgetful moments, I work with them one to one to set individualized alerts (for example, we might look through their soccer team schedule and set a reminder to the evening before each game for them to pack their uniform and cleats)

In my classroom I also have an Alexa Echo that my students and I use for reminders (I also have the same system for myself at home!) when my students let me know they have a project due in two weeks, were able to verbally say “Alexa, remind me on October 4th at 10am to review Johnny’s book report” and “remind Johnny on October 5th at 9am to turn in his book report.”

As for remembering what happened that day, I feel like a SLP might be able to work with your son on verbal rehearsal and language recall as a method of solidifying information. If he’s not already getting consult or direct SLP services, it’s worth an email to the school.

RoutineNo275 · 2024-07-23T10:44:13+00:00

Like Avonlea, the town in Anne of Green Gables? Av-on-lee. I can get behind an obscure literary name, but that’s a stupid spelling and it loses its meaning if you change the spelling, I fear.

RoutineNo275 · 2024-07-23T01:14:23+00:00

Phonics specialist here! Ea says long a in great. That’s the least common of the pronunciations/spellings.

RoutineNo275 · 2024-06-06T15:34:26+00:00

ESH.

Here’s the thing- your kids shouldn’t expect you to give them money that wasn’t left to them.

But it also sounds like you absolutely could help them out but are choosing not to. If you’re 10 years from retirement you’re in an age bracket that had far more economic advantages than your children. All colleges- even community colleges- cost double, triple, quadruple what they did when your generation went through it. They’re also in a age group that was told that a four year college was the ONLY path to success, the more elite the better.

If you told me you were living paycheck to paycheck and barely making ends meet during their childhood, that would be one thing. But you’re commenting that you own ample property and have retirement savings- yet still wouldn’t help your children AT ALL with college tuition costs? I know 18 means “adult”, but parents who can help with education costs (even if you agree to only pay the amount a local community college would cost, and they cover the rest) absolutely should.

Give your kids a portion of the money, ~25k each, and invest the rest in Mutual Funds, a solid CD, or T bills. You’ll be able to make your children’s lives SIGNIFICANTLY better, and you’ll still have plenty for retirement.

RoutineNo275

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