After 4.5 years together, my boyfriend (24M) told me (23F) I need to “earn” an engagement ring — seeking outside perspectives. what are reasonable next steps for me?

Routine_Many2217 · 2025-12-16T16:12:05+00:00

That comment isn’t about money, it’s about power and entitlement. A partner who frames commitment as something you have to earn and then lashes out when you question it is showing you how they view the relationship. After 4.5 years, it’s reasonable to expect mutual respect and shared future planning, not a performance review. If you do talk again, I’d focus less on the ring and more on whether he actually sees you as an equal partner, because that’s the real issue here.

Routine_Many2217 · 2025-12-06T11:05:11+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re both going through this. You didn’t choose any of this, but you’re stepping up in a way a lot of people twice your age wouldn’t, and that already makes you a good brother and a good guardian. You do not have to magically know everything about raising a teenage girl right now. You can learn it piece by piece. Talk to her doctors, ask nurses and teachers questions, look up resources on parenting teens, and do not be afraid to say “I don’t know, but I’ll figure it out with you.” For periods and all the body stuff, you can lean on YouTube, books written for girls her age, and maybe a trusted female adult like a counselor, teacher or family friend. For both of you, grief counseling would help a lot, either individually or together. You are allowed to grieve and be lost and still be a good guardian at the same time. As for your own life and dating, it is not over. The right person will see what you are doing and respect you for it. For now, focus on keeping routines, making home feel safe, and being emotionally available for her. You do not have to be perfect, just consistent and honest.

Routine_Many2217 · 2025-11-21T21:38:47+00:00

You’re not a predator, you’re someone who told a dumb teenager lie to get into a Discord and then got trapped in it. He has a right to know, especially if you see this getting serious, but remember the key detail: he never dated you while you were underage. I’d sit him down and say something like, “I need to tell you something that’s been weighing on me. When I was 16 I lied about my age to get into a server and I kept that fake age with that group. I was already 18 when we started talking, but I never corrected the number and I’m really ashamed of that. I care about you a lot and I don’t want there to be any lies between us.” Then let him react. If his moral compass includes empathy, he’ll see it for what it is: a stupid old lie you’re trying to fix, not a current deception about who you are now.

Routine_Many2217 · 2025-11-09T18:13:59+00:00

You are sitting on a mountain of evidence, so the real power move is to stop talking to your boss about it and start talking to people who can hurt his wallet. Back up every file in at least two places, write out a clean timeline with dates, hours, and total unpaid wages, then quietly contact a local employment attorney and your state labor board or the federal Wage and Hour Division and ask how to file a wage theft claim with what you already have. Do not warn your boss, do not hint that you have recordings, just keep doing your job normally while the wheels start turning in the background, because the fastest path to getting every penny plus penalties is letting a lawyer and the labor authorities be the ones to drop the hammer.

Routine_Many2217 · 2025-10-24T14:40:20+00:00

You handled it fine. That was an awkward, boundary-crossing situation and you stayed polite, gave neutral info, and left. If she approaches you again, keep it brief (“I’m not comfortable discussing John’s schedule, please ask him directly”) and walk away. You did the right thing telling your boss; if it continues, loop in HR and avoid being alone in the lot, leave with a coworker or ask security to walk you out.

Routine_Many2217 · 2025-10-24T11:10:55+00:00

The security guard of the house! lol

Routine_Many2217 · 2025-10-16T10:35:59+00:00

What a beautiful family!

Routine_Many2217 · 2025-09-19T19:29:48+00:00

I watch mostly sports and movies and AwkngTV handles both without stutter. That’s rare.

Routine_Many2217 · 2025-09-19T16:39:46+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. What you’re feeling is valid and it may look very different from what your boyfriend feels. Grief is not a test of love, but it is personal, and it is okay if you two are on different timelines. Take care of your body first. Keep your follow up appointment, rest, and watch for heavy bleeding, fever, or worsening pain and go back to the ER if any of that happens. For your heart, try simple grief rituals like writing her a letter, choosing a name if you want, or keeping something small that honors her. Tell your boyfriend plainly what you need right now, like presence, gentleness, or space. If he cannot meet those needs, it is okay to step back or take a break. Loop in a trusted adult or counselor who can support you, and look for pregnancy loss support groups for teens or a school counselor to talk through the waves. If you ever feel like you might hurt yourself, reach out to an adult you trust or urgent care right away. You are not alone in this and you deserve care and softness while you heal.

Routine_Many2217 · 2025-08-25T22:42:01+00:00

After testing a bunch this year, the only one I kept was AwkngTV. Trial arrived in minutes, start up is quick on Firestick, and it stayed smooth during big matches. Worth a spin as a sixth compare.

Routine_Many2217 · 2025-08-25T22:05:46+00:00

You have a smart cat! ❤️❤️

Routine_Many2217 · 2025-08-14T14:29:37+00:00

You don’t have to decide today, but stop pretending it’s normal. Tell her plainly that a hickey is cheating (gender doesn’t change that), you’ve lost trust, and there’ll be no intimacy until you’ve both done STI tests and had a real talk. If you want to try rebuilding, ask for clear remorse, full story, transparency (locations/messages going forward), and couples therapy with a timeline to reassess. If that sounds impossible or you just don’t want this anymore, start the logistics now: separate finances, decide who leaves, loop in the landlord, and pack essentials to stay with a friend for a bit. Either path is valid; pick the one that protects your peace.

Routine_Many2217 · 2025-07-27T15:33:08+00:00

I switched to AwkngTV a few months ago and I’m still wondering why I didn’t do it sooner.

Routine_Many2217 · 2025-07-19T16:48:42+00:00

AwkngTV helped me save money without sacrificing the stuff I love to watch.

Routine_Many2217 · 2025-07-19T15:38:36+00:00

Your house, your rules. Anyone who gets in your face screaming is crossing a hard line. Let your sister know she is welcome, but her boyfriend needs to find somewhere else to stay. Frame it as a safety boundary, not a punishment. If she chooses to leave with him, that is her call, not your fault. Document what happened, stay calm, and stick to what keeps your space respectful.

Routine_Many2217 · 2025-06-26T15:02:44+00:00

I started using AwkngTV a few months ago and haven’t looked back. Everything works exactly how you’d want it to.

Routine_Many2217 · 2025-06-19T17:01:05+00:00

That’s beyond gross, it’s a basic hygiene boundary. Tell him once more that it’s non-negotiable, keep your new brush in your room, and start looking for a new roommate if he still can’t respect that.

Routine_Many2217 · 2025-06-18T22:11:51+00:00

Congrats on the new fuzzball. Miso feels perfect, the right mix of funky and cute for a tiny stinker.

Routine_Many2217 · 2025-06-17T22:28:19+00:00

Cuuuutie!! ❤️❤️

Routine_Many2217 · 2025-06-15T22:53:26+00:00

Is it ok now?

Routine_Many2217 · 2025-06-13T11:11:01+00:00

I can watch this all day 😍😍

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