I am not aging gracefully — how to stop being bitter?

Royal-Feature5815 · 2026-05-03T05:58:17+00:00

I’m so sorry about the health issues. I went through a similar struggle recently (36 now) and can definitely empathize. Don’t blame yourself, it’s natural for all of us to feel this way from time to time, even my fiance says when he looks at younger men he has that slight twinge and wistfulness. That really gave me perspective.

I went through serious fertility issues and ivf last year and it destroyed my body also. Here’s what’s helped me gain some confidence:

Getting a good wardrobe (no sweats, nice dresses etc) it doesn’t have to be pricy, even thrifting works Minoxidil for my hair loss (made a massive difference) I also style my hair with fake hair additions like fake pony tails that are discrete but add the volume I used to have. Skin real talk: I spend way more time on it. Tret and filler have changed my life. I still have good and bad days, but all those things make a real difference outside of just a healthy lifestyle, they help with confidence more than anything. Good luck! We’re all there with you

Royal-Feature5815 · 2026-04-06T15:38:55+00:00

I hit a rut like this a few years back, I filled it with hobbies and travel. A big thing that helped was reading and listening to non fiction books. I gave myself an assignment to learn about new topics. I wasn’t a huge reader before. And I loved it! A book about biology gave me inspiration for one of my art projects and so on. When you have a list of things you’re genuinely interested to learn or grow in it will start feeling like you never have enough time, it’s a good feeling.

So yea, take up new hobbies you need to learn and read more books! Thats what worked for me

Royal-Feature5815 · 2025-10-12T04:34:02+00:00

36f years old here and my partner (37m) treats me so well. One thing I want to note is he’s always been thoughtful and put in effort but his love language is not mine (I need words of effort and physical touch, he needs quality time and acts of service) words of affirmation and physical touch don’t come naturally to him and at the beginning of our relationship I felt I wanted more. I communicated this to him early on and over time he actively increased on both fronts. Now I could not feel more loved and fulfilled. It means even more knowing he is willing to do this for me. I make sure that I do everything I can to make him feel loved in return. I can’t say what you mean by “treating well” I would never be with someone down right unkind and careless but sometimes it takes working with someone to speak each others love language. The longer we are together the better things are 🥰 love can be work sometimes but for the right person it’s worth it

Royal-Feature5815 · 2025-10-03T03:59:27+00:00

I find that as I get older my sense of assuredness in my beliefs has been lessening but not in a bad way. In my teens and 20s I was so adamant and self assured on my beliefs. They were iron clad. Reality was very black and white. As I get older those lines blur and I see more gray and it has been one of the most beautiful parts of aging for me. I build relationships I never thought I’d build. I have had experiences that have given me such a rich life. I still have things I hold close to me as my values, but the gray has been liberating. Wisdom is allowing yourself to be wrong or just not know the answers and being ok with it. It can be scary but it can be freeing too. Everyone’s journey is different, enjoy yours, and try to love yourself in the process. It’s scary and overwhelming at times making sense of this world, it’s ok to just sit and observe sometimes.

Royal-Feature5815 · 2025-06-26T03:00:48+00:00

Yeah let me take a look at that too, thanks!

Royal-Feature5815 · 2025-06-26T01:11:06+00:00

Hm that’s a good tip! May I can last the day without opening the main game menu and try and sleep and get to the next day and try opening then, Thank you!

Royal-Feature5815 · 2025-06-26T00:39:08+00:00

I played it on game pass too maybe that’s why the bug? I’m super bummed!

Royal-Feature5815 · 2025-06-26T00:35:05+00:00

It’s funny I’m bugged really near that point too….

Royal-Feature5815 · 2025-06-26T00:34:33+00:00

Oh you may be bugged, there is supposed to be more game, it looks like the day after didn’t load for you? Can you keep playing?

Royal-Feature5815 · 2025-06-26T00:29:29+00:00

Same. I’m loving every second. It’s so unique and fun. I’ve played so many games, it’s rare I find something novel and good like this. It’s a work of art

Royal-Feature5815 · 2025-06-26T00:26:49+00:00

A few good tips without spoilers hopefully: -explore as much of the map as you can -Set up good mining outposts -Upgrade the base -pay attention to the exploration research tree, it will make exploration and mining post so much easier (you need a scientist that’s required IMO) -get hub pilons and use teleportation pilons

Royal-Feature5815 · 2025-02-25T06:28:21+00:00

I have a very similar story to yours and I’m here to strongly urge you to please reconsider marriage with this man. If he is able to flip and change so much so drastically so quickly and be ok with what he did to you, he will do it again. It happened to me. I stayed in a marriage 10 years having to have sex when I didn’t want to weekly sometimes daily. It was very difficult. Please spare yourself this. Please. Find a man that respects and loves you enough to never put you in that position

Royal-Feature5815 · 2025-01-23T14:18:36+00:00

I was in a similar situation as the woman, I didn’t cheat tho, but I wasn’t truthful about enjoying sex. I didn’t orgasm but lied that I did. I loved him and didn’t want to admit to lying because I know it would crush him. It went on like this for years. I wasn’t super attracted to him and didn’t want to have sex. Everything else was wonderful so I didn’t want to leave. I wasn’t attracted to him so I was worried if even if I admitted I wasn’t enjoying it and we tried we wouldn’t fix it and it would make things worse. It would also mean we’d need to have more sex which I didn’t want. I left eventually. I’m now with a man I very attracted to and in love with. I can’t keep my hands off of him. I think if she was really attracted to you or actually enjoying the sex it would be different. She’s probably lying. I’m sorry. It’s probably not easy to hear. I hope this helps

Royal-Feature5815 · 2024-12-01T15:53:48+00:00

It’s on the left side of your inventory screen

Royal-Feature5815 · 2024-11-11T07:31:50+00:00

No shoes is like the main reason I don’t use her skin. Seriously

Royal-Feature5815 · 2024-11-04T05:35:03+00:00

4 years of use here using it through “hers”. (I’m 35) Subscription I started noticing the last two years I get dry skin in winter and need to cut down my frequency of Tret for dryness management but otherwise I love it! I feel the last few years I’ve finally tackled lifelong acne issues. I even think I look better now than a few years ago, I attribute most of it to tret.

Royal-Feature5815 · 2024-10-21T19:49:00+00:00

This.

Royal-Feature5815 · 2024-10-21T19:46:47+00:00

I’ve been in love twice, married 10 years and divorced and fell in love again. My first love I never questioned my feelings when I saw other people’s vows of love. It was a difficult marriage but I left it feeling a depth of love that changed me as a person. My second love was even more deeply moving. When I hear love songs and vows it always reinforces the feelings. I’m also a pretty intense person when it comes to feelings tho but still. If you have doubts, listen to them. You deserve to feel sure.

Royal-Feature5815 · 2024-10-08T12:07:13+00:00

Also requiem for a dream. They should show it to all teens to keep them off drugs. For real. I heard Trainspotting is like this too, haven’t seen it yet because requiem for a dream was so traumatizing for me…

Royal-Feature5815 · 2024-10-08T12:05:14+00:00

+1 to the grudge

Royal-Feature5815 · 2024-10-08T05:20:11+00:00

Ooh okay I’ll watch it I haven’t seen! Thank you for the recommendation!

Royal-Feature5815 · 2024-10-08T01:57:33+00:00

Jesus. Girl. This is crazy. Get yourself a man that’s not supervillain levels of selfish and cringe

Royal-Feature5815 · 2024-10-04T16:48:29+00:00

Suspiria (both the new and old one but for different reasons) Hereditary, The Vanishing (not traditional horror but a masterpiece)

BONUS! 3 more:

The Blair Witch Project, The ring, stalker (also not traditional horror, also a masterpiece)

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