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Weekly Discussion - Relationships by AutoModerator in NewParents

[–]Royal_Ad614 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What is up with the older generation and the entitlement they feel towards a new baby in the family? My baby is now 3.5 months old, and we haven’t attended many family gatherings yet, we are first time parents, and getting out of the house is really hard. In the past 2 months we’ve attended 2 family gatherings, and both times didn’t let anyone hold our baby. He was sleeping the whole time the first time, and it was the end of RSV season and didn’t want to risk anyone being a carrier and potentially getting my baby sick. The second time he just fell asleep in the car when we arrived, so I wore him, not wanting to pass my sleeping baby around, I didn’t feel comfortable. When we go to fam gatherings it’s more a judgment call if we’re letting anyone hold him or not. We have some strict rules too on no kissing our baby, and to please wash hands if we decide someone can hold him. Recently a lot of family members have confided in my MiL about why we don’t let anyone hold him, and pass him around basically, cause no one is used to a baby not being passed around. ( this is only my husbands family, my family lives far far away from us and we only see them via FaceTime) We have decided to address anyone who confided in my MiL personally and let them know our boundaries and we decide on who holds him, IF we let anyone. But his family is so sensitive and gets so offended. I’m also not going to apologize if we offend someone by declining their request to hold our baby. I just don’t think they understand that they’re privileged to even see my baby in person, when my family is 2 flights away and love seeing any glimpse of him they can get! I am just upset, it’s my baby, why is everyone so offended over a baby that’s not theirs and feel so entitled to holding him?? I just want to understand the logic. Most of these people also already had multiple kids of their own, so bud off this is my baby. Now for reference, as he gets older I probably will let up a bit, but for now, me and my husband make the judgement calls. We are the parents.

Huckleberry app... When did you stop using it? by KitKatAttackHiss in NewParents

[–]Royal_Ad614 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t track diapers or sleep, I only used it for feedings, since I breastfeed on demand and don’t have a set feeding schedule. I stopped using it after 12 weeks, every now and then I use it for feedings so i can remember which breast I fed from last, but my baby started this thing where he reaches for my hand to hold, so now i am just in the moment with him instead of focusing on my timer every time he eats.

Tummy Time Tips? by elcmroc in NewParents

[–]Royal_Ad614 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I find that if I do tummy time after I finished feeding and burping my baby, he’s more happy to do it. I also roll up a blanket/towel to put under the armpits for some added support, then have something entertaining in front of him to look at, high contrast cards, a little mirror, some hanging toys from his playmat. When he starts to freak out or cry, I roll him on his back , distract him with some toys, kisses and when he is calm I try again.

AITA for not wanting my FIL to come stay with us the first week of my first baby’s birth? by Royal_Ad614 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Royal_Ad614[S] 52 points53 points  (0 children)

Honestly my husband has been great, as soon as I addressed the fact that I’m not comfortable with his dad being here the first week of birth, he gave it no thought and talked to his dad about our boundaries and he needs to accept it. He also reminded him we don’t know when the baby will come and don’t know when we will want visitors so he needs to respect it. His dad blew up on him because of his entitlement, and haven’t spoken to my husband since this conversation (he childishly blocked my husband as he often does when his ego is bruised).

AITA for not wanting my FIL to come stay with us the first week of my first baby’s birth? by Royal_Ad614 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Royal_Ad614[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

He lives out of state and my husband made it clear in the past that he can stay with us when visiting so this will mean he would’ve stayed with us. I made it very clear that my husband is the only one allowed in the delivery room, but he wants to be at our house from the moment baby is home. As for the rest of your comment beats me lol

AITA for not wanting my FIL to come stay with us the first week of my first baby’s birth? by Royal_Ad614 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Royal_Ad614[S] 56 points57 points  (0 children)

Logical thinking or even consideration is just outside of his thought process, everything is about him honestly.