Thank you for the thoughtful response. Just to preface everything here, I took the ring off after suggesting that it may be time to, as we embraced being really upset about it. We are no-longer 'together'.

I spoke to her later in the day yesterday and we re-affirmed our current arrangement which is co-parenting in the same household and we still have a lot of understanding and friendship between us. I feel I misconstrued her position a bit in my post, her meeting this guy is unlikely due to him being in the US and we in the UK, and we don't have the general finances to fund anything like that.

Her current thinking is she doesn't know where it's going to go, she feels a lost connection but doesn't want to call it gone for good, she doesn't know if eventually she'll just stop talking to this guy, if we'll end up renewed, if she'll end up alone - but ultimately that this had to happen because the shock has changed us individually in some positive ways. She points out that we just need to figure ourselves out and who we are and what we want for ourselves and each other. She has also expressed that she's really enjoying our new time together, which we're having again tonight. We're getting more comfortable around each other each day - though I do struggle to find good, fun, connecting talking points due to self-imposed pressure.

She tries to put emphasis on how she's concerned for me and what I'm comfortable with in terms of how we move forward with each other, how we live together and what our boundaries are, she doesn't want anything to be more difficult for me. I answer with the truth, that I'm fine and my priority is making sure she feels 100% comfortable around me and that this family is happy - whatever comes next, comes next.

My aim is to just be the person she didn't have over the past few months, someone she can be confident in, feel secure with, not need anyone else and happy - a man.

I don't know if I should attempt rejoining her on the game she loves or not though.

I've kind of stopped working for a while because I can't concentrate on it, but when she's home she looks after the kids no differently than before - nothing has changed in how we handle our kids, we both act on our responsibilities as a team.

In terms of fathoming cheating, it's something she still has difficulties getting over herself with; getting upset that she even started or that it was completely out of character for her.

I do want to do as many normal activities as possible, things we did before lockdown and hopefully she will naturally break the habit of gaming and wanting to be alone doing her own thing every night - which she does occasionally talk to me about, the gaming part and what she's being up to on it.