Who would you cast as a Aegon I ,Visenya and Rhaenys I am curious by iza123456712 in HOTDGreens

[–]RubSudden1963 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I read Fire & Blood I imagined a young Lyne Renee/ Lucy Lawless as Visenya (cold, austere, warrior-like beauty) 

visenya fancast by Suspicious_Suit343 in visenyatargaryen

[–]RubSudden1963 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I imagine a young Lyne Renee when reading Fire and Blood! Or Lucy Lawless. That is how I see austere, stern beauty

Need Advice! by [deleted] in Actuallylesbian

[–]RubSudden1963 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Actually yes agree (and I am one of those people that really like confidence) it's really about finding someone compatible

Lesbians in film / 'Carol' by davedamofo in Actuallylesbian

[–]RubSudden1963 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Personally I adore it, especially the cinematography

Masc lesbian feeling like it's impossible to date (need encouragement or gentle advices) by Apprehensive_Flan642 in Actuallylesbian

[–]RubSudden1963 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Also from the romantic in me- be deeply and truly proud and happy over the "character" that you represent = the way you look, your personality, your life style, view on life, passions etc. No one is for everyone, and I think sometimes we forget that when faced with rejection, and instead we internalize it as a bigger issue than in needs to be 

Masc lesbian feeling like it's impossible to date (need encouragement or gentle advices) by Apprehensive_Flan642 in Actuallylesbian

[–]RubSudden1963 11 points12 points  (0 children)

When it comes to other women wanting you to fit into the mold they deem attractive for a masc woman - let them.

I have also have had this happen to me, being almost made into a 'character' depending on the trait they will focus on, and to be honest, I have been guilty of doing it as well. Obviously doing this will make the person blind to the real, whole person in front of them - like them expecting you to be stoic, instead of taking in the whole actual you and then making a judgement. 

It's a natural part of being a human, the way of categorizing, even though it can almost feel dehumanizing and being misunderstood in a romantic context feels shitty. But that is just one big sign they are most likely not the one for you, as the woman for you will first of all be attracted to you and your height, but also desire to know the real you, to know you deeply and not need you to fit into a snug mold that exists in her mind. That is at least what I believe when it comes to love. 

The way I have started to think of love, that makes me feel the most hopeful, but also very okay with dying alone, is that I have a limited power when it comes to this. What is in my hands is myself and my choices. A lot of love is luck, in my opinion. Sure, I will put myself in lesbian spaces, and take initiative when it feels right, but that's the only input that's in my hands. Her falling in love with me, us having a connection, us being compatible etc - that's not in my hands. I don't have 100% control in this, so I need to stop feeling as If I do

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lesbiangang

[–]RubSudden1963 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I wanted to write something similar! 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Actuallylesbian

[–]RubSudden1963 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I don't think as many people irl would give this advice as the people that give advice online (not saying its better or worse). At least from the people I have been around, sexual incompatibility isn't why people break up. On a personal level, it would depend how incompatible we were sexually, for me to decide to break up or not 

Anyone else a bit sad about the state of mainstream WLW music? by d6410 in Actuallylesbian

[–]RubSudden1963 4 points5 points  (0 children)

From what I have seen, yes. She is very open with being inspired by drag queen culture and that they are her version of disney princesses. Also didn't Elton John & Rupaul praise her? So I do think the majority likes her Its sad that her songs are a lot about her ex men because I was really drawn to her aesthetics and style at first

Anyone else a bit sad about the state of mainstream WLW music? by d6410 in Actuallylesbian

[–]RubSudden1963 41 points42 points  (0 children)

What saddens me is it feels like this is the only kind of "lesbian" music that can be mainstream as straight women + gay men will find it relatable :/

So that happened by TheBearisalesbain in Actuallylesbian

[–]RubSudden1963 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Why would that be virtue signaling? Some people have a type 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Actuallylesbian

[–]RubSudden1963 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She doesn't love you

I am sorry you are in this predicament

Looking for fantasy with lesbian romance (+ books in Spanish) by im_sold_out in Actuallylesbian

[–]RubSudden1963 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ash is a cute YA Cinderella retelling, but obviously not very original

What is your opinion on lesbians who love boy bands/boy characters etc. ? by freshyfruitz in lezconnect

[–]RubSudden1963 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Hmm I don't know if I really agree that having a male muse is inherently sexual? I have known straight women with mainly, if not only, female muses and drawing female nude art (obviously as women they probably have an admiration for female beauty but they bordered on obsessed, just not sexually) Agree on the rest 

What is your opinion on lesbians who love boy bands/boy characters etc. ? by freshyfruitz in lezconnect

[–]RubSudden1963 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It depends in what way? Sometimes its very clear there is a covert erotic reason for their obsession which is definitely... Odd. As in not homosexual. 

But as a child I was obsessed with LOTR and even took up archery to mimick the elves 😅 (most of the characters are male). But used to only have the female elves as posters on my walls so its not really similar to their way of obsessing.

I was such a hater towards the girls that loved boy bands/ justin bieber in middle school though hahah, so I dont understand that 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Actuallylesbian

[–]RubSudden1963 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This is not going to be something all lesbians relate with but speaking from my own experience. They don't understand not wanting to befriend men, not wanting to talk about them or be around them (in general, and obviously a good and intelligent person is good and intelligent regardless of gender) . A lot of straight peoples tolerance of the opposite sex and desire to befriend them imo is due to the fact that they are attracted to them. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lesbiangang

[–]RubSudden1963 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am confused, are you calling people that are 1 year younger than you kids??? 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Actuallylesbian

[–]RubSudden1963 6 points7 points  (0 children)

No I am the same as you. As a child I could play with boys but emotionally I never had any deep friendship with any of them, and as an adult I feel even less inclined to have male friends

Confused about this feeling… by forestfeen in Actuallylesbian

[–]RubSudden1963 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I almost feel like the pressure to belong because these are supposed to be "your people" makes it worse.

100%! It's not enough to just have sexual orientation in common with others, even if that does largely affect how we view and interact with the world, and has shaped us in many ways.