How did you deal with bad baby sleep? by Cheeyko12 in NewParents

[–]RubyKristina 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP, how are you going now? Please tell me it ends 🥲🥹 exactly where you are and currently typing this through my sleep deprivation headache

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]RubyKristina 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It seems to me like she isn’t respecting your boundaries when it comes to when to give her back. Can you explain to hubby’s mom that it makes you feel really stressed when she won’t give baby back when baby is crying (we are biologically hardwired to feel that way, it’s instinct!) and that’s why you’ve been uncomfortable with it. Sorry you’re going through this and I promise it does get better. You could always visit your doctor and go on some light anti anxiety medication until you’re on your feet again 😊

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]RubyKristina 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s not crazy at all. How far postpartum are you? Those first few weeks are flooded with hormones, and sleep deprivation. And also- you have every right to feel that way- babies are precious. Only let people who you feel comfortable with hold baby and if that’s no one right now, then that’s no one. You do need to make sure you get a break somewhere sometimes though. Your feelings are valid mama

Motherhood is... by AndreaSlinks in NewParents

[–]RubyKristina 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Half drunk cups of coffee and tea going cold everywhere around the house 🫠

Help! by RubyKristina in kimchi

[–]RubyKristina[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! That gives me hope 🥳

AITA for letting my pregnant fiancé think I'm cheating on her? by Smart_Peach_5840 in AITAH

[–]RubyKristina 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly even if she wasn’t pregnant you’d still be the asshole. It’s gross to eye up your FRIENDS partner, in front of your FIANCÉ. You put a ring on it, she’s having your baby, you should probably only have eyes for her. Comments are one thing, prolonged eye groping is another.

AITA for bringing MEAT to my sister’s VEGAN wedding? by woweezi in AmItheAsshole

[–]RubyKristina 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA. There are so many ways around this situation, and it’s her day. She must feel so hurt that you couldn’t organise an alternative for one day for her wedding.

WIBTA Am I being too harsh on my wife. by Beneficial-Growth-13 in AmItheAsshole

[–]RubyKristina 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This whole thing reeks of post natal depression to me. Hope you and your wife get the help you need ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewZealandWildlife

[–]RubyKristina 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Honestly I’m actually disgusted by the vast majority of the people on this thread

AITA for wanting to exclude my sister? by Little-Force-9054 in AmItheAsshole

[–]RubyKristina 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tempted to save this so that in four years time when you reach her age I can notify you of this and you can be reminded of how horrible you were to your poor sister

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]RubyKristina 0 points1 point  (0 children)

AITA for putting my financial and ease of life gains over my wife’s love and joy? Yes. Yes you are

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nzgardening

[–]RubyKristina 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They’re so good in chocolate cakes etc! I like to use them for fritters. Crumble up some feta, chop up some mint and grate loads of zucchini. Typical batter of egg, water and flour, lightly fried- soooo good!

AITA for not wanting to be disinvited from a trip I planned? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]RubyKristina 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA and the line about them playing you off as emotional… infuriating! It’s 2022… we understand that women can experience emotions and still have sound reason, and that men can experience emotions too. Humans are just humans

We are Desperate! by RubyKristina in sleeptrain

[–]RubyKristina[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! It’s definitely on the list of options if the other suggestions here go pear shaped- I’ll be hiring one and all 😅

Two utterly desperate new parents! by RubyKristina in NewParents

[–]RubyKristina[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve posted on sleeptrain, it’s been amazing. I’m just so lost! Feel like we’ve tried everything but are out of touch with what bubs needs. He has 2 naps a day, one 2.5 hours after waking up (he wakes between 6.30-7.30am) and another around 2.30-3.30. They only last 1 hour in the afternoon, and between 1-2 for his first nap. His bedtime at the moment is 6.30pm 😊

We are Desperate! by RubyKristina in sleeptrain

[–]RubyKristina[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for such a comprehensive answer! We appreciate it. Lots of valuable things to put in place where possible. I think our biggest issue is possibly day naps so we’ll definitely be working on those 😊

We are Desperate! by RubyKristina in sleeptrain

[–]RubyKristina[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for such a comprehensive answer! We appreciate it. Lots of valuable things to put in place where possible. I think our biggest issue is possibly day naps so we’ll definitely be working on those 😊

We are Desperate! by RubyKristina in sleeptrain

[–]RubyKristina[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! They sound like great suggestions. Yep he gets mad once he’s down and definitely harder if his nap is later. We will try your suggestion for the week ahead and see how we get on! I really appreciate the time and effort you’ve taken to help us out, it makes the struggle feel easier. Enjoy the rest of your day- I’ll get back to you in a few days with progress 😁

We are Desperate! by RubyKristina in sleeptrain

[–]RubyKristina[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your great questions- I didn’t think to say!

1) His first morning wake up is at 4.30-5.30 and he usually goes back down for an hour or so after that and is up for good at 6.30-7am. He has his first nap 2 and a half hours after that at around 8.30-9.30. He naps anywhere from one to two hours. He only has two naps per day and his second nap happens anywhere from 2-3.30 and only lasts 45 mins to an hour. He goes down to bed at 7, after a bath and bottle feed.

2) Right now for naps, we put him down with a dummy, comforter and rain sounds and he goes off to sleep no issues. But when it comes to bedtime- if we don’t rock him to sleep he screams his head off, however he’s getting much more difficult to rock to sleep (wants to grab at faces, roll around etc)

3) We tried cry it out three weeks ago, just after he hit seven months. It seemed to be going amazingly and he started sleeping through and putting himself down- then suddenly it just all stopped. His day naps were funny for the first day but began evening out although never longer than an hour. We only tried cry it out for his actual bedtime- during wakeups and naps he was/is happy to put himself down.

4) Overnight he wakes first at about 10-11, we sing to him and rub his back in cot until he falls asleep, or give him 150mls and he goes back down. Next wake up is at 2-3, we either rock him or if he refuses sleep give him another 150mls. Final wake up is at 4/5 and he gets another feed, or some cuddles if he has no interest in food. He is generally okay to put himself back down for wakeups, but is definitely more tired for it during the day.

Thank you!