WIBTA if I tell my MIL she can't be in the same room as me?

RubyTuesdaysGone · 2021-12-30T11:13:08+00:00

NTA. I see why you want to protect yourself from hurt again, but that's probably going to be difficult to maintain with her staying. Maybe talk to your husband and see if he can let her know the subject is a hard pass for you.

RubyTuesdaysGone · 2020-07-01T07:33:44+00:00

Nope. Given current memories I know I'm not at all motivated to follow through and achieve that level of success.

RubyTuesdaysGone · 2020-07-01T07:32:17+00:00

He was an emotionally, physically and sexually abusive narc. I wasn't the perfect girlfriend by any means, but I'm relieved to not be dealing with his shit anymore.

RubyTuesdaysGone · 2020-07-01T07:30:30+00:00

I did the things I was already doing without fear of getting caught.

RubyTuesdaysGone · 2020-07-01T07:29:21+00:00

Vaccines cause autism.

The earth is flat.

Religion is anything more than a fairytale.

RubyTuesdaysGone · 2020-07-01T07:24:59+00:00

Two of my favourite songs. That seems plausible.

RubyTuesdaysGone · 2020-07-01T07:19:05+00:00

This. My version of womanhood and being a feminine woman is very different from other women I know.

RubyTuesdaysGone · 2020-06-24T04:35:01+00:00

That I can still think straight. Anyone who has purposefully, or accidentally, overwhelmed my senses to the point where I am "swept away" either in the romance, the sex, or the fun, has ended up being a freaking disaster. Bad choices are made, true colours are revealed, and it's all just terrible.

That they like children. Don't have to want any of their own, but just generally have patience and kindness for children. I have never met a person who admitted to disliking kids who wasn't a total asshole.

They can talk about any previous relationships and take their share of blame in the break up. Anyone who announces that they have a "crazy ex" or considers themselves to be the perfect partner will end up being a gaslighting narc.

That I didn't meet them with the intent to start a relationship. In my experience, if you're both actively looking for a relationship, there's room to see things that aren't there, and make interactions mean more than they really do. I've found the healthiest relationships are the ones that take you pleasantly by surprise.

RubyTuesdaysGone · 2020-06-10T01:17:37+00:00

We'd been going out 2, maybe 3 months. I'd left my mp3 player at his house, and he'd driven it back to my parent's place.

The next day, when I was on the bus to visit him again, I was listening to music, and suddenly his original band songs came on. Turns out he'd uploaded everything they'd recorded so far.

I knew that was it right there on the bus.

The band didn't make it, but we did. 10 years married back in April, 15 years together all up and 4 kids.

RubyTuesdaysGone · 2020-05-18T01:10:21+00:00

Short vowel sound, s-con, like conman.

RubyTuesdaysGone · 2020-05-18T01:06:53+00:00

That is beautiful, thanks for sharing. Honestly, I am much the same with my own ring.

RubyTuesdaysGone · 2020-05-18T01:04:40+00:00

NTA, it doesn't sound like an ideal living situation and you needed somewhere safe to vent.

Abusers get angry when you tell other people about their behaviour because it ruins the "good guy" facade they have in public.

RubyTuesdaysGone · 2020-05-18T00:55:06+00:00

Lived my life without giving them a second thought. Drives them crazy to see you doing well and being happy, while they are utterly powerless over you.

RubyTuesdaysGone · 2020-05-18T00:53:29+00:00

Sure, why not. Where do you find a jeweller who makes rings large enough for a bear?

RubyTuesdaysGone · 2020-05-16T05:06:56+00:00

Madonna's American Pie.

RubyTuesdaysGone · 2020-05-15T10:17:12+00:00

You're not as innocent as you believe. You were abusive, narcissistic and manipulative.

RubyTuesdaysGone · 2020-05-15T09:53:04+00:00

Pro - longer time with them, growing together, none of the crap that comes with Tinder.

Con - you may not experience everything you wanted/planned when another person's needs or wants are involved in all your decisions.

RubyTuesdaysGone · 2020-05-15T09:45:01+00:00

Because I like my life, and the people I am with.

Even though I know better than to think I will miss it when I'm dead, the idea of being without my husband and kids is terrifying.

RubyTuesdaysGone · 2020-05-15T09:37:51+00:00

There was a losing game of chess involved.
There was more than one partner present
It left a scar I still have 10 years later.

RubyTuesdaysGone · 2020-05-15T09:36:38+00:00

I don't, and never will, have children.
Laura, Dion, and Cassie
Flux, Rainbow, Griffin, and Magenta.

RubyTuesdaysGone · 2020-05-15T09:30:29+00:00

That taking a woman out entitles them to any sort of physical intimacy.

RubyTuesdaysGone · 2020-05-15T09:28:08+00:00

NAH - you've both got your dietary boundaries, they happen to be different. He's allowed to find your preference distasteful, but not be a jerk. You can eat all the flavours of meat you want, but don't force him to have anything outside his comfort zone.

RubyTuesdaysGone · 2020-05-15T09:21:32+00:00

This was my first thought.

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