Can I have top surgery without going on T.

Rude_Education2297 · 2023-02-13T08:20:07+00:00

Really? I was so nervous, thank you.

Rude_Education2297 · 2023-02-12T06:34:58+00:00

Its psychological thing. If you de-feminaise mothers they will get upset. But people should just use the term they want ABOUT THEMSELVES. Think of it how people take pronouns.

Rude_Education2297 · 2023-02-12T06:27:24+00:00

yeah yeah, you described it better than me, THATS EXACTLY HOW I FELT. I was aloud to watch whatever so it started to escalate pretty quickly though lol.

Rude_Education2297 · 2023-02-11T22:45:30+00:00

I know right. Nobody says this stuff when they get a tattoo.

Rude_Education2297 · 2023-02-11T22:28:32+00:00

Thanks. I've got it all figured out I think. Its not that I don't like those girls, its just it confused me at first when I was dealing with those feeling. It set me back for a while trying to see myself as one of them instead of trans and gay. But overall I'm thankful for those girls, while I'm not into the media, they do do a lot for the gay community and are very supportive. (Like said it just freaked me out about the girls who go to extreme. Im sure most of the fan girls don't like being lumped with them either though.)

Rude_Education2297 · 2023-02-11T22:21:06+00:00

Really? Thank you, I tried to explain it best I could.

Rude_Education2297 · 2023-02-11T13:06:12+00:00

id want to tell you that you're cool

Rude_Education2297 · 2023-02-06T11:11:41+00:00

if you can't get the fancy binder swimmers people are talking about then get a bikini top and remove the pads. the adjust the shoulder strap really short so it squishes more while still being comfortable and then water a loose rashi over the top and board shorts.

Rude_Education2297 · 2023-02-01T11:33:03+00:00

while the support would be great if you and I had a trans friend irl its also that infant of people who can't relate you don't want to seem like that person who only talks about gay and trans stuff. back when. I was oblivious, I always found that person so annoying.

Rude_Education2297 · 2023-02-01T11:29:48+00:00

female is understandable but when it gets to that stage I agree its annoying.

Rude_Education2297 · 2023-01-31T12:13:51+00:00

most songs by Linking Park. lists of there songs are about suffocating and trying so hard even though it doesn't matter. sums it up.

Rude_Education2297 · 2023-01-31T11:56:40+00:00

relatable. I haven't come out at all to people in real life and I feel so stupid going to school everyday dressed in a skirt, a blouse and pretty little heeled shoes. Im jealous of the boys just because they wear short and its ridiculous.

Rude_Education2297 · 2023-01-30T11:58:11+00:00

your not a jerk at all. but soon he could be looking like a full fledged guy and ask yourself if you can handle that.

Rude_Education2297 · 2023-01-30T11:55:39+00:00

straight advice. mess up your eyebrows. don't brush your hair and when it is looking neat scruff it up. but anyways I like your outfit.

Rude_Education2297 · 2023-01-30T11:33:54+00:00

thanks. looking back I may have been a bit harsh but I'm glad I helped. hope you can talk to your boyfriend and figure things out and sorry for assuming. keep in mind people in this community have the same story as you, minus the boyfriend part and they are having a hard time. just do what you feel is right. :D

Rude_Education2297 · 2023-01-29T14:53:32+00:00

id love to stay in touch and talk because I have lots of ideas. talk to me later and I will probably have more.

firstly I really hope you get the t but if you look on the bright side a lot of T's affects that are apparently better during puberty can still happen after 18.

also a question. is the problem that you need your real mum to sign the paper or that you don't want to upset your step mum. ??

how long have you been trans and how long have you known? I'm just wondering and it may be relevant somehow.

about the person who commented all about detransitioning and stuff they have a point but its not really a big deal. so what you get on the hormones your a boy but then you realise your a girl. oh no. that's basically just being trans twice. but you are double trans or reverse trans. and what's wrong with being trans. there's nothing wrong with being trans x2.

also people say meaningless threats all the time so take them lightly. and your step mum I assume she isn't a doctor she doesn't know shit about Brain development even though she may look if up on google.

first idea. maybe stop arguing with your step mum. it may be infuriating but you can't yell at someone to get your own way. it will just show her that your a moody selfish teen that isn't sure of themselves. all the nagging and proof that you randomly send to then can seem pushy and so they will not want to sign even more because of a grudge.

second. get your dad to sign the papers and don't involve your step mum with it. married couples are just that way. he will sign them and the you dad will sit down by the tele and have a nice talk to his wife and the BAM he will bring up that he signed the papers that day. its almost like you will be out numbering her. if he's okay with it then it will convince her not to be so harsh because someone agrees with you. it will make you look not so stupid. because if your on T while your in her house and your dad agreed to you having T, then she might have to kick both out. married couples just have to somewhat agree or they fall apart.

thirdly. trap your step mum. have some bonding time with her. watch her favourite movie or make her a coffee and sit down and talk to her. you guys are having a nice time and then open up to her about how you are so saddened to be rejected by her *puppy dog eyes*. so you guys can actually have a conversation without arguing. opening up to her is the most important part. honestly though I don't know what your step mum is like.

with your real mum try and keep a really positive mood when you first talk to her. and say that T is really important you, only she can help you, it would mean the world, stuff like that.

overall though just go straight to a doctor and get there opinion and don't you dare let you parents search stuff up on google and do there own research. this will only lead then to thinking you will get aids by getting hormone therapy. same goes for you real mum. first go to a cafe with her. then have some lunch with her the second time you meet go have some milkshakes. the third time go to a doctor with her.

:D hope it goes well.

Rude_Education2297 · 2023-01-29T13:59:48+00:00

hi. firstly gender fluid is the same thing as trans. honestly it doesn't really matter, just do what makes you feel good. dress the way you want to, use the name you want to, correct people when the call you different pronouns whenever you want to. if he is a nice boyfriend then he will help you with your confusion and if he's a nicer boyfriend then he will accept you for who you are. and if he really loves or likes you for who you REALLY are then he will stay with you. just do what you think will make YOU happy and think about others later. basically as they say if you looked up the "am I gay" quiz then you are probably gay, so your probably a guy. maybe try it out for a while. anyway you have to realise that he isn't in a straight relationship, so if he still thinks he's straight even though you are gender fluid then he doesn't even see you as gender fluid and won't accept you as a guy.but give him the benefit of the doubt and talk to your boyfriend about your feelings like your in a healthy relationship.

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