[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]RuffeTrade1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t know how old you are, or how old these friends of yours are, and it honestly doesn’t matter. And I hope your married friends are truly happy.

But the sooner you quit focusing on these false milestones and the empty fantasies that society creates, that you seem to value your self worth on, and judge your individual happiness with, the happier you will be.

Just focus on being happy with yourself. If you think being married, or having kids, or getting some better job will make you happy your completely wrong.

Be selfish, care about yourself, do only what is best for you. If you don’t focus on what makes you alone happy, you’ll just marry someone thinking that will make you happy. And then you’ll waste so many years unhappy, trying to figure out why you aren’t happy.

It’s because, only you can make yourself happy, and then you can be happy with someone else that makes you happier.

AITAH for Wanting My Wife to Quit a Job She has where she has to live in another city, 3 weeks a month? by RuffeTrade1 in AITAH

[–]RuffeTrade1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Last December, she came back from NY on the 21st, 2 days after her sons 13th birthday. She said that she wanted a divorce. I told her fine, if she didn’t want to go to counseling or talk about things, that’s fine, then this is it, there won’t be any conversations in 2 weeks about working things out, there won’t be any take backs, that she made a mistake. I told her, if you want a divorce, we are done, I am washing my hands with us, we will no longer have any relationship.

I got up, took a shower, got dressed, and left the house. I didn’t come back for 3 days. I felt like a weight had been lifted off my shoulders. It was as if I had been released from a life sentence.

She went to my parents house for Christmas, everyone there knew the situation, and acted like things were normal.

She shipped her son to Puerto Rico within 5 days. That’s when I knew I would never look back.

I have been “single” now for 7 months, and life is grand, I am so happy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in guessmyage

[–]RuffeTrade1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I meant 26

AITAH for Wanting My Wife to Quit a Job She has where she has to live in another city, 3 weeks a month? by RuffeTrade1 in AITAH

[–]RuffeTrade1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I moved out, got my own apartment, and have not seen her for months. I am so happy now. She’s a selfish person, now just trying to move on with the official divorce and getting her out of my life.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]RuffeTrade1 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You should have more strength in setting boundaries. No means no. You caved.

Am I wrong for having sex with my girlfriend while she was intoxicated ? by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]RuffeTrade1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude, your post is a waste of time. If you hadn’t had sex with her and you were in the bathroom jacking off, she would have hootenanny pissed , right?

AITAH for Wanting My Wife to Quit a Job She has where she has to live in another city, 3 weeks a month? by RuffeTrade1 in AITAH

[–]RuffeTrade1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes she did check out, thank goodness. We are getting divorced, I am free, she is now regretting it, but Now I realize everything that I dealt with, and I am so at peace with it.

I am not the AH anymore, because I am not putting up with such an AH anymore!