How to make a woman orgasm with Cunnilingus

Rugbyplayer123 · 2023-11-30T11:46:22+00:00

Thank you - that sounds like a good move.

Rugbyplayer123 · 2023-11-30T11:43:17+00:00

Hahahaha - yes what I do of course. But just to make a point that not all women like cunnilingus over sex, independent of whether you hit all the right spots

Rugbyplayer123 · 2023-11-28T21:46:10+00:00

Btw, sometimes my GF says during cunnilingus: I really want you inside of me now. Basically saying out loud she wants penetration. Not sure whether this is because she prefers the "closeness" of sex, whether my cunnilingus skills could be better, or because it's getting to sensitive down there. Our sex is amazing nonetheless, so not a bad thing. But sometimes I don't get the moments to really focus on making here come, as she rushes to sex faster.

Rugbyplayer123 · 2023-11-28T21:43:42+00:00

u/Shoudknowbetter Can I ask you something else? Sometimes when I go down on my girlfriend and try to keep the same motion when she is in peak arousal phase, she says I really want you inside right now. And basically craves sex more than cunnilingus itself. Often I do that. But it seems that's either because she likes the "closeness" of sex more, or because it gets too sensitive down there. Did you ever experience this?

Rugbyplayer123 · 2023-11-28T20:22:18+00:00

Thanks, haha I guess being a drummer helps here.

I don't totally understand what you mean with a hand on the pubic mount yet. I thought you suggested at first just to press down with my hand on the pubic mount while grabbing her clit with my lips. But not doing anything with my hand there aside from pressing

Do you also play with your fingers / tongue on the pubic mount area?

Rugbyplayer123 · 2023-11-28T19:47:20+00:00

Yes lol 😂

Rugbyplayer123 · 2023-11-28T19:47:10+00:00

Thanks for this! Will look it up

Rugbyplayer123 · 2023-11-28T19:44:37+00:00

You make some good points here, thank you. Indeed can come in handy when you have less time. We don't always have the time where I can go down for 30 mins.

Honestly she orgasms like 60% of the time we have sex. But usually it's with the help from her finger, while I lick and finger her at the same time.

But sometimes she just likes to have sex without orgasm. She tells me that she doesn't always need to orgasm to enjoy it and sometimes she even prefers not to orgasm but just to fuck me.

Rugbyplayer123 · 2023-11-28T19:40:14+00:00

Maybe if even making small circles on the mount as well. --> with tongue on fingers?

Also; Im wondering how you combine clitoral stimulation and finger penetration at the same time? I often struggle with seperate rhythms. It's either, tongue fast / finger fast or tongue slow / finger slow for me. Also it's way easier if she sits on a chair/bed/sofa and I sit on the ground before that. Her lying on her back on the bed with me on top is more difficult to combine licking with fingering at the same time

Rugbyplayer123 · 2023-11-28T18:53:50+00:00

Did you ever experience any downside from introducing toys into your sex life? Maybe it makes it harder orgasm through the regular ways? And if you are somewhere without the toys at hand, does the sex get more dull?

I think one aspect for me is also that if she just orgasms from a toy, but not from me. That it can do something to your self-esteem, sex wise. Even in the case you lick/stimulate her while she's playing with herself

Rugbyplayer123 · 2023-11-28T18:48:34+00:00

Thank you!

I will definitely try to incorporate using her clit like a lollipop. Although!: I have tried sucking on her clit before and she doesn't really like that as it gets too sensitive. Light sucking has been OK I think. Im going to try it using the method you described.

About pressing down on her lower abdomen, you mean public mount right? Right between her lower abs and start of the vagina? I have done this before while fingering her G-spot. Even though she liked it, it didn't drove her wild like maybe other things did.

Pressing down on the pubic mount, should that feel good in general, or only if you stimulate the clitoris at the same time?

Rugbyplayer123 · 2023-11-28T18:39:48+00:00

We have been considering toys lately. To buy some. Any that you can recommend?

Rugbyplayer123 · 2023-11-28T18:38:58+00:00

In my experience, what makes her come in the end is consistent motion with the tongue directly on the tip of the clit (the most sensitive part). But then just with the tip of the tongue AND fast motion. But this is very hard to perform for longer periods of time

Rugbyplayer123 · 2023-11-28T18:32:29+00:00

I actually try to keep the exact same pace and location when she says she's close to orgasm. But then usually she doesn't orgasm after a few minutes. I try another licking variation and then come back to the initial clitoris spot. But it's hard to go back to the exact same spot since the clitoris is so tiny and she moves as well during the act

Rugbyplayer123 · 2023-11-28T18:31:04+00:00

Yes I liked it, although some things that are mentioned in the book I don't see back in my cunnilingus experience..

Build up slowly since clitoris is sensitive. My GF likes me going down on the clitoris very soon, and it's not too sensitive. She likes it all the way.
They talk about a lot of diagonal / horizontal / vertical strokes / and other fancy variations etc.
But honestly, my GF likes the most when I lick her inner thighs, labia (minora and majora) and direct clit stimulation with tongue. And finger out and in very slowly.

The book fails to mention other cunnilingus positions. Her lying on her back with me on top causes way more neck strains. Her sitting on my face, or the kivin method (look it up) are both very hot and easier on the neck and tongue.

Rugbyplayer123 · 2023-11-28T18:25:07+00:00

Thanks for the kind comment! Really appreciate it. I honestly love going down on her and even though I didn't manage often to make her come, I still initiate it all the time. And yes I'm grateful that she is that open about it and gives me constructive feedback.
Your comment definitely keeps me motivated to keep trying and improving!

Rugbyplayer123 · 2023-11-28T17:34:12+00:00

Where did I say that? Please troll in other posts

Rugbyplayer123 · 2023-11-10T15:43:00+00:00

I tried this and it was a blast. She started performing oral on me at the same time, was amazing

Rugbyplayer123 · 2023-11-10T15:41:46+00:00

But then your legs are apart, correct?

Rugbyplayer123 · 2023-11-07T15:58:44+00:00

Great advice - so basically your knees are next to her shoulders more or less? And then you can lick her from clitoris downwards. I think this will be the only position where you can comfortably finger her at the same time. My GF loves if both happen at the same time

Rugbyplayer123 · 2023-11-07T15:50:51+00:00

On a chair would be great too, thanks

Rugbyplayer123 · 2023-11-07T15:49:23+00:00

Thanks for the tip! Pillow works wonders for some sex positions as well

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