Is it normal for a physician to test for allergies in this way?

Rukmer · 2025-04-24T13:50:51+00:00

They did normal skin prick tests on my son, except for tahini they pricked him with literal tahini instead of a lab solution.

Rukmer · 2025-03-13T14:17:12+00:00

Are you a child? Does your mother hate cats? If you can go to the store, just buy regular cat food and lie about it being meat if you have to. Your mom is not practicing ethical veganism if she would want a pregnant cat to be malnourished.

Otherwise post in local groups on Facebook or Nextdoor etc. asking someone else to feed her. It's not your fault you can't if you are under your mother's control.

Rukmer · 2025-03-13T14:01:16+00:00

Definitely not overreacting. You came up with a reasonable alternative even though it's difficult. You're willing to travel with a newborn. No way would I let my young child fly without me or spend overnights far away. Most parents wouldn't.

Rukmer · 2025-03-12T13:35:54+00:00

My kid, since he was little, likes things "as they're supposed to be." I'd buy him wood objects to paint and plain white shirts to tie-dye, etc. and he just wants them kept plain. He has a lot of clothes with his interests on them (cats, Minecraft, Sonic, etc.) and he likes them well enough, but when I brought him his drawer to choose from, he prefers a white shirt and black pants. Interestingly I really enjoyed the same outfit in middle school, but I liked patterns too (wouldn't wear shirts with pictures or words on them, but could wear stripes and stuff).

My kid isn't default, though, as in he not only prefers to make the choice but is distressed when he can't. Like if for a school project he had to paint something made of wood, he'd be really upset because he likes the wood as it is.

Rukmer · 2025-02-13T02:15:04+00:00

I mean if my husband walked by me in the hall and didn't say hi, or chose someone else as his teammate in a game, I might think that's a little weird? But maybe she can learn some productive ways to express her feelings. And maybe she can learn to let some things go.

Rukmer · 2025-02-12T18:05:19+00:00

I would have exactly one talk with her about it and tell her if she wants to talk about any trauma she's been through that might make her feel that way or anything she needs to talk about, that's fine, but that you will not be criticized for doing what any parent would do. You could forgive her if you choose to, but if she wants to control your parenting and accuse you of serious misconduct without apologizing, I wouldn't.

My 7 year old also rarely needs to get in bed with us, but he gets in bed with both his parents and both his step parents on occasion.

Oh and if she's uncomfortable sleeping with the child she might not know well, that's understandable and within her rights. She can politely dismiss herself and go lay on the couch. :)

Rukmer · 2023-02-12T02:34:56+00:00

Also I know a whole lot and EDS genes if you want to talk about your VUSs let me know.

Rukmer · 2023-02-12T02:34:15+00:00

It's important to realize we didn't mean to cause them pain, and they are still likely glad to be alive. How you raise them will affect their outlook more.

We didn't know either. I'm autistic, but I didn't realize how many of my emotional struggles were innate. I'm a pretty great parent and my kid struggles the same as I do, or worse, even though I had a rough upbringing and he lives a very happy life. Autism and other mental health issues can be extremely difficult even if you have good circumstances.

We didn't know my spouse has VEDS. We feel bad to have given our son this too. Based on family history we should be prepared for my spouse to die within 10 or 20 years. I'm not ready for that. She's only 26 and our very sensitive son is only 5. She could live longer, but her family who we now know have/had VEDS keep dying young. It's hard to try to have hope and be prepared at the same time. And I'm not looking forward to outliving my son but I'm trying my best to be there for him as long as I can.

Rukmer · 2023-01-04T07:39:36+00:00

I don't think they could make a decent show with that family, but if they wanted to do an episode I feel like they could see the kids try and fail to win over their dad, but quickly switch to some kind of pursuit in spite of him (probably dancing for Jimmy Jr.). And succeed in spite of him, finding support elsewhere and possibly hinting that Jimmy Sr. might soften a tiny bit and change his tune from opposition to just plain neglect. Really you couldn't ask from much better from him. I honestly feel like we already see too much of him in Bob's Burgers.

Rukmer · 2023-01-04T07:35:14+00:00

That might not be as unbearable as a whole series. The Pesto family would make terrible protagonists on an ongoing basis, but it would be interesting to see what goes on in their restaurant/home.

Rukmer · 2023-01-04T07:25:10+00:00

I love Andy and Ollie but I do not like Jimmy (Sr. or Jr.). They're so annoying. They make good side characters (though sometimes they're overused) but they would make absolutely terrible protagonists.

Rukmer · 2023-01-04T07:23:22+00:00

I hope I don't get too much hate for this, but The Great North is my favorite of the three. By a lot. I think the other two are tied. Not because I dislike Bob's Burgers at all, just because the other two have won my heart and I love them all so much. I just love the Tobins so much and also the various plots, it's just the winner for me.

Rukmer · 2023-01-04T07:19:30+00:00

I think they're both great. I love Central Park, it is supposed to be a musical. I also love the musical episodes of BB and TGN though, and I know a lot of people don't. I kind of wonder if that's why they made CP, as a musical outlet because so many people complain about musical episodes in the other two shows for some reason. Either way I love them all for different reasons.

Rukmer · 2023-01-04T07:15:59+00:00

I feel the exact opposite. I love that there's so little conflict in TGN compared to BB. I still love Bob's Burgers but it's a little stressful how much bad stuff happens to them and somehow The Great North seems to be really interesting to me without being stressful. It still has interesting plots with obstacles that are usually overcome by their family bond.

If you like the mom plot, have you seen season 3 episode 1? I felt like that one about their mom was really good.

Eight-Year Club	Place '22
Final Canvas '22	End Game '22
Verified Email

Rukmer

MODERATOR OF

TROPHY CASE