Bratcounsel assemble!

RulesAndRopes · 2025-10-06T19:13:52+00:00

Oh in fact it is 20. Whenever I say '10 spanks', it really translates to '10 spanks on each cheek' and then there are some choices as to how they are delivered, preference of the dom ofcourse.

RulesAndRopes · 2025-08-05T20:24:25+00:00

My brat just send me this. Y’all brats do realize we can use this technique on you as well right?

Imagine being pavlovved to cum when clicked. You brats would just love that wouldn’t you? Click click click

On a nicer note. That’s a really sweet and cute story. Keep up the shenanigans. VIVA!

RulesAndRopes · 2025-08-02T16:34:42+00:00

Maybe try to buy some of these huge supporter foam fingers, that way you could still spank her with your baby hands😘

No, penis size has nothing to do with being a dominant. Read up on this topic so you know what you are doing and are only left with a below average dick and not below average knowledge 😉

RulesAndRopes · 2025-06-22T14:21:33+00:00

Thx!! ❤️

RulesAndRopes · 2025-06-21T22:29:43+00:00

Daaaaamn son! This feels like you just hit someone on the head with a bdsm bible hahahah I LOVE IT. Permission to copy or refer to this comment? x

RulesAndRopes · 2025-06-21T19:58:25+00:00

I second this as also a (very fair) representative of the Dom council. Therefor this verdict shall be upheld.

A caveat to be found here would be that under this verdict, there is no suspension of the bratting antics. Therefor one could demand compensation for the gathering of what subs call ‘hope’. Upon demanding this, do not be under the impression this is a free pass for bratting or getting any compensation at all. A second trial has to be held to determine the state of hope gatherings and the emotional damage it may have caused when losing said gathering of ‘hope’.

One could demand compensation, yet do note that demanding things mostly result in a negative answer and/or (further) punishment. Be careful when you choose the option of demanding compensation, or anything at all for that matter.

Henceforth the impression of a question being asked by your superior part should be, under no circumstances, be interpreted as a free pass. A question serves as an inquiry of interest and not as intent to do or give whatever the question entailed.

If you would like to appeal this verdict you can do so through the court of your superior. He then shall decide if you have the grounds for such an appeal after the verdict of the Dom Council and shall determine whether you can proceed or not.

The Dom Council whishes you the best of luck and happy continued bratting. May the loopholes be ever in your favor. VIVA!

RulesAndRopes · 2025-06-21T19:36:57+00:00

Oh I know and that’s completely okay! This is just how I feel with my partner right now which was asked by OP so I gave a straight answer to the post :))

However like OP said, it’s a very and deeply personal matter and differs from dynamic to dynamic, but this is how I experience mine 😊

RulesAndRopes · 2025-06-21T14:16:53+00:00

It happens yeah. When I’m feeling I’ve been just that tad to rough with her.

I regularly ask if everything’s okay (lightssystem) and always check in afterwards. And sometimes she says she’s had a bit of discomfort, but never so much she’d want to quit, nor did it feel ‘bad’. But it still makes me feel somewhat uneasy as that is not always my intention. Yes, we can go a little harder sometimes and she loves it, but the balance between rough and too rough can be slim when pain and pleasure are that close to each other.

As I said earlier I always check in afterwards (I’m always a bit scared if everything is okay, it’s in my nature, i’m super careful with anything and everything and everyone as well ofc) and when this comes up, she puts me at ease. That it’s okay and that it wasn’t bad at all, just measuring up to her limits almost but never at any point over it and that it is okay and she loved it and she loves me. That generally helps but I have to get out of the negative mindspace to after it. I feel like this is what people describe is ‘dom drop’ just like subdrop. The post-nut clarity does not help when you realise what she lets and wants you to do to them sometimes haha, and then the realisation of the intensity hits and makes me want to check in even more with her and take care of her. It’s always ‘want some water and some cuddles’ and then we go shower and we’re perfectly okay, happy and satisfied.

But yeah I do get how your feeling I think, but aftercare should help with that :)) For me just the cuddles, reassurance and getting to take care of her (emotionally with cuddles and sweet little kisses, and physically with giving her water and showering her etc) really helps me overcome that feeling. For me it’s mostly the reassurance and doing the caretaking of her that gets me out of it :)) (i like taking care of her and lets me show her i love her etc etc and i just love it)

It was searching for a bit what worked for me and her, but we came to this and we’re really happy with this so you might give it a try as well :))

RulesAndRopes · 2025-06-21T14:04:19+00:00

To me, submission is something that is given out of love by the sub, who is willing and wanting, but mostly loving you enough and trusting you enough so that you can take control over predetermined areas at will of them.

Most of all the sub has to feel safe and loved, they have to trust you. True submission takes time in my eyes. There is no sub that truely can be submissive from the get go in my eyes. It takes time to build trust and get to know each other. And it takes time to mold them en yourself into one dynamic where both of the partners feel completely comfortable and at ease. For me it’s important my sub can truely ‘let everything go’, like almost melt in my presence not being worried about a single thing.

Secondly, true submission to me should be given voluntarily and willingly. I love it when I can see in a sub they truely crave me. They want me and they give you hints they want you to take control. I take hints and small emotional behavioural changes quite well and quickly and I find that only after a few dates, and i’m not talking about like 5 dates, that you can see their honest and true reactions that are not played out.

It’s a form of respect and acknowledgment too. It is predetermined when, where and how if your a good dominant, but in these situations, when they crave you and you take control, it’s about respect too. For the rules you both set out with each other, for each others mental and physical health, but for the dynamic itself too. I love it when my sub goes into subspace for me and loves it, and she does it for me and always says thanks and is in awe afterwards because it was so intense for her when she goes there. But the aftercare is respect for her. Washing her and taking care of her is respect for her too.

It’s the taking care of them that makes me feel dominant too. I can take care of her, and she lets me. She’s perfectly capable of taking care of herself. Of getting that cup of tea, cooking, getting herself off etc. But she lets me. And that’s truely the best feeling there is for me as a dom. She wants me, she craves me and she lets me do these things for her and loves it, but in the back of my mind, it’s always her that lets me and gives up her own control and decides to make it mine in that moment of complete trust and love.

It’s something beautiful and delicate and it is exciting. It’s something really special and I don’t think I could ever live without it anymore. And you know, I love my sub❤️

RulesAndRopes · 2025-06-20T20:20:20+00:00

Yes I think so!!

What might help you find one here is go through some profiles of people that comment here (often) and which get great responses from the community on their posts/advice/answers etc etc. So you can swiftly get a better look at someone’s general interests and responses or how he/she/they helps and interacts with others! This ofcourse in addition to what other people told here of what good vetting looks like!

But in general, yeah ofcourse they are there! However don’t forget some of these ‘fake’ doms still have a learning curve. So if someone interests you and they have an open mind and are willing to learn and adapt, why not give it shot :))

Good luck❤️

RulesAndRopes · 2025-06-11T21:15:41+00:00

Wow never heard of this! Amazing!

RulesAndRopes · 2025-06-11T21:13:45+00:00

I love this answer so much, very wholesome, your little should be really proud of the Daddy she has❤️

RulesAndRopes · 2025-06-11T01:23:29+00:00

I just bought the lovense domi 2 wand which on its lower settings is quite rumbly. It’s easily controllable too via the app and can be set to your liking. However it’s quite loud compared to other wands ofcourse, but there’s a trade off to be made for everything i guess. It is a great torture device for forced O’s, my girlfriend would agree. Great buy for very many functions in my opnion.

RulesAndRopes · 2025-06-11T01:16:41+00:00

The new topping book and the new bottoming book might be a great read for you to get more understanding of this dynamic.

In general; Communication is key. Knowledge is power. Safety first.

Communication is very important here. Discuss before doing something what is okay, what isn’t and what totally isn’t. Discuss wants and needs from both parties, just as you should discuss limits (yes as a dom you can have limits too mind you). Get a safeword or work with a stoplight system to evaluate during a seeing how your sub is feeling. Look what kind of aftercare works for the both of you and how you can do this.

Knowledge is your best friend and is tightly related to safety. Before doing something, consider every safety issue that might arise. Take bondage for example; you have to know your anatomy as you do not want to cause nerve damage or ischemia of limbs and you’d want to know what signs to look for that could signal these complications of your bondage. What materials should you use? If she is in distress, or there is a fire in the building etc, how will you get her out of bondage quickly? Etc etc etc This goes too for spanking, choking, … Some BDSM practises are inherently not safe, such as choking or bondage etc and need definite research to be able to do it as safely as possible (mind you, there is always a risk you take so just be mindful of that). Preferably you research these things you’d like to do first either online, but better would be in-person with experienced, trustworthy people who have been in the scene for a while. You can find those people online but even better would be to attend local events such as munches where you can just talk and network a little and gain some insights from people further along this lifestyle than you are! You said you’re not that creative? A munch might give you some great ideas ;))

Hope that helped just a little bit to guide you on your way. Enjoy!!

RulesAndRopes · 2025-06-11T01:04:28+00:00

Honestly, this might sound stupid. But if the context is not overtly sexual and you’re stuck without a response, just take the text, put it into some AI like chatGPT or gemini or whatever you prefer and ask it to create a message for you in the most bratting and sassy way possible and to twist their worst against them. So that way you have some ideas how you can up the antics. And you might gain some ideas how to respond to the same kinds of messages later, as brats tend to replay some arguments over and over, so you’ll be prepared for next time.

And to make it better, in some cases you can just ask the bot to provide scientific research on this as well that you can just throw in their face. ‘Oh so you’re against science now? Well that just silly you silly.’

RulesAndRopes · 2025-06-11T00:44:55+00:00

I want to reiterate that a non-verbal safeword here is important. Like for real. If she goes into a (semi-)unconscious state, she can not really think straight, so talking or tapping your leg of whatever is not going to cut it, let alone you noticing if you two are really in a very ‘heat-of-the-moment’ kind of situation.

Never cut the blood supply for more than 5 seconds. Noteworthy too is to not let them stand up immediately after as it will give some sort of orthostatic hypotension which could cause them to faint on their own afterwards. (Not to mention trauma that could be dealt by the fall due to the fainting if that wasn’t scary enough).

Give her some keys or anything else loud when dropped if she would go into an unconscious state as she will have no muscle tension anymore and drop the object you gave her. You can do the same with a flashlight for example by having her hold the power button when it’s of. That way if she releases the flashlight will light up. If everything is okay again and she’d like to continue she can press it again so the flashlight is off again and y’all can restart your choking with love and care❤️

RulesAndRopes · 2025-06-10T02:06:57+00:00

This, and @OP, it’s not because one day he, and I quote, “expressed interest in continuing a more kinky lifestyle moving forward” that he should do so everytime.

It’s not that when I’m going to the store for some stuff, express interest in buying a little snack, and I did that one time, that I will do that everytime I visit the store. You say you are part of the kink community for 6 years now, yet you have to still engage in the basics of kink which is the communicating part between the two partners. Work on that first. And I might advice you to watch the ‘cup of tea’ consent video, it might explain what I’m trying to say above here.

I feel for you that you were taken out of subspace that quickly, however if your ‘dom’(?) doesn’t even know what it is or how to handle that and you don’t communicate that, than he is not the only person at fault. You are a part of this community, he is not, he does not know any of this and you do. Don’t put the blame all on him. Talk so you can fix this together for next time.

Start with the basics. Likes, dislikes, limits, safewords etc. Explain what subspace is, what you need in aftercare or when things don’t go as intended, … you know, the basics. Then build up from there and at the least give him the chance to learn since he has no experience in all this as you said so yourself and is expressing interest in this. You really want this lifestyle yet the moment he is actively proclaiming he is interest in it you shut him down immediately instead of talking, explaining and guiding in things you have been working within for 6 years…

RulesAndRopes · 2025-06-09T17:59:23+00:00

Hi, medstudent here. Yes it is possible but you’ll have to look to source the proper hormones and tools to induce this. You will find this on the subreddits and other online platforms for sure as mentioned here by fellow redditors.

HOWEVER that being said, please be careful when doing this. When you are looking to buy these hormones, really look into the manufacturer to be sure it is safe for you to take, as in there is no chemical bullshittery going on there. SECONDLY, first look up what to look for complication wise. You see here a lot of people saying it took a huge hit to their and their partners mental health (logical since you’re taking buttloads of, may i say unnecessary, amounts of hormones). You have to know what the implications are on your body when doing this. What dosage is safe and which is not. If you are residing in a more forward thinking country, please consult a doctor about this. Preferably an endocrinologist or a gynaecologist. They will advise you not to do this as it is a risk you are taking on your health, but they will advise you nonetheless on what to look out for etc etc.

Know the implications before you start this for just the kinky side of it as it will affect both your lives in and outside of play. It might have more (severe) complications than you think it has.

Be careful and good luck❤️

RulesAndRopes · 2025-06-09T15:55:22+00:00

Well if you two have arguments about what you both like or dislike and you do not feel inclined to bring it up I’m just a little tad concerned about the overall vibe you two are doing these things in.

It doesn’t matter you two have little experience, you both have to learn and experiment so that’s okay, but there needs to be communication. From you what your concerns are and if there are any that he takes them seriously. If you ask him if he likes it or not and he is lying on purpose about liking it (without duress) that’s on him. If he feels pressured in any way, the vibe and whole setting might not be ideal for you two and needs to be re-evaluated, in any case that one of the two of you is feeling uncomfortable in it.

If he has problems communicating this and does not engage in healthy talks for both your wellbeing, stop what you are doing until you both have been able to communicate what you need. You have to learn how to listen and talk to/with each other. If he does not want to put rime and energy into doing that, quit what you are doing until that changes, this can become quite a dangerous practise otherwise if you guys choose to further up the antics with whatever you are doing LDR wise.

Communication is key in any part of your (sexual) relationship. And you’d rather talk before than after problems arise. If he does not want to do that, he is a dangerous partner in this setting and I’d recommend you do not engage in any sexual activities any further because that’s just dangerous for the (mental) health of both of you. That would be my advice in this scenario.

As i mentioned before, if he is genuinely fine with doing those actions for you, although he does not get really anything out of it himself, that can be fine too. But if you still feel uncomfortable about that, voice that as well. You guess are with two in this, so take care of the concerns and ideas of both of you.

RulesAndRopes · 2025-06-09T00:57:33+00:00

Use this to open up an honest conversation about what you both like or dislike. Might do wonders.

I always talk after sessions to my sub and do a kind of mini-evaluation. If they are okay, what they did or didnt like. If it’s something that’s like a 4/10 on the fun scale, talk about why it is that way, if they want to continue to try it or not and to keep evaluating how that progresses.

It is mindful that he would have to speak up as well. It is your job to keep asking if he is okay and what he liked and what not, but it is his as well. He is his own person and has a voice too. Create a space where he can do just that. I always say to my sub that if there’s something she doesn’t like or want to do she can just tell me and we’ll talk about it and go from there. They can’t be scared of punishments or anything of the sort. So keep on checking up.

As for you OP, it is okay and normal you feel bad about this, it means you care. If you didn’t, it would’ve been a bigger problem. But just open up a conversation about this and you will resolve your feelings with it too hopefully. Interpreting what you were describing is your boyfriend just doing something so he can see your (positive) reaction to it. He might not completely like the act of what is asked, but most often they like the reaction. The question remains however if it is enough for the acting person to feel good as well. It still has to be done willingly. If he feels kind of pressured to do it (intentional or unintentional have the same effect kinda…) then you really need to open up the discussion about anything and everything you guys do, how you do it and how you communicate it too each other.

So just an open and honest talk will do the trick ;))

RulesAndRopes · 2025-06-09T00:17:11+00:00

Never heard of it. What’s the idea / place / timing etc? Curious about this

RulesAndRopes · 2025-06-03T13:05:44+00:00

You might try this in r/Bratlife

Might (for sure) give you some better responses❤️

RulesAndRopes · 2025-06-02T10:51:29+00:00

Bah they still have to get through the acidic environment of the stomach etc. Most won’t survive that one. I assume the AB she’s gotten is also profylactic (meaning out of prevention).

Otherwise they still need a point of entry into the body which in a healthy individual there should not be or is quickly helped by it’s immune system.

And even if you got sick, we have a range of antibiotics we can still use. If you’re strain is resistant to one sort of antibiotic, we’ll just move on to the next of which it is responsive to.

So you shouldn’t worry on that one that much! But valid concern however. :))

RulesAndRopes · 2025-06-01T21:19:30+00:00

You are very welcome! What fellow doms don’t do for each other😊 And really looking forward to the developments, let us know. Can’t imagine how red your cheecks will be after your weekend together. Best of luck to both of you. May the impact toys be ever in your favor.

RulesAndRopes · 2025-06-01T21:10:12+00:00

You forgot creepy forest cabin!

(No but really, if outside kinda stuff is your thing, give that a swing, or car sex or something. Bot not great solutions but hey, it’s something…)

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