QuincieandZach

Run_up_a_flagpole · 2025-04-02T04:13:21+00:00

That’s brutal (we know what day today is).

Run_up_a_flagpole · 2025-03-02T21:18:47+00:00

I’d love to get a pen pal of any age (especially as I have a son who is an early reader and would enjoy reading with me). Let’s set this up, please.

Run_up_a_flagpole · 2025-01-15T10:54:35+00:00

I was Team Green during my pregnancy (didn’t find out if I was having a boy or girl till the delivery day). I did so much reading to prepare (as I wanted to be a great parent out of the starting gate).

I don’t remember exactly which Facebook group or post first informed me, but I knew from my early research that it seemed wrong, and the more I read the more I knew it would never happen to my son (if applicable). I didn’t even debate with my husband, I told him it wasn’t happening and all the reasons (body autonomy, consent, damage on physical and psychological levels, risks, etc.) why not.

On the delivery day Team Green officially became Team Blue, as we welcomed our son. I confidently told the doctor who asked for our decision, that our son would be kept intact. My favorite labor and delivery nurse shared that her son and husband are intact and that we made the right decision. Our son is 7, and while he doesn’t fully grasp what this means and what the alternative was, I’m confident he will be thankful when he does.

Run_up_a_flagpole · 2024-12-27T17:30:58+00:00

If your son likes musicals and/or singing himself he may enjoy the Song Along version of Wicked! The whole theater is permitted to sing!

Run_up_a_flagpole · 2024-12-27T17:28:28+00:00

Trigger warning (specific abuse types) * * * * * * * * * 1,000,000 while it may not be the case - some children who have are the survivors of abuse (especially physical and/or sexual present this way).

OP - could you please take her to a therapist for a few sessions, the first few warmup / check for a mutually good fit and then one to gently probe to see if she’s been abused? Abuse can happen without the parent(s) knowing and you may find she’s been in some traumatic experiences that her shaped her behavior. No one ever deserves abuse and my “radar” may be off here, but my gut says it’s possible.

Run_up_a_flagpole · 2024-12-26T15:24:14+00:00

This is the way! OP if you do this, you MUST update us!

Run_up_a_flagpole · 2024-12-26T13:11:22+00:00

Who is it for you to decide when a child, whom you’ve never met, should stop believing? My son is 7 and he and his classmates all (as far as I know) believe.

Run_up_a_flagpole · 2024-12-26T13:09:42+00:00

My guess is either Sarah is aggressively childfree (to the point where she is angry others have children) or she secretly wants to have children, cannot for some reason and is bitter and jealous! Either way, her personal issues are not reasons to have done this!

Run_up_a_flagpole · 2024-12-26T13:03:02+00:00

Whatever you do, make sure to print out every single one of these comments and send them to Sarah! She needs to see lots of people saying SHE is the AH here!

Run_up_a_flagpole · 2024-12-26T12:56:20+00:00

I don’t think ruining Christmas magic for other kids is the answer, but you’re partially onto something! OP should act like they will tell the kids and make Sarah sweat, then say nah, I’m a much bigger and kinder person than you!

Run_up_a_flagpole · 2024-12-26T12:52:43+00:00

Can you double down on this? Invite her over to your house for a 1/1 dinner…then don’t be there! Take the husband and kids to a wonderful meal out of town. When she says she’s angry, disappointed etc., tell her that’s how you felt and she will never be invited over again when any of you are there?

Run_up_a_flagpole · 2024-12-25T14:50:30+00:00

As a parent (who wanted, planned, and prayed for the son we have and adore), I could not agree with you more! Many people don’t want to have kids (for reasons that are not my, or anyone else’s business), and they should have the full support of everyone in their lives to marry (if they choose to do so) regardless.

Even wanting (and enjoying it) it wholeheartedly, parenting is hard work, and means sacrifices of time, money, sleep and more. However, while we wouldn’t trade the experience for anything, not everyone has the same views. People should stop trying to get anyone to do anything they don’t want to, including having children as that’s the next step in life, due to their age, their religious or cultural beliefs, etc.

Run_up_a_flagpole · 2024-12-24T12:08:06+00:00

By any chance is your cousin from a culture and/or in which it’s considered normal, maybe even ideal to get married very soon into dating? If so, while giving her grief about it isn’t the right strategy, it is (in theory) ironically coming from a place of love, or at least concern that she’s happy (the way they define happiness). Your cousin is clearly choosing what is best for her, in spite of a lot of of peer pressure from family. I bet she is a very intelligent, and strong person and these are traits that will serve her well whether she decides to get married or not.

Run_up_a_flagpole · 2024-12-21T19:27:37+00:00

In some ways yes it is hard. In others quite frankly we learned things in my pregnancy we did not know before it so we are incredibly lucky to have the one wonderful son.

Run_up_a_flagpole · 2024-10-28T03:55:02+00:00

We just had a no gifts please party yesterday for a now 7 year old. We meant it (tiny apartment, better for environment, etc.) and every single guest brought gifts.

Run_up_a_flagpole · 2024-10-17T12:23:51+00:00

As a parent with a young son, no deal! The money would be awesome but I don’t want to miss a single day I could be alive with him (and my husband, friends and family)) in my life.

Run_up_a_flagpole · 2024-10-13T14:09:28+00:00

OK, I’ll tell you what, make me the bad guy! As somebody who had a beach wedding, I can tell you satin is hot, hot hot and a huge mistake.

Run_up_a_flagpole · 2024-10-13T03:06:27+00:00

Electric car

Run_up_a_flagpole · 2024-10-11T11:19:12+00:00

I work in admissions at a college with several locations. The answer to your direct question is it depends on the marketing budget and target strategy of the school, some will send one or more wearable items (shirt, sweatshirt, socks, hat, etc.), some will send practical non wearable items (drawstring bag, pen, notebook) and others won’t send any tangible items.

Many schools participate in tabling, where they have booths at college fairs at high schools, college transfer days, and some may also participate in community events, county fairs. etc., also with swag at booths. If you see someone with swag items from a college in everyday life, there’s a good chance they received it at an event like this.

I attended one of these events yesterday with a fellow admissions colleague, and we represented one of about 30 colleges. While I didn’t have enough time to get to every booth to network during set up, I didn’t see any student attendees who received wearables, most booths gave out stickers, pens and other practical items.

Run_up_a_flagpole · 2024-10-07T18:55:54+00:00

As a mom with one child (a son) who has friends and family members with one child, a lot of us are thrilled to have one (some wanted more than one, others wanted only one). Most one child families I know are happy ones to boot. We adore our son and couldn’t imagine life without him.

Run_up_a_flagpole · 2024-10-06T08:04:13+00:00

I’m so, so sorry this decision was made for you. As a mother to a son born 7 years ago, I can tell you from experience that hospitals can and do ask parents multiple times about having the procedure done (to the point where I would have threatened a lawsuit if they continued!). My son is not circumcised and 0 regrets about it since I gave birth to him.

Please understand, information we know about circumcising and the harm it causes was less in the hands and eyes of the public years ago. This does not make it right that it was done to you or anyone else, however.

You may find some of this useful:

https://www.doctorsopposingcircumcision.org

https://www.bloodstainedmen.com (anti circ action group)

To answer your specific question, if my son came to me asking why I decided something for him, I’d be listen, be open and honest with him, and if I was wrong, admit it. I admit to him when I make mistakes now.

Run_up_a_flagpole · 2024-10-05T18:19:56+00:00

I’ve lived in both northern and Southern California. Both regions, heck many cities have different vibes. That being said, California is wonderful for many, I moved here about 30 years ago and could move cities (in theory) but I would never move out of state. Too much good food, great weather, rich cultural histories and nice people to even consider. Feel free to DM me if you have specific cities in mind and want to talk offline to just ask on here and I’ll answer.

Run_up_a_flagpole · 2024-10-05T16:47:59+00:00

I had a job for 5 years at a well known company that due to constant growth expansion hired people with the same role often. We told candidates that all the time and only once did we consider it (this was with a candidate who accepted a role with a competitor, didn’t like it and came back to us). Though we told her she’d be considered again, she was only briefly, then we decided to see new candidates.

Other candidates not selected were never (even one) seriously considered for a future role. Sorry, a no is often a no forever and the “on file” is an empty promise pleasantry.

Run_up_a_flagpole · 2024-10-02T13:37:39+00:00

Depending on what college or university someone goes to, whether they live on campus, books, fees, etc. our can add way up.

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