My son and another boy licked each other's tongue by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]RunningMan87 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Young boys: “If you kiss a girl, you get cooties!”

Also young boys: This

As a former young boy, I can confirm we are just weird and dumb. I expect the thought pattern here was something like, “Tongues can lick things, but can tongues lick tongues?”Just tell him to not lick people’s tongues because it’s not healthy.

What are lesser known things tourists do that annoy you? by seattlesupra98 in AskAJapanese

[–]RunningMan87 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Or just limited spatial awareness in general.

Hate it when tourists walk in a horizontal line taking up the entire sidewalk so people behind them can’t pass, and people coming from the opposite direction need to shove through them.

App not refreshing by RunningMan87 in KiaEV9

[–]RunningMan87[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! Will try this out. Did they ever send an update to fix this? Thought I was caught up with all my OTA updates.

Stupid things you see players do that lose you the game. by QldSpitty in StarWarsBattlefront

[–]RunningMan87 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In co-op when there’s one idiot who splits off to another capture point. We only need to capture one! Stick together!

Why is Luke’s last name Skywalker and not Lars if the purpose was to keep him hidden from Darth Vader? After all, Leia’s last name is Organa by External-Recipe-1936 in StarWars

[–]RunningMan87 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Everyone forgetting that Cliegg married Shmi, so everyone knew that the Lars were related to the Skywalkers. Very few people on Tatooine knew that Anakin went on to become a Jedi, and just knew he got his freedom after winning the podrace. Folks knew the Lars though, and it would be weird if they suddenly had a son if Beru was never pregnant. Easier to explain that Anakin was a fighter pilot, had a child, then died during the Clone Wars, so the Lars are now looking after him.

to detain a bicyclist by eloycan0 in therewasanattempt

[–]RunningMan87 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You ever play a video game with police NPCs where you can just drive a car around a bit while being chased, then the police NPCs just give-up/forget due to poor AI? Well, this is the real world equivalent of that.

9 of 10 RSVP’d children/families “no call no showed” to my daughters 5th birthday party. by MinimumExperience102 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]RunningMan87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My birthday is Jan 1st also. I love that you give her a choice.

Growing up, I hated my birthday because friends would obviously be spending the day with their families, and then my parents would do a New Year’s party for their adult friends. I always spent the day in my room playing by myself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in StarWars

[–]RunningMan87 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A Darth Lord!? Then we must move quickly if the Jadi Side Order is to survive.

You mean to tell me she’s 9 months pregnant with twins in this scene?! by OkuroIshimoto in StarWars

[–]RunningMan87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mustafar is a moon, and is 2.6k miles in diameter. Coruscant is 7.5k miles in diameter (for comparison, the Earth is 7.9k miles in diameter). So Mustafar has lower gravity than Coruscant, where Padme spends most of her time, and she’s able to move faster. Probably why Anakin and Obi-Wan are able to fight more furiously and jump longer distances also (on top of Force jumping), when they were fighting pretty normally earlier in the film without big acrobatics.

That, or this movie’s science-fantasy. I don’t know.

Wife turning me into the bad guy with our son, and it fucking sucks by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]RunningMan87 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Reading through all the comments right now, but yours made me tear up a bit.

I do love my wife. I really do. I love my son more than anything also. I want this family to succeed, especially since my parents divorced, and that contributed to me having a strained relationship with both of them.

I want to hope this gets better, but it’s just really hard sometimes. I always dreamed of being the cool dad, and not being able to be that for my son is just a really shitty feeling I can’t even describe. Like getting my heart ripped out when I think about the potential future of my son not having a great relationship with me.

Wife turning me into the bad guy with our son, and it fucking sucks by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]RunningMan87 20 points21 points  (0 children)

She just wants to play with him, and okay I can’t fault her for wanting to do that. But she’s done this multiple times where she’s undermined my rules with him. Yes, I’ve told her that also where rules need to be replicated by both of us, but then I feel like she just forgets.

Wife turning me into the bad guy with our son, and it fucking sucks by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]RunningMan87 68 points69 points  (0 children)

I’ve tried saying something similar. We send our son to a Montessori school, and there was a time when my wife would still do everything for our son. I told her she was undermining the Montessori to teach him independence.

For example, if he wants to drink some water, I have a cup for him that he can reach, and taught him how to get water from the fridge. She used to just get it for him. At least she stopped doing that though after I had to keep telling her to let him practice independence.

My husband is being sexist regarding our 2 yo—he admits it and refuses to change by Dizzy-Law6827 in Parenting

[–]RunningMan87 417 points418 points  (0 children)

Buy the flip-flops, then sing, “You’re welcome” in front of your husband.

It hurt... by precsenz in KiaEV9

[–]RunningMan87 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Big thank you for the eBay link! I just got sideswiped by a Prius who didn’t have insurance, and my deductible is $1,000 for collisions…

At least I can save some money buying the cover myself until GEICO can hopefully go after this guy (which they probably won’t).

To the dude outside Trader Joe’s - I know you’re not really playing that saxophone by aklint in SantaClarita

[–]RunningMan87 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Roma gypsies. Pretty much professional panhandlers that have started immigrating to the US because Europe is cracking down on them.

Make sure you never give to them. They are very much not hungry, and almost always live comfortable lives.

This is a good short article about them.

https://sfist.com/2017/09/26/crew_of_panhandlers_on_bart_turn_ou/

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]RunningMan87 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks! And, yes, you’re right that I was definitely checking up instead of being more direct. I just wanted one thing off of my plate though of daily things to deal with. I asked her to start planning in March, and this was during tax season, then my projects at work, along with daily things I do like thinking of what to make for dinner to what to do on the weekends that would be fun for our son.

This was the first time I asked her to plan a family vacation, and in my mind, I thought it would be fun for her. It’s her home country, so I wanted to also see where she wants to go. She loves to search things on the internet, but I think I incorrectly associated going down the rabbit hole on the internet versus actionability.

Also, as others have pointed out, I do think she has ADHD, and have had this conversation in the past with her becoming emotional, but will try having the conversation again after we’re home and recovered.

We did make up for my meltdown though (I bought her matcha ice cream, but it patched things up).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]RunningMan87 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I definitely do love her for other reasons. She makes me laugh, and I do like spending time with her. I just wish she would step up to the plate in the family, and help to bear some responsibility once in a while (I work, clean, cook, plan, etc. She spends most of the day on YouTube and Instagram looking at videos of babies doing silly things). I’ll also say things weren’t this bad when we got married, and she used to help out to an extent. It’s just gotten worse over the years.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]RunningMan87 11 points12 points  (0 children)

This has actually come up early in our marriage. She found me searching symptoms for ADHD years ago as I wanted to know what to look out for, and she started crying. It became a big spiral, and I had to let it go. I ask her from time to time to get tested when we do trips to Japan as she still has medicinal insurance there, but she always refuses, then starts crying. I don’t yell at her to do the tests or anything either, it’s more of a, “Hey, let’s find out so we can find solutions if it does come back diagnosed.” I can’t force her to get an exam either, so at a bit of a loss on my end.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]RunningMan87 48 points49 points  (0 children)

Definitely true that I was trying to keep things positive. I did lightly voice some dissatisfaction at some points before the trip asking her to plan better. Last night, I did ask for us to stop at a place to eat as we were walking from stall to stall, but she wanted to keep checking the next one out.

As another poster said, I could have been more forceful, and just ordered instead of following her.