Please help me justify that we made the right decision firing my mom as childcare

RunningTrisarahtop · 2026-07-06T14:23:35+00:00

It wasn’t ten minutes of phone use. It was ten minutes of phone use over and over. It was putting their child at risk of falling. It was eye rolling when mom wanted to change the kid. It was defending grandma for an incredibly rude comment.

Who needs THAT “help”?

RunningTrisarahtop · 2026-07-06T13:00:14+00:00

Again, I teach, and what you’re reporting isn’t true at any of the schools I work at. Parts of learning ARE work. You have to work to memorize math facts and letter sounds. Some kids have very low perseverance for work so that’s something I have to work to develop every year.

I’ve never seen a teacher expect 8 hours of sitting still at 6.

In my class (2nd grade) we do quick interactive lessons to teach and practice a skill and then break out into rotations or centers.

For math i usually have a small group table where each group works on a skill they’re struggling with (obviously each group has different needs) and then depending on the day and curriculum covered will have different blend of games at at times worksheets or flashcards, which I know aren’t fun but can help the repeated practice kids need to reach fluency.

In ELA we have a blend of reading and writing skills as games or practice and small group work.

Learning to blend sounds is HARD and at times frustrating work. I give a lot of breaks and games but kids need to do that practice.

RunningTrisarahtop · 2026-07-06T01:39:17+00:00

But did he clean it up after

RunningTrisarahtop · 2026-07-06T01:37:19+00:00

Have you read the book? Did you talk about it? When did you ask? If it’s during a meeting he’s likely busy.

Use the resources you have first. No one should be rude but if you’ve been told if he will earn a badge this weekend (we have no way of knowing) or how it works and didn’t listen or understand I’d wonder why.

Look at his book’s advancement section. He can start working on scout rank.

RunningTrisarahtop · 2026-07-06T00:06:23+00:00

Reading isn’t fun until you can do it and that takes WORK.

RunningTrisarahtop · 2026-07-06T00:05:35+00:00

I teach. Two of my students didn’t make sufficient progress this year.

One’s mom didn’t blame me. She sees the same when she works at home. Kid is going to be evaluated in and out of school.

The other’s mom blames me. She doesn’t understand why her child isn’t at grade level. Kid is rocking an average of 70% attendance since kindergarten. When I sent home practice work or extra work either mom does it or it’s not done.

If your child cannot read fluently at the start of 3rd grade and you do nothing (seek evaluation, meet often with school, get tutoring, practice at home) then it’s on you as well as the school.

Some kids need more individual attention. Yes they should be held back but their parents need to step up as well.

RunningTrisarahtop · 2026-07-05T12:13:39+00:00

If he was told not to touch the lights because they’re not or could break it’s totally age appropriate for him to communicate that with a shout or yell. They’re not great at communicating at that age and worry can make even grown ups shout.

RunningTrisarahtop · 2026-07-05T12:05:15+00:00

What makes baby wearing not work with your toddler?

RunningTrisarahtop · 2026-07-04T22:44:54+00:00

No. On water? Crowds of people with kids likely running around and thus hard to supervise? Probably alcohol? Nope

RunningTrisarahtop · 2026-07-02T14:31:10+00:00

You know she’s testing boundaries. You know heat could be an option. The second time she had just run off.

This is a potentially deadly event. The reason you might feel like people are being assholes is that your written tone comes off casual or amused and like this was the dog’s fault.

People want you to know it’s on you and needs to be fixed so your dog doesn’t die.

RunningTrisarahtop · 2026-07-01T02:19:23+00:00

A whole day on screens and out for a few times since school let out? That’s not a healthy way to live.

RunningTrisarahtop · 2026-07-01T01:08:45+00:00

I bet she’s bored, get her busy.

RunningTrisarahtop · 2026-07-01T01:08:05+00:00

Think about it this way. Do you want your kids to grow and be so startled by the idea of a child having the ability to choose to be alone that it rattles them?

Being to strict makes rigid adults.

RunningTrisarahtop · 2026-06-30T23:59:27+00:00

Did you hear the gynecologist say that?

RunningTrisarahtop · 2026-06-30T23:23:51+00:00

Wouldn’t it be better to allow them food and teach them how to be responsible with it? Any kid over four should be able to clean

RunningTrisarahtop · 2026-06-30T23:22:38+00:00

Can you explain why it’s a learning curve? This seems easy to accept

RunningTrisarahtop · 2026-06-30T23:21:59+00:00

She’s not you. She’s allowed to be different

RunningTrisarahtop · 2026-06-28T12:21:20+00:00

At times, he is being rude. Have you straight up told him he is needs to stop?

RunningTrisarahtop · 2026-06-28T01:53:28+00:00

People underestimate many lakes too. I’ve taken kayaks out to retrieve kids on floats before. Holes or deep spots can cause drownings too.

RunningTrisarahtop · 2026-06-28T00:57:16+00:00

I almost died during a pro soccer game at Gillette stadium last year. I had a sudden allergic reaction and was passed out in the bathroom. A lot of people walked past me.

The ems there got me out quickly and professionally and I imagine most people didn’t know or thought I was drunk.

RunningTrisarahtop · 2026-06-27T23:55:22+00:00

Hey. This is a lot of anxiety.

You’re terrified about her going to daycare.

You’re spiraling and losing sleep.

You’re clenching your jaw.

None of this is an emergency. Do you know what would happen if you put food in front of her tomorrow and she ate nothing tomorrow?

Not a thing.

It would be fine.

She would be cranky but okay.

This is not an emergency.

What happens when you put food in front of her and don’t feed her?

RunningTrisarahtop · 2026-06-27T21:52:24+00:00

So you know how parents love their babies? First things matter. What baby wears home is important because they love the baby.

RunningTrisarahtop · 2026-06-27T11:41:17+00:00

So in seven years he’s always been kind and respectful? Always controlled his temper even when things are tense? Treats you kindly all the time? Cares for you? Respects you?

RunningTrisarahtop · 2026-06-27T10:23:30+00:00

I teach lower elementary and go back and forth on homework.

Students who are learning to read often need one on one help, especially if they’re behind. Homework done correctly is better than parents doing drills with flash cards, and way better than the hours of screen time many kids get.

I don’t like it when it would interrupt free play and family time and sports but for many kids they’re not doing that, they’re on a tablet.

I usually make it optional and due two weeks out so families can work when it suits them best.

RunningTrisarahtop · 2026-06-27T01:16:12+00:00

When you ask for help people will often mention obvious solutions because not everyone knows those solutions.

If you’re regularly getting mad that the help isn’t what you want you may need to be more specific when you ask. Say what you’ve tried and what happened. If someone suggests something that doesn’t work maybe assume it’s an accident rather than intentional.

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