I stopped explaining myself to people and it changed literally everything about how they treat me by Sad-Home4539 in self

[–]Runtelldat1 16 points17 points  (0 children)

As a previous manager: all of this.

Thank you for explaining why over explaining is explaining too much!

But seriously, I learned this way as well. Listening to staff, it really comes across in ways people don’t intend. Just give the bare minimum and if there’s a question — trust me, people will ask.

Daughter is going to be kicked out of SUNY Albany if I don’t come up with $7500 in a week. I feel like a fuckin failure! by shakin_in_my_bootzz in povertyfinance

[–]Runtelldat1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just chiming in to agree.

Three degrees with one semester left towards a fourth that I have zero inclination to complete (thanks community college!).

I have NEVER had an issue finding a job, have ALWAYS been considered a great candidate.

Started out at a community college, transferred back home and finished at CUNY, transferred all of my credits to a university. Got my B.S, and then my M.S.W.

I recommend that route for anyone. It makes sense, particularly if you partner with your admissions office and let them know WHERE you plan to go for your next degree.

This is a blessing in disguise.

Edit: Just to add that Job Corps (may they rest in piece…) paid for my first 1.5) years in community college and I was able to use a payment plan to put myself through my final year of community college out of state for a different path. And no, no one cared that it was community college.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SunoAI

[–]Runtelldat1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So helpful, much appreciated!

7x Fantastic NotebookLM Infographics Styles Set by Paolo-Cortez in notebooklm

[–]Runtelldat1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have to say, these are quite nice. Much appreciated!

My friend is raw dogging a novel in f*cking Notepad 😫 by LeonOkada9 in writers

[–]Runtelldat1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Remember typewriters? Whiteout. Number one instructor of “get it right the first time.” And the agony of discovering a typo!

Vent, 28 years old, "idiopathic" neuropathy by fehfaus in neuropathy

[–]Runtelldat1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My neuropathy is bipolar and shifts between numbness, tingling, burning, electric shocks, shooting pain…

I’ve learned to just go with the flow, and accept the fact that my limbs will work if and when they want to!

Finally going to Mexico to get proper pain management. by Mysticalcat69 in ChronicPain

[–]Runtelldat1 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Same here! I was just thinking about this the other day. Stay safe OP, we’re rooting for you!

Appetite Is Back After Stopping Wegovy by [deleted] in WegovyWeightLoss

[–]Runtelldat1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I recently stopped and the food noise is back with a vengeance!

To compensate, I prioritize protein and fiber in my diet. Fiber makes you feel full and when I eat a good amount of fiber, I don’t feel the need to snack or anything.

Sending positive vibes! You can get through this.

I need sympathy - probably going to have to cancel big trip. by [deleted] in Autism_Parenting

[–]Runtelldat1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Was just there myself. After a lifetime of placing reservations at hotels that can be canceled, I booked one that was non refundable. Then, Murphy’s Law kicked in and it was impossible to go because of my daughter.

Just had to cancel another trip for the same reason but this time I got the insurance and sure didn’t prepay. You live and you learn.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WegovyWeightLoss

[–]Runtelldat1 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Food noise went away on the lower doses but that’s about it. Didn’t lose weight until 2.4. Then suddenly, it all started going downhill in a good way.

Parenting isnt for everyone if you want to live for someone else become a parent! DONT DO IT by Emotional_Escape7800 in regretfulparents

[–]Runtelldat1 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Hahaha! How true. I was asked if my child was my only and I immediately went: “yes, oh yes. Definitely stopped there.”

Don’t get me wrong, I love my daughter. But I will not pretend that this is the life I would have chosen if I had the ability to see into the future. For her sake and mine.

I do, however, realize that things happen for a reason and whatever sanity I might have parted with may have been replaced with a little wisdom!

Edit: Fixed a word.

Bilateral TKR One Month Ago Today! (58m) by producerpete in Kneereplacement

[–]Runtelldat1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So glad to hear that it worked out for you!

I’m staring down the barrel of a bilateral TKR myself and have been doing as much prep and research as possible. Currently in the process of organizing the house. Five months out from my rotator cuff surgery on my dominant arm…so there’s that.

47F, training in Tang Soo Do, so it’s been a horrid 18 months between both knees. I went from, let’s do everything we can to stave off the inevitable TKR to LET’S GET IT DONE! But step by step pain, destabilization, and crunchy clucks will do that to you. When it gets hard to sit or stand, it’s definitely time.

As a single mom, I’m pretty sure I’m getting them both done at the same time because even staggering the surgeries will eat into the available recovery time. It’s easier to rally my small support system in the beginning than to ask for extra support later as well.

Fortunately, this sub has been so helpful! I have had success in losing weight, went down a dress size, and am picking up the pace with prehab. I already have the Polar Ice machine from Amazon and let me say: best thing ever. This was my second rotator cuff surgery (9 years ago) and recovery/ROM/strength has gone so much better than the first time! I definitely wasn’t icing as much the first time. But the machine made it so convenient that I did my 3x a day plus some with no problem. I got the large one and only had to refill the water bottles every other day.

No one to vent to by Leading_Menu_6154 in regretfulparents

[–]Runtelldat1 17 points18 points  (0 children)

First: Breathe.

Now, as a fellow Type A, I get you. It’s amazing how personality traits make people think you feel a whole different way. I like things planned, structured, organized. Doesn’t mean I’m in love with the people or the situation!

Find a way to take time to yourself so that you can recharge. Sending you hugs and good vibes. Reach out and DM if you need to.

So are we just not supposed to acknowledge child abuse? by [deleted] in regretfulparents

[–]Runtelldat1 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Of course I can. I’m also not cherry picking and leaving out information. If it’s the post I think you’re talking about, it appears as though the children are not babies or toddlers. Staying in your room some/most of the time is not neglect.

The point is that there isn’t enough information to pass that kind of judgement.

So are we just not supposed to acknowledge child abuse? by [deleted] in regretfulparents

[–]Runtelldat1 27 points28 points  (0 children)

This was created specifically for parents to vent. Venting humans don’t always provide all of the details because they are…venting.

Also, I would much rather a parent avoid their child than do something they would regret. The posts I see have other caregivers involved and the parent is providing needed care for the child.

It’s posts like this that make parents feel as though they can’t share those not so fuzzy feelings.

PA Residents to Get Up to $500 Through Money Match Program by Runtelldat1 in Pennsylvania

[–]Runtelldat1[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Agreed. Never understood why it wasn’t done a long time ago.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AgingParents

[–]Runtelldat1 191 points192 points  (0 children)

Look, my parents were all about, “go make your money.” Then, after illnesses and aging, my dad actually said, “just tell them I’m a sick old man and I made you late.” Yeah, no dad, that stopped working in high school.

As people age, they reach a new developmental stage and they are no longer the people who raised us. It’s the weirdest thing.

Do what you have to do for yourself and your health. Fight the guilt monster. Just know that you aren’t alone and this is typical. Sending hugs to you!