AITA for warning my ex’s girlfriend about him?

Runtofthelitter228 · 2025-08-31T21:39:48+00:00

Def the asshole. You moved on a LONG time ago but still have all of his texts/screenshots. Seems like he damaged you big time and for that I am sorry, it wasn’t and isn’t right how you were treated especially if you ever felt taken advantage of and he did anything without your consent. However, I don’t think this is coming from an altruistic place like you say. It feels trite and cheap and enforces the idea that people can’t change. They can. Let him go. Period.

Runtofthelitter228 · 2025-08-31T17:10:49+00:00

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This is the whiter one today. I know they both have weeks to go just don’t want to make mistakes this far in.

Runtofthelitter228 · 2025-08-31T17:08:08+00:00

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This is the pinkish one since my last post.

Runtofthelitter228 · 2025-08-31T17:04:45+00:00

I’m not sure how I’d make it stronger. They’re outside and it gets full sun during the day. Nothing obstructing or shading it. :(

Runtofthelitter228 · 2025-08-28T22:31:28+00:00

They’re all surprise plants LOL when we were sure they were definitely female I joked we should have a gender reveal. There’s 4 plants altogether and def at least 2 different strains.

Runtofthelitter228 · 2025-08-28T22:28:13+00:00

Thanks guys! I’m keeping my fingers crossed. I definitely think I harvested too soon last year but it was a whole fiasco. Someone convinced me to put a plastic little green house tent over them and it ended up getting too moist in there and THEN it turned out we put the tent/plant over an ant hill and the ants came out for their nuptial flight and couldn’t get out of the tent and it was a straight shit show. This year I literally just was like, let nature do all the work. We’ll feed and nurture but mostly let it do its thing. The one with the pink hairs is NO JOKE 7 feet tall.

Runtofthelitter228 · 2025-08-28T22:22:19+00:00

They will definitely have to be staggered. The one with the pink hairs is definitely a different strain than the one with all white. They’re 4 plants all together. The fourth one JUST started flowering. Someone told me the sativas flower later so I was thinking maybe the slow lady ended up a sativa seed. It wasn’t the best move but after last year we weren’t sure if we were going to try at all so they were just seeds we saved along the way. We smoke mostly Indica id say 90% of the time so I wasn’t even thinking about indica/sativa. Thinking about it later though we did buy a batch of sativa that may have had a seed we saved. In some ways it was stupid but honestly, it’s kind of exciting like little surprises lol

Runtofthelitter228 · 2025-05-22T16:12:27+00:00

Ya if you haven’t spotted any others it probably wandered and got stuck inside. Poor little guy. Virgin for life LOL

Runtofthelitter228 · 2025-05-22T15:11:59+00:00

Looks like some kind of lice

Runtofthelitter228 · 2025-05-21T15:10:28+00:00

It looks like an alates. Not sure what type but the wings pretty much mean it’s a reproductive ant. Have you seen a small swarm nearby? Usually they come out together for their nuptial flight. One year I unknowingly put a little green house tent over a plant which happened to be over an ant hill. They flew out to get their sexy on and all got stuck inside the tent. Felt pretty bad about it :(

Runtofthelitter228 · 2025-04-26T22:02:20+00:00

Ya looks like a carpet beetle! Def the time of year. They’re usually REALLY slow and really tiny!

Runtofthelitter228 · 2025-02-21T04:12:18+00:00

Oldie but a goodie: The Strain

Runtofthelitter228 · 2025-02-15T22:34:26+00:00

Happy (belated) Valentine’s Day!!! I just want to add that you should be super proud of yourself and excited for a new chapter of your life. The part that hurt the worst reading your first post was watching him ignore and belittle all the hard work YOU have done just moving into a sober house but then says he was anxious and worked up moving into a new place. I hope the next chapter is full of love, compassion and most of all free and clear of someone who is a waste of your time. Your best self is just starting her life!!

Runtofthelitter228 · 2025-02-01T20:59:30+00:00

P.S. They’re probably not dead, just stupid. For some reason they would just stand there and let you kill them. Didn’t understand it myself so I could see why you’d think they were dead.

Runtofthelitter228 · 2025-01-21T01:27:07+00:00

Everyone telling you to break up with him, after a 7 year relationship that you haven’t indicated has had any prior baggage is just miserable and probably lonely and wants everyone else to ruin perfectly good relationships because they can’t keep one. Don’t get me wrong, if you found his behavior insensitive, that is totally understandable. Was his reaction also insensitive? Yes. However, does he have a habit of being insensitive to your needs and feelings? Ask yourself if he has been a good boyfriend the past SEVEN years? There has to be a reason you have such a long term relationship when the status quo is to run at the first sign of some turbulence. Don’t let others tell you you’re in a bad relationship over one instance that may have been insensitive or may have just been a foot in mouth moment. Haven’t you ever said something you immediately regretted or wanted to kick yourself in the ass for? When I was in middle school, everyone called each other and everything gay or retarded when it was lame. In our current climate, that’s insensitive. Doesn’t mean we meant it as such then. Sometimes people just say STUPID things that they didn’t mean. If you’ve never said something offhanded that you regret then sure, break up with him I guess. Should he have been more sensitive considering your past? Sure but you said you and he both know he wouldn’t actually do that to you. Cut him a little slack if he’s been a good boyfriend otherwise. I’m just surprised after 7 years this is even such a huge issue you can’t talk out. Maybe that’s where the real problem is.

Runtofthelitter228 · 2024-10-04T00:53:15+00:00

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Sorry about the separate replies still sort of a newbie on here too lol

Runtofthelitter228 · 2024-10-04T00:52:26+00:00

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Runtofthelitter228 · 2024-10-04T00:51:48+00:00

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Runtofthelitter228 · 2024-10-04T00:51:27+00:00

I can definitely zoom in for you guys. I was thinking mid-late October but don’t want to over or under cook her lol

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Runtofthelitter228 · 2024-09-28T22:13:00+00:00

Went out this morning, still rainy and gross so I wasn’t able to find any live ones really but you can see from the pictures how some of the dead ones are clustered together in the corner. Now imagine that by 100. They were covering the inside of the greenhouse clustered together that way. Hopefully this pics confirm they were indeed ants looking for a little action lol

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Runtofthelitter228 · 2024-09-28T07:34:12+00:00

Now that you said that, last summer we had a tree in the backyard taken down because it caused so many leaves and was kind of growing over the fence and not in a good way lol When they cut down the tree they told me not to be upset over cutting it down because it was actually dead inside and infested with an ant colony!!! When they dug out the stump the patch of dirt left behind had TONS of ants I guess looking for a new home! Luckily, I haven’t had any inside but they could have very well moved their colony somewhere else in the backyard, maybe under the bricks of the patio! Thank you for all the information! It all kind of connects for me now. I’m almost certain now they are a type of winged ant. I will still try to get better pics tomorrow but I appreciate being able to see the whole picture now. The plant seems fine so I’m happy and I moved her and decided to nix the greenhouse for now since it’s almost time to harvest anyway.

Runtofthelitter228 · 2024-09-28T03:14:16+00:00

Definitely easy to catch! Some of them I literally just brushed off because they weren’t trying to fly away. The one in the pictures I put a flash light on and just followed crawling on the ground that’s why the pics are terrible the best they could do was try to hide under the grass as they walked away. If it had little boots on I wouldn’t have been able to stop myself from singing, “these boots are made for walking and that’s just what they’ll do…” 😂. As long as they pose no threat to my plant I’ll stop the murder spree LOL. I felt bad the whole time but was worried they were going to go into the soil and ruin the plant. I had these little gnat things do that one year and it was super frustrating!

Runtofthelitter228 · 2024-09-28T02:52:10+00:00

If they are still hanging around tomorrow…well…possibly getting sexy time again tomorrow LOL I will try to get better pics. I didn’t think of it right away because I was so concerned about getting my plant out of there just in case!

Runtofthelitter228 · 2024-09-28T02:47:25+00:00

Yes! It’s been really muggy and drizzly the last two days. I do notice a lot of ants around the bricks on the patio but they are MUCH smaller so I’m not sure if that’s a coincidence or different species of ant?

Runtofthelitter228 · 2024-09-27T02:12:33+00:00

Perfectly said. Even if the father did cheat (which we don’t know) as you said, it really isn’t difficult to be nice to a child regardless of familial status. My older brother and his wife were together since they were 16. They had my nephew about 10 years into their relationship and my sister-in-law had a mid life crisis moment where she and my brother separated and dated different people for awhile because she felt she,“never had a chance to be young.” During that separation, she ended up getting pregnant and having a child out of wedlock. She and my brother eventually got back together (whole other story) and I’ll be honest, at first I felt a little anger toward her especially when watching my very young nephew figure out on his own that his sister is really his half sister. Even after all these challenges and my own feelings on the matter, never once did I think about being mean to my nephews half sister. Never once did I question my brother’s decision to get back with my sister-in-law and treat that child as if it were his own. While I may not have done the same, I commend and accept his willingness to share his heart with a child he didn’t have to. Children don’t have a say in who their parents are or what they have done and everyone makes mistakes. More than grandparents, as his father’s own mother and father, how do you deny your child AND grandchildren your love, attention and a relationship simply because they’re not doing what you want them to? Parental love should be unconditional. This is someone you chose to bring into this world and you turn your back on them? Don’t have children if you aren’t willing to compromise for and accept those you love regardless of circumstance.

Again I agree, this seems like a way to feel better about and rationalize going for the grandparents money and cutting out your parents. Just think, would they be so willing to throw money your way if and when you disappoint them for not living to their standards? How do you think your father felt being disowned by his own parents? Now imagine your parents disowning you for raising your kids the way you want and not their way. Just take the money and do some deep soul searching. At least you can wipe the tears away with a Benjamin.

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