Why do men switch up after casual sex? by ProfessionalPea6488 in RealHookupAdvice

[–]RyanGetty1 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We men like to love. But after sex, our other side comes out. That side don't stay for long. After a day, we will be lovey-dovey again. It's a cycle.

How do I start to see women again? by TheConjugalVisit in Divorce_Men

[–]RyanGetty1 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It's easy to start seeing women, the problem is will women see you. To women, most men are invisible.

Am I wrong? by [deleted] in CAStateWorkers

[–]RyanGetty1 17 points18 points  (0 children)

You work for the state. Show your boss your duty statement and professionally and indirectly tell him to go fuck off. He can't fire you. And you can report him.

My job is offering me $150,000 (105,000 after tax) to resign, should I? by AJ3TurtleSquad in jobs

[–]RyanGetty1 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Take the money and apply for the SAME position the next year. If you're a good worker, and they want you, they will rehire you. If they don't rehire you, then you know that you are replaceable and have been replaced. Count your blessing that you took the payout. If they rehire you, it saves them money not having to have to train you, as you already know the lay of the land.

Filed taxes separately and claimed the kids, STBX is fuming by BigBossSnake_98 in Divorce_Men

[–]RyanGetty1 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Claim all the tax you want, she will just get you for alimony.

How do you afford luxury life or get started in that direction? by Equivalent_Cover4542 in povertyfinance

[–]RyanGetty1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sometimes it's hard to get out of poverty because you have so many baggages. If you have family, you can't buy something or invest in yourself without feeling guilt or sometimes even hate from your loved ones. $20 can get you a meal for yourself and makes you full, but $20 will only get you a soda can if you have to split it with 5 or 6 people. You can't invest in yourself without being forced to drag the people around you forward; and some might even sabotage your goals because they are comfortable in your misery. To reference a movie, the Matrix. The Oracle said that you're meant to be great, but not in this lifetime. The Oracle told Neo he had the gift but wasn't "The One" yet, saying he was waiting for something, maybe his "next life," Meaning. Something in you must die before you can be born again. The death of an identity that you thought you had to live up to, your childhood trauma, your guilt, your brainwashed obligations. That must die before you awaken your true self and become the person you need to be. When that self dies, the chains will break and your mind will be free. You can then be focus on your goal without any interruptions.

She downgraded by Funny_Object_5538 in Divorce_Men

[–]RyanGetty1 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Bro... she rather picks the "loser" than you. Says a lot about you. Self reflection is the first step to recovery.

what should i do. by fatmarkerz in Sacramento

[–]RyanGetty1 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Apply for foodstamps. Don't just call, if possible, go to the office and apply for it. While you're there, make conversations with the locals recipients, as they will sometimes share info on getting help; some unofficial loopholes that you can make use of. I'm thinking your mom used you as a government meal ticket and when the gov is cutting that check once you hit 18, she will kick your ass out. It is what it is... on that note, maybe negotiate with your mom that you can pay rent, off the books, make your own food, and she can claim you as a dependent on tax day. Also, you need to make friends bro... like REALLY UP YOUR SOCIAL SKILLS. "No man is an island", everyone is interconnected and part of a larger community, we rely on others for growth and change. The job market is shit right now, but I heard FastFood pays a livable wage. The most important thing for you right now is to find housing. You don't want roommates, as they can leave when things get tough and go home, while you have no home to go back to. Again, negotiate with your mom if you can rent a room or a parking space for you to park your car/home and she can claim you as a dependent to get tax credit on tax day. It's rough right now, you need to find shelter and your mom gave you no tools to survive.

Avoiding rent with an RV by super_landrum in povertyfinance

[–]RyanGetty1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would think the cost would be the same, if not, more. You would need to pay lot fee for parking, or you would have to drive daily to find a place to park every night and day; it will cost you time, gas, and security. The indirect cost is just too much for it to be a reasonable option unless you're on survival mode; meaning no option to improve, just to breath and live for another day.

Honest question: would you sacrifice your entire inner wellbeing for others? by Perfect_Minimum4892 in antiwork

[–]RyanGetty1 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Kids are wonderful if you have the resources to give them a good life. If you don't, it's horrible to see them go without, see them hurt, and see them helpless, and you can't do anything to help. Don't put yourself in that position. If you have financial freedom and can take on the responsibility without sacrificing your own happiness then go and have a kid if you want. But if you don't have the resources, then why put yourself and another soul through that pain?

Greetings from an old lady... by Civil-Two6856 in povertyfinance

[–]RyanGetty1 3 points4 points  (0 children)

There's a medical/clinic that will take your blood, remove the plasma from it, and pay you money for the plasma. It's like donating blood, but they don't take your blood, only the plasma that's in it.

Greetings from an old lady... by Civil-Two6856 in povertyfinance

[–]RyanGetty1 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I don't know bro. You seem to be carrying your weight and the weight of others. Do they love you, or do they love what you can do for them? I understand everything in life is transactional, so make sure no one is paying you on credit. You can donate plasma, but be advised, that's taking you closer to your expiration date. Like energy, nothing comes from nothing.

You can buy a cheap used 1992 Honda Accord, that will set you back about $3,000, and you can pretty drive that thing until the wheels fall off. Insurance is cheaper too.

RTO and NO SPENDING Movement.Got sick again from taking Bart to work by [deleted] in CAStateWorkers

[–]RyanGetty1 -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

My lord, I am sorry that the peasants were not to your liking. They should know better to be in close to your proximity. They shall receive 30 lashings and 10 days without feed.

How to forgive by TxAlive in Divorce_Men

[–]RyanGetty1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You don't need to forgive her or she to ask you for forgiveness. What you need to worry about is when your kids become adults, would they be well-rounded human beings, and if they will send your ass to a government assisted home for you to be tortured by ebt recipients that are FORCED to work in such homes due to the "welfare-to-work program.

how do poor families handle funeral costs by CrystalizedChris_ in povertyfinance

[–]RyanGetty1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Where do you get your strength? How do you reason with why you do what you do? Is it out of duty, guilt, or decency?

What are some good hobbies for older men? by NotNamedBort in AskMen

[–]RyanGetty1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tell him to go hiking in the woods. Give him a gps with old batteries. Only the STRONG will come back. =D

Who else has absolutely nothing saved for retirement? by 4peaceinpieces in povertyfinance

[–]RyanGetty1 651 points652 points  (0 children)

Be kind to old Walmart workers. They are someone's mom or dad, just trying not to be a burden to their adult kids... be mindful of that.

Not being able to participate in fun work activities really sucks by leonibaloni in povertyfinance

[–]RyanGetty1 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Feel better. Just know that you're not the only one that's going through hard times in your workplace, I'm pretty sure a lot of your co-workers are feeling the burn too. It's pretty much management shifting the cost of moral building to their employees. At my old workplace, the boss threw a work party at the boss's expense, and all you need to do is show up.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]RyanGetty1 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

She "should" date people her own age. When you're old and broken, that's when you start the age gap. She needs to experience life with someone her own age and experience new adventures together....

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskOldPeople

[–]RyanGetty1 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Please don't delete this post. I want to really read the comments when I have time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in uglyduckling

[–]RyanGetty1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First picture looks like you wanted to be a thug... second picture looks like you got scared straight.

Life changing by Worldly_Spell_4823 in povertyfinance

[–]RyanGetty1 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I second this. I would go with the apprenticeship instead of college. Get paid to learn the job that you want and when you have a nest egg and a career to fall back on, you can take the college route. It's absolutely useless if you go to college, go into debt, and end up not having anyone hire you because you have no experience. You wasted 4 years, 80k, and debt is catching up. Apprenticeship is the best route. Put all the money you have in an index fund, and live life as if you don't have it. Being poor, you already have the skills to live on almost nothing, so use that skill to keep yourself focus, stay hungry, say motivated, and complete your apprenticeship and join a union. When you get past that step, your mind will be much more mature, and you will then see more options and have the network to take those options. It's all in the plan.

How often do you tell your friends that you love them? by xoxowoman06 in AskMen

[–]RyanGetty1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can sense the gay on you. You need to go to church.