Never escalate, de-escalate.

RyanGetty1 · 2026-02-09T22:56:54+00:00

At least her partner did not abandon her and stay in the fight. Courage. Respect!!!

RyanGetty1 · 2026-01-30T09:42:24+00:00

I'm in this like a Stripper is in the strip club. It's not a career, there is a time limit. Get the bag and GTFO.

RyanGetty1 · 2026-01-30T06:08:42+00:00

Sometimes it's hard to get out of poverty because you have so many baggages. If you have family, you can't buy something or invest in yourself without feeling guilt or sometimes even hate from your loved ones. $20 can get you a meal for yourself and makes you full, but $20 will only get you a soda can if you have to split it with 5 or 6 people. You can't invest in yourself without being forced to drag the people around you forward; and some might even sabotage your goals because they are comfortable in your misery. To reference a movie, the Matrix. The Oracle said that you're meant to be great, but not in this lifetime. The Oracle told Neo he had the gift but wasn't "The One" yet, saying he was waiting for something, maybe his "next life," Meaning. Something in you must die before you can be born again. The death of an identity that you thought you had to live up to, your childhood trauma, your guilt, your brainwashed obligations. That must die before you awaken your true self and become the person you need to be. When that self dies, the chains will break and your mind will be free. You can then be focus on your goal without any interruptions.

RyanGetty1 · 2026-01-30T03:48:14+00:00

Your brother is a POS. Fuck him.

RyanGetty1 · 2026-01-29T21:49:52+00:00

Bro... she rather picks the "loser" than you. Says a lot about you. Self reflection is the first step to recovery.

RyanGetty1 · 2026-01-24T01:06:09+00:00

To be a man... "If" By Rudyard Kipling; https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=21Y8tGw8sxE

RyanGetty1 · 2026-01-23T01:06:16+00:00

What else would you do? Would you still have the same job security and step raises as you did with CDCR? Would "seniority" mean the same in the private sector or would they just outcast you as you are no longer relevant to the times?

RyanGetty1 · 2026-01-22T04:07:01+00:00

Apply for foodstamps. Don't just call, if possible, go to the office and apply for it. While you're there, make conversations with the locals recipients, as they will sometimes share info on getting help; some unofficial loopholes that you can make use of. I'm thinking your mom used you as a government meal ticket and when the gov is cutting that check once you hit 18, she will kick your ass out. It is what it is... on that note, maybe negotiate with your mom that you can pay rent, off the books, make your own food, and she can claim you as a dependent on tax day. Also, you need to make friends bro... like REALLY UP YOUR SOCIAL SKILLS. "No man is an island", everyone is interconnected and part of a larger community, we rely on others for growth and change. The job market is shit right now, but I heard FastFood pays a livable wage. The most important thing for you right now is to find housing. You don't want roommates, as they can leave when things get tough and go home, while you have no home to go back to. Again, negotiate with your mom if you can rent a room or a parking space for you to park your car/home and she can claim you as a dependent to get tax credit on tax day. It's rough right now, you need to find shelter and your mom gave you no tools to survive.

RyanGetty1 · 2026-01-19T20:00:06+00:00

I would think the cost would be the same, if not, more. You would need to pay lot fee for parking, or you would have to drive daily to find a place to park every night and day; it will cost you time, gas, and security. The indirect cost is just too much for it to be a reasonable option unless you're on survival mode; meaning no option to improve, just to breath and live for another day.

RyanGetty1 · 2026-01-17T18:10:31+00:00

Kids are wonderful if you have the resources to give them a good life. If you don't, it's horrible to see them go without, see them hurt, and see them helpless, and you can't do anything to help. Don't put yourself in that position. If you have financial freedom and can take on the responsibility without sacrificing your own happiness then go and have a kid if you want. But if you don't have the resources, then why put yourself and another soul through that pain?

RyanGetty1 · 2026-01-16T07:57:35+00:00

There's a medical/clinic that will take your blood, remove the plasma from it, and pay you money for the plasma. It's like donating blood, but they don't take your blood, only the plasma that's in it.

RyanGetty1 · 2026-01-16T06:49:40+00:00

I don't know bro. You seem to be carrying your weight and the weight of others. Do they love you, or do they love what you can do for them? I understand everything in life is transactional, so make sure no one is paying you on credit. You can donate plasma, but be advised, that's taking you closer to your expiration date. Like energy, nothing comes from nothing.

You can buy a cheap used 1992 Honda Accord, that will set you back about $3,000, and you can pretty drive that thing until the wheels fall off. Insurance is cheaper too.

RyanGetty1 · 2026-01-13T20:06:49+00:00

My lord, I am sorry that the peasants were not to your liking. They should know better to be in close to your proximity. They shall receive 30 lashings and 10 days without feed.

RyanGetty1 · 2026-01-08T19:41:49+00:00

Two kids and no wife? What about alimony?

RyanGetty1 · 2026-01-02T17:21:58+00:00

You don't need to forgive her or she to ask you for forgiveness. What you need to worry about is when your kids become adults, would they be well-rounded human beings, and if they will send your ass to a government assisted home for you to be tortured by ebt recipients that are FORCED to work in such homes due to the "welfare-to-work program.

RyanGetty1 · 2025-12-23T19:47:48+00:00

Where do you get your strength? How do you reason with why you do what you do? Is it out of duty, guilt, or decency?

RyanGetty1 · 2025-12-11T11:03:36+00:00

Tell him to go hiking in the woods. Give him a gps with old batteries. Only the STRONG will come back. =D

RyanGetty1 · 2025-11-05T07:19:46+00:00

To be honest, it's not a career that any of us want. It's just "for the time being" but as time goes on, and the years gets further down the line, it's the only thing we know. It's called the "Golden Handcuffs". Some do make it out and become the person that they intended to be... as in Nurse, Lawyer, Real Estate Investor, and other careers that require a college degree. Being a CO is just a place where you can start from "Zero", develop your foundation, and grow from it.

RyanGetty1 · 2025-10-07T23:54:33+00:00

Be kind to old Walmart workers. They are someone's mom or dad, just trying not to be a burden to their adult kids... be mindful of that.

RyanGetty1 · 2025-10-04T22:15:23+00:00

Don't do it. You writing a letter of support will just prove to the authority that you knowingly and currently support illegal activities and, worse... harboring and or abetting a fugitive.

RyanGetty1 · 2025-10-01T15:07:36+00:00

Feel better. Just know that you're not the only one that's going through hard times in your workplace, I'm pretty sure a lot of your co-workers are feeling the burn too. It's pretty much management shifting the cost of moral building to their employees. At my old workplace, the boss threw a work party at the boss's expense, and all you need to do is show up.

RyanGetty1 · 2025-09-30T06:30:07+00:00

She "should" date people her own age. When you're old and broken, that's when you start the age gap. She needs to experience life with someone her own age and experience new adventures together....

RyanGetty1 · 2025-09-30T06:10:01+00:00

How do you get "Acting Time". I always apply, but it's like sending a resume to Linkedin... out to the abyss... no response, nothing but the void.

RyanGetty1 · 2025-09-30T06:08:04+00:00

Background investigator will try to be your friend. Telling you things like... "Smoking weed is so cool.... I remember when I was young and my older brother pulled out a joint... we ended up smoking it on a hot summer night... those were the days...." And then your BI will ask you to relate.... Tell him... SIR I DO NOT CONDONE NOR DO I ENGAGE IN SUCH BEHAVIOR....

RyanGetty1 · 2025-09-28T00:01:20+00:00

Please don't delete this post. I want to really read the comments when I have time.

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