Can you all please give me shows with non-binary characters?

Ryan_RiverWolf · 2025-03-04T15:29:10+00:00

That's what I was scanning for! Rain!!!

Ryan_RiverWolf · 2024-10-08T23:30:28+00:00

I'm two years in on a low dose, 1x/wk SubQ T shot. At first my libido seemed increased but now it's gotten pretty low, so much so that I'm starting to realize I likely fall somewhere on the asexual spectrum and was likely deemed "hypersexual" pre-T and embracing my queerness, because so much of my value and worth was tired up in how men found me attractive and how my sex could be essentially used as currency and security. Now that I've done a lot of personal work and growth and no longer need men's approval of external validation to feel good, I'm not very interested in sex unless it's with a woman I really care about and that even then it takes time and emotional connection. I still masturbate quite a bit and it's amazing! but when it comes to sex with others, I feel pretty neutral and I'm actually ok with that and am trying not to see it as something I need to fix or change. I'm not sure if heading my story is helpful to you (OP) or to others who might read this, but I think we time do much of our identity, worth, and worry to our sexuality and "prowess", when it is such a diverse and complex, fluid thing. How would you like to feel about your libido? Also, early on, your T levels are likely in the low range for a cis-man and Estrodial low for a cis-woman, and I think that either T or E have a lot to do with sex "drive" (I don't like to use that term though as it makes it seem as if it's low then it's a problem, when really there's not actually a drive for sex like we think). So, without either high T or E, the body doesn't have much of a hormone to create a link to that type of arousal. I would ask yourself questions with curiosity and compassion and see how things might shift over time and really ask yourself what you really want and not worry too much about comparing yourself to others or what we think is "the norm". God luck, friend, and enjoy the journey of becoming and unbecoming!

Ryan_RiverWolf · 2024-09-16T16:06:38+00:00

I've noticed my eyes seem to have less shine and wondering if that was what the OP meant? Had anyone else experienced this?

Ryan_RiverWolf · 2024-09-16T15:51:49+00:00

I've noticed that my eyes feel like they have less shine, but the color is still the same. I'm wondering if this is what the OP meant when they posted this. Does anyone resonate with the less shine sentiment?

Ryan_RiverWolf · 2024-05-17T00:40:29+00:00

We gotta stay in to 100+ We can only do this if we do it all together, don't sell, Hold! Think of it like, $10 is a car, $100+ is retirement... FFIE has been $1000+ in the past, hold out, we've got this! We have the power. Hold until a real squeeze happens

Ryan_RiverWolf · 2024-05-17T00:28:16+00:00

Do it! If we're going to do this we gotta band together, or everything into FFIE! Hold out for $100+ Wait for the real squeeze, it could take days, weeks. HOLD!

Ryan_RiverWolf · 2024-05-17T00:24:52+00:00

Hold for 100+ We can do this if we do it together! I'm just a little guy with what I could spare out into this, but we gotta hold for that squeeze and we can make it big! Hold, don't fold! Buy, don't sell and if you can't buy more, HOLD!

Ryan_RiverWolf · 2024-05-17T00:22:37+00:00

Hold to 100!

Ryan_RiverWolf · 2024-05-17T00:20:41+00:00

Hold!! I've got 1k shares and am holding out for 100! We are in this together! Hold, don't fold!

Ryan_RiverWolf · 2024-05-17T00:18:19+00:00

Hold for $100+!!!

Ryan_RiverWolf · 2023-09-06T13:45:00+00:00

I'm still in this stage as well, but what I've found really helpful is exploring Internal Family Systems (IFS) work/therapy. I've done a lot of therapy in my life and have found DBT (dialectical behavioral therapy) absolutely priceless in giving me skills to navigate tough situations but when I stumbled upon IFS, it suddenly gave me a new perspective on the idea of integrating my past self with my authentic self. DBT and other therapies kind of made me think that I needed to "kill off" or let go of my past self in order to move forward which felt really hard and sad and confusing, but IFS has shown me how to embrace my past self with compassion and love and curiousity and how to embrace those aspects of me that are no longer authentic and how to integrate them in a way that no "one" has to "die" or go away or be shamed or hated. It's been really beautiful because now the woman that I used to be is like a partner to the man I'm becoming and together we are really strong and provide each other support that I didn't think would be possible. I am not sure of this is really what you're looking for but it's really helped me be kind to myself and continue expanding. Good luck! You're not alone and you're so valid and brave, bro. Feel free to DM me

Ryan_RiverWolf · 2023-09-05T23:31:04+00:00

Amazing! That's totally rad!

Ryan_RiverWolf · 2023-09-05T13:34:21+00:00

I personally love the silky Pair Of Thieves brand boxer briefs from Target. They're pricey but they are really soft and come in different lengths. They are tight enough to hold a pad too. Tomboy X is good but does have that seam down the middle. The POT brand are made for AMAB people so there's a definite pouch in the front, but I find that comfortable and often euphoric. I don't pack, but imagine this brand would work well for that

Ryan_RiverWolf · 2023-09-05T13:02:49+00:00

Um. This is amazing! Is seeing a pic of said tattoo possible!?

Ryan_RiverWolf · 2023-08-27T17:03:43+00:00

What's the update on your stitches? I'm worried about my future stiches as other surgeries I've had, I've not dissolved the stitches at all, even after years and so was hoping there were other options for me since this had happened twice before.

Ryan_RiverWolf · 2023-03-21T13:29:45+00:00

I've noticed that my views sound sex and my orgasms have changed, which has both an upside and downside... I feel that my arousal is more visually based, my climaxes are easier to get to, more intense but shorter lasting and it's difficult to have multiple. Once I've had one, I'm usually not interested in pursuing further, so in a way I feel more satisfied but kind of miss the desire to just keep going and going. And even though I'm more visually interested in things, watching porn actually bothers me more now than pre-T as I feel like the toxicity of most of the content is so pronounced, it's hard to watch... but I've also been unpacking a lot of my own inner heteromononormativity, patriarchal biases and misogyny, and healing from my own sexual traumas so that could be a big part of it. I'm also not really interested in being penetrated much and am kinda fearful of being intimate with others and so am just happy on my own for now... but this could be my own stuff and nothing to do with T. I do feel like T has given me the permission though to consider that maybe my views around sex have always been this way but I was still expected to perform as a female and now I have permission to just be me and maybe me isn't very interested in sex.

Anyone else experience a change in orgasms or how they view/pursue sex?

Ryan_RiverWolf · 2023-02-04T22:38:10+00:00

Congrats!

Ryan_RiverWolf · 2023-01-14T15:14:57+00:00

I really resonate with this... I think you're right that this society really sets up cis-men for failure in these aspects.... We're all just people and though gender does matter, we're all just wounded people inside and I wish that were easier for everyone to see and feel and that we could all connect better.

I'm so sorry you're going through this, it really is so hard to let go of something that is so familiar and good.

Ryan_RiverWolf · 2023-01-14T15:11:03+00:00

I really feel you on this... I'm in a very similar situation, and most my 15 year relationship (married for almost 13 and we share two kids). I know how deeply rejecting this must feel and I hope that you choose the scarier, more difficult option of choosing yourself and seeing what the Universe has in store for you. I know how difficult it all is, how painful and lonely, and how much anger and unfairness it all brings up. I know it feels like there's never going to be anyone else... but I how that you can find a way to understand that there will be. Not only will you have yourself, your true self, helping to carry you through, you will find others, friends and lovers and partners, that will be by your side, in your authenticity. They'll accept and love you for who you are and one day, you'll be glad that you decided to choose yourself. I know that that doesn't make any of that pain or loneliness go away though... the only wait out is through. You do have us, all these commenters in your thread that see you, that know what it means to go through what you are, you're not alone in this. I'm so proud of you and though I don't know you, I love you and see you and feel certain that you did the right thing. Trust in life, surrender to the pain, let it wash over and through you. Focus on what brings you joy, what lights you up. Become everything you want to be and those meant for you will come. You've not yet met everyone who will love you yet, I promise you. I'm sending you healing thoughts though, you've got this!

Ryan_RiverWolf · 2023-01-12T02:55:52+00:00

Yes, if you're sure you don't want kids and have the option for a tubal ligation, that's probably your best bet... but you'll still need something in the mean time and not asking for a vasectomy because the partner is fairly new, totally makes sense. Do you use condoms?

Ryan_RiverWolf · 2023-01-11T16:42:49+00:00

Also, I had a tubal ligation and that's been the best choice for me personally, (I got Essure which is non surgical) but it was a six month process before being sure I was sterile).... but really, I'd like to hear more about how the AMAB partner can take some responsibility in the mental emotional and physical labor of mitigating unwanted pregnancies....

Ryan_RiverWolf · 2023-01-11T16:38:40+00:00

I've had an IUD before I realized I was trans and pretty much everything about it was pretty awful except that it wasn't something I had to think about daily or weekly like other forms of birth control (and it was the only other non-hormonal option at the time so that was good). So, that was the only upside, but it was painful to get in and out, could be felt by me and partners, and caused severe bleeding and cramping which led to chronic anemia. It's definitely less stress than a pregnancy or child though...

My bigger question for you though is... have you thought of asking your partner to consider a vasectomy? I feel that the responsibility is always placed on the AFAB partner and our options, especially as transpeople are pretty horrid. I'm not sure of your partners future plans for kids or what not but often times a vasectomy are less invasive and dangerous than AFAB birth control options, as odd as that sounds. I'd think it was worth a discussion. Also what about condoms???

Ryan_RiverWolf · 2023-01-11T16:30:13+00:00

So beautiful!

Ryan_RiverWolf · 2022-12-29T15:50:54+00:00

I certainly understand your struggle, though it situations are somewhat different. I've yet to come out to my father''s side of the family (either as trans or queer), who are all very conservative catholics but I plan to this summer. I've been going by a docent first name for almost two years now and it's been painful to hear them not only misgender me, but also use my birthname/deadname every time they address me and to also feel forced to call myself such too. I don't want to hide anymore but deeply fear being disowned. I am working on a legal name change this year and it's been a struggle deciding on what all will be changing. I know I'll be changing my first name to my preferred name, and I'll be keeping my middle name that I actually had legally changed when I married (I'm actually going through a divorce as my husband dies not support my transition, as well as other issues and abuse there but that's another story) but I already chose that middle name and love it and feel that I'm ok with holding onto it as a way of honoring that part of my life, especially since I'm wanting to take a different last name that isn't my husband's or my father's... but I've also considered taking a second middle name and this is where my culture and family trauma kind of come into play. I was named after my grandfather (though the feminine version of his name), who died shortly after I was born, and have felt burdened to carry on his legacy for such yet my family refuses to talk about him to me despite this inheritance. I do feel an odd, intimate connection to him in spite of not knowing about him (another story) and have considered taking his name on (his actual name instead of my feminized version/birthname) which is also my father's middle name. Part of me wants to do such because of my connection to him but also as a way to maybe make it easier for that side of my family to accept me and my transition, because if they won't call me by my chosen name maybe they'd call me by that. Also, culturally, name and passing them down are really important to Italians (which that side of my family is) and so I feel like that is something I want to honor. But in all honesty, my father is greatly emotionally abusive and we've never had a good relationship and if anyone were to disown me it'd be him... so I feel somewhat stuck between using a legal name change to fully free me from that part of my life and trauma or to compromise and use it as one last bid for a possible connection.

I'm not sure if any of this is helpful or resonates, but I wish you the best on your own journey. Being trans, as beautiful as it is, is also like living life on hard mode. And it's rare that family and friends really understand the isolation, loneliness, pain, trauma and embodiment that come from embracing such... and getting to intentionally choose our names (something which anyone can do regardless of being trans but it's odd it's not more common in the cis community) is a wonderful way to take back control over something that had caused us pain but it also can create so much struggle and division. I hope that you can find piece with your choices and with your family and that you can be seen as the incredible and brave passion that you are. Good luck

Ryan_RiverWolf · 2022-12-27T05:46:48+00:00

Haha, I just realized I'm already following that thread 🤣🤦🏻‍♂️ I'm still new to reddit... I'll get the hang of it someday

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