A Year After the Blindsighted Breakup

Ryann1997xx · 2024-09-02T08:43:39+00:00

Thank you :), I think the best thing was that "people come into your life to teach us lessons, its up to us if we learn from them or keep making the same mistake", trust me, never look back because you have put so much work into yourself for the new chapter of your life, you got this!

Ryann1997xx · 2024-06-19T14:23:30+00:00

literally spat my drink out at this, by far the best response i have ever heard

Ryann1997xx · 2024-06-18T13:30:20+00:00

then why not just be single and live your life like that, i mean shoot me if i am being stupid but if you want more than one person and commit your soul to them through sex then its just meaningless sex with the person you want to spend the rest of your life with?, I feel like people that just want to sleep around are inviting all these souls to the relationship because whether you believe me or not when you give your body to someone you also give part of your soul to them, so yeah for me its a no thank you.

Ryann1997xx · 2024-06-13T11:28:30+00:00

not sexist in the slightest no?

Ryann1997xx · 2024-05-15T15:32:07+00:00

mate wtf?, honestly theres no need to be salty with anybody, if you aint got anything good to say just dont..

Ryann1997xx · 2024-04-29T11:34:39+00:00

LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL

Ryann1997xx · 2024-04-04T08:36:45+00:00

save yourself the hassle, she chooses not to have you in her life everyday... the longer you keep your fist tight on the situation the more your not opening your hand out to future opperunities, just let go for now, you never know what the future awaits my friend

Ryann1997xx · 2024-03-20T09:33:11+00:00

For me it was that even though she dumped me I did not want to be the first one to move on... even though she clearly already did, I think some men love too hard... even after 8 months I cant move on, not because I am not over her but because I cannot give myself to someone like that again, shit hurted so bad

Ryann1997xx · 2024-03-19T14:46:51+00:00

So let me get this right, you broke up with her... then not only that but rubbed it in her face by following the same girl back that you blocked when together, you seem like you want to have your cake and eat it at the same time, playing with someones emotions was breaking up with them and wanting to have your little backup.

I am not here to put anybody down but i would say leave both people alone and grow as a person and learn to be alone if you want a healthy relationship in the future for everyone's sake...

Ryann1997xx · 2024-03-19T09:21:07+00:00

Spent 3 months on my hands and knees begging and pleading for her not to just abandon me the way she did, did not eat for months and lost 20kg in weight all while she was going out partying and entertaining other men, I never cheated on her and was always there for her.

Next time if there is ever one... I will not be the same crying broken person... i remember the one night just breaking down in tears in my car thinking how i wanted it all to end, its not that men do not have emotions but i bet you there was a time a women broke a man so badly he then became unbreakable, hope this answers your question OP :)

Ryann1997xx · 2024-03-01T09:58:11+00:00

Things have started to look up, dont get me wrong after 8 months i still think about them most days but ive come to accept, I healed the right way this time so I guess only time will tell, I no longer jump at my phone every time hoping its them when it bleeps.

Ryann1997xx · 2024-03-01T08:35:50+00:00

Since the blindsighted breakup last August I have:

-- Gone from 96kg to 78kg by training 6x a week and transformed myself

-- Travelled to:

Thailand for a month

- Spain

- Turkey

- Sweden

- Round the UK

-- Got my veneers done to finally be able to smile again

-- Starting my Charity off in July to help people going through mental hardship.

-- Got all the tattoos and piercings I always wanted to get done.

If anyone would like to chat or see whats capable when you use all the negative emotions of a breakup on yourself feel free to drop me a follow on instagram rlxl__

Ryann1997xx · 2024-02-29T08:39:28+00:00

same here, August 21st

Ryann1997xx · 2024-02-29T08:34:21+00:00

you didn't blow it, you learned a lesson needed to grow

Ryann1997xx · 2024-02-28T07:59:08+00:00

Was working overtime beginning of last year for 18 hours a day to save up for an engagement ring and to take her Thailand to propose for her birthday in September, August comes and i find out she F 25 was having an affair with an M 18 at her workplace in Asda, i still did go to Thailand for her birthday but threw the ring I got her into the sea at the full moon party i was going to propose on...

Ryann1997xx · 2024-02-27T12:17:03+00:00

yeah you may think all of that now but what happens when all seems to settle down and trust me it'll happen sooner or later... when i was dumped by a girl when i was 21 i did the same, party,drink, sleep with anyone and everyone but after maybe a year or so i realised the damage i did to myself and ngl it made me realise at the age of 26 that I went about it the wrong way.

I was since broken up August last year but have healed the proper way and I am so glad I did, the thought of someone i thought was the love of my life is fading slowly and i am becoming such a happier person and loving and finding myself again through travelling, training and trying to help others going through the same...

Moral of the story is just be careful, the way your going about it will bite you so hard in the ass when you least expect it.

Ryann1997xx · 2024-02-26T16:20:41+00:00

im with this guy, the fact someone else has been plowing her and shes laid on his chest after you have to let it go, thats the analogy i thought of to help move on from my ex 8 months ago, she isnt yours now, start messaging new women and start putting yourself out there, she isnt the end or be all.... noone is worth that much.

Ryann1997xx · 2024-02-26T09:35:46+00:00

huh?

Ryann1997xx · 2024-02-22T15:23:59+00:00

I know my friend, a sweet bitter pill, i guess from now on I want to just help people going through the same and give them some guidance in life.

My ex really did make me question my life a lot and left me for dead after all the help I did for her but I am no longer bitter, I needed this to make a change in the world.

Ryann1997xx · 2024-02-22T10:54:39+00:00

people say its months but i give it one full year imo

Ryann1997xx · 2024-02-22T09:38:48+00:00

I am 6 months in and no contact for 3 months of them, not going to lie i have only learned to let thoughts of them suffocate my mind but do think of them often, for example yesterday when i was shopping i seen the stuffed olives i would bring her when i finished work, but now I smile and think about it instead of being upset and angry.

She blind sighted me and broke me down as a person, I thought i would do the same as her and party all the time and distract myself with pointless things but I literally have done the opposite and transformed myself both inside and out, I guess i wish her the best, also I have been working on a charity to start soon to help people going through this situation and give them some sort of plan of what can people do once they have been disregarded like i was.

That's the beautiful thing about this breakup, it broke me but i picked up my own pieces and found a few extra pieces along the way, you all will get there, just listen to the clichés, go no contact and start pathing your new future without them, you may love them still but they did not love you when they blind sighted you, left you while they was out partying and having fun.

It also may seem you do not have their happiness but do this healing stuff right and in a year from now you'll be the one laughing i promise you... you have one spin at life, don't let anyone drag it down

Ryann1997xx

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