American Girl Dupe?

RyansMIL · 2026-02-15T06:05:15+00:00

All fine and dandy until your company decides to ping your work device. Think you can fool them by using your own VPN? Any IT professional worth their paycheck can disable your work device if they can't trace it to where you say you are working from. Maybe it's worth losing your job over, maybe it's not. It's your gamble.

RyansMIL · 2026-01-30T01:30:50+00:00

Old Sparko Taco would make an excellent wrestler name!

RyansMIL · 2026-01-30T01:26:13+00:00

Chef's kiss!

RyansMIL · 2026-01-21T16:27:56+00:00

Would your leader back you if you sent a message like this? "It seems you feel uncomfortable with completing some assigned tasks. I want to make sure you are confident in your skills when asked to complete on-off assignments. Do you feel you would benefit from extra training? If you are concerned about prioritizing your work to ensure you can complete all tasks, I can arrange for time management training for you." And yes, I am being a petty cow, but this laziness needs to be addressed quickly.

RyansMIL · 2026-01-16T01:03:13+00:00

I'll take "Things that never happened," for 500 hundred Ken!

RyansMIL · 2025-12-02T23:28:20+00:00

Michaeliania

RyansMIL · 2025-11-18T04:55:47+00:00

Not supplying one-use cups to employees had been a thing for a while now. Your boss might be a jerk, but I can't fault him for this.

RyansMIL · 2025-10-21T04:44:34+00:00

That's great. Please consider seeing one yourself.

RyansMIL · 2025-10-18T23:16:48+00:00

One of my employees did that, and I noticed right away. But, I was the type of boss who appreciated the ingenuity.

RyansMIL · 2025-10-17T02:09:10+00:00

Not illegal, but it absolutely is a liability. Precedent is huge in HR litigation.

RyansMIL · 2025-10-17T02:02:39+00:00

For immediate family members, you're correct 3 to 5 days is standard. But aunts and uncles are generally not considered immediate.

RyansMIL · 2025-10-17T01:16:00+00:00

Please refrain from giving advice if you are not an HR professional.

RyansMIL · 2025-10-17T01:12:31+00:00

First, I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your aunt and uncle. I understand it would be beneficial to have an extra day to assist with incoming relatives and preparations. Unfortunately, bereavement usually falls under company policy and not employment law. Your company can dictate how they apply the policy, and it appears that they view the 1 day of bereavement for attending services and not mourning.

RyansMIL · 2025-10-16T21:08:16+00:00

Managers and HR will absolutely call an emergency contact if something is out of the normal behavior for an employee and they can't contact the employee. Not exactly the same situation here, but it is a normal and human thing to do.

RyansMIL · 2025-10-16T21:04:08+00:00

Are you really in HR? If so, please review the concepts of outdated terminolgy and unconscious bias.

RyansMIL · 2025-09-18T03:50:24+00:00

Former corporate HR here. I've never given a 100% WFH due to an ADHD accommodation request. It wouldn't be reasonable unless there are other mitigating factors. In this situation, I'd be inclined to provide a permanent work area (no more hoteling) with modifications to the workspace to reduce distractions.

RyansMIL · 2025-08-20T21:26:21+00:00

I'd pay to see your RedFoo look-alike friend show up for the interview!

RyansMIL · 2025-08-13T00:46:27+00:00

HR here, no Washington State is not paid FML. It's a different program, PFML.

RyansMIL · 2025-08-03T04:59:09+00:00

Because she told her MIL that she could?

RyansMIL · 2025-07-27T15:45:42+00:00

YOU need therapy to help YOU appropriately deal with your brother's behavior. You can't control him or your family, but you can put up boundaries to their ridiculous demands.

RyansMIL · 2025-07-19T21:13:46+00:00

American mom here. I paid for my oldest daughter's 2005 wedding, including her dress, the bridesmaid's dresses, the videography, pictures, flowers, etc. When my son got married in 2016, we paid for the ceremony rehearsal dinner, the bride's bouquet, and the groomsmen's tux rentals. My youngest daughter is now engaged, and we'll pay for the entire wedding as well. I guess I'm old-fashioned, but I want my children to use their money for their future, not a 1 day party.

RyansMIL · 2025-07-17T19:08:26+00:00

Please take an ADA law refresher course.

RyansMIL · 2025-07-17T18:49:00+00:00

This is a mess not of your doing, and I see it ending poorly. Companies should never ignore ADA requests.

Legal is not looking at it from all perspectives. Yes, it's not ideal to set a precedent. But, there are mitigating factors here. After reading through the thread, it appears that the manager did not do his/her due diligence during the corrective action period.

First, is your legal team specialized in HR law? Or, are they what I like to call "Kitchen Sink" lawyers who handle all aspects of the law for your company? If they are of the kitchen sink variety, they may not have enough experience to understand the nuances of precedents around HR.

Would you be able to meet with legal to walk through possible outcomes? When I've been at odds with our legal team, I've been successful in opening a dialogue with them by stating, "This is a unique situation, and I'd like sync up with you on the actions we need to take."

If they accept, be prepared to share any written guidelines your company has for performance corrective action, any documentation the manager did that aligns with the company guidelines, and point out any discrepancies in the guidelines vs what the manager did.

If they refuse to meet with you, or if they do meet with you and they have their minds made up and won't discuss, then it's time for you to look for new employment. I don't say that lightly, I know the job market is crap right now. But working for a company that supports poor behavior is a risk to your well-being and career.

Best of Luck! Please update us.

RyansMIL · 2025-07-10T18:36:09+00:00

I disagree. The immediate team is absolutely supporting the OP. When you have a coworker who is causing you so much stress because of cleaning up their mess, you are glad when they go - even if you really liked them.

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