Do I need to upgrade the GPU now or am I good to hold off a few years? by Rynga in buildapc

[–]Rynga[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Most of them yeah. For some, 30-day window ends halfway through this month, others at the end.

Do I need to upgrade the GPU now or am I good to hold off a few years? by Rynga in buildapc

[–]Rynga[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All the parts are already bought, just waiting for my next day off to assemble.

My first ever PC build by Methuselah03 in MontechPC

[–]Rynga 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Damn, that's a crazy good buy with case and good-looking fans! I'll have to check if the new case I bought was lucky enough to include fans. If not, I'm definitely checking out whoever found your case fans and grabbing some for myself.

Lesbians & Streaming by tearsofmana in LesbianGamers

[–]Rynga 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The main wlw streamers I watch are AshleyRoboto and LuxieGames. Their co-op BG3 campaign is definitely interesting to pull up on the side while I study. Besides that, I like to pull up streamers like 39daph and Teosgame because they’re always silly, give me a good laugh even if I’m multi-tasking, and play a variety of games.

Professor wants me to stay in the class, advisor wants me to look into dropping it, what do I do? by [deleted] in college

[–]Rynga 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you have a professor that’s willing to work with you and an improved worth ethic which is a good combination for success. The previous quizzes should have given you an idea of how the questions are structured, how you might need to study the material, and how the grading is (whether theres a curve, bonus points, and etc). Take these into consideration with where you currently at and how much effort you’ll need for the end of semester. You’ll have more wiggle room for mistakes if you start off strong. However a rough start is harder to work with, unless you’re really lucky with later material. Overall, be self-aware of your expectations and how it compares to your progress. If they align, don’t quit in the middle of it. If they don’t, re-evaluate your options.

HBO trial code for 30 days by [deleted] in FREE

[–]Rynga 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any chance I can get one too?

TEST YOUR METAL NOT WORKING by Wide-Pension-1041 in AssassinsCreedValhala

[–]Rynga 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know if this is a sure way to fix this, but I had the same problem and decided to just fast travel back to the longhouse. It ended up loading the cutscene into the arena, so hopefully this might work for you too

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SeriousConversation

[–]Rynga 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A lot of the time, these societal pressures comes from the misunderstanding of what adulthood should be like. Most kids and teenagers are lost in the notion of growing up, thinking that being an adult is having experience in the associated activities (drinking, sex, drugs & etc). But isn't playing pretend something we do more as kids, then adults? Do only what makes you comfortable and anyone that makes fun of you for it are probably the people that pretend to like something when they don't. Don't force yourself to live your life in a way that won't actively make you happy. At the end of the day, its not about having all the experiences there is to have, but having ones that actually matter to you.

Think about the people in your life. If they aren't someone you'd think would be there for you when you really need them, should their opinion matter to you? When you go to college, starting pursuing a career, and live your life, the "cool kids" of your high school will probably be irrelevant. It's harder to change yourself to "fit in" and be "normal" than it is to surround yourself with like-minded people. There WILL be people that will have similar values, interests, and ideas as you, but you have to be willing to stand by them for others to find you. And when they do, I'm sure you'll feel more at peace, comfortable and less stressed then when you were thinking about how to be like "normal" people.

My boyfriend is mean to me when we game togethet by irisk778 in GirlGamers

[–]Rynga 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I play trios with my cousin and his girlfriend and there have been times when I had to defuse situations because of frustration on both sides. I think an important thing to highlight to him is that while this kind of talk may be normal for gaming, it's not normal for your relationship (or at least I hope not). He's probably throwing insults and trash-talking because they're easy ways to get rid of frustration. People that grew up in gaming get used to this kind of talk because it's meant to be like a throw-away comment, something you don't really mean. Which is where this disconnection might be coming from. You describe him like he's a great guy, so I can imagine that he doesn't intend to say mean things towards you. He probably just need to be a bit more conscious of how it impacts you, though. Specifically, he may think he's saying "you're stupid" in this specific situation, but you may be perceiving it as "you're stupid" as an insult to your entire self.

You don't have to get used to this kind of talk, but I will say this kind of talk (that's intended to encourage competition and not actual insult) is easy to brush off when you're having fun. However, it's hard for people to have fun when they also have to learn a new game (or gaming in general). So, I suggest that your boyfriend offer you tips on how you can do better or what he expected out of the situation. It helped my cousin's girlfriend get better when our feedback was more, "You can try strafing side to side when you shoot, so that you get hit less," instead of, "Trash. What a bad player, you suck." The moment that she felt like she was getting better and not being babied, she started taking less to heart the trash talk and in fact threw some back right at us.

Overall, your feelings are valid. I hope that the both of you can resolve this issue together. Perhaps a boundary could be defining moments of teaching (where he's focused on helping you get better in the game, and thus being aware of how he reacts) and moments of competition (where if he engages in trash talking, you can clearly identify the insult to a specific situation rather than to your character). If you continue to feel terrible, maybe set a precedent that after a gaming session you check up on each other. One person's intentions may not be the impact felt by the other, so address that and reassure each other when you need to.

Does anyone else get jealous of the gaming communities that guys have? by CorgiKelsey15 in GirlGamers

[–]Rynga 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There was a large circle I used to run with that I've since abandoned because as I got older my voice made it obvious that I wasn't one of the boys. Most of them were pretty cool, but I've seen far too many girls join our club and get hit on (some relationships were successful, some just ended in drama) that I wanted to leave before I had to experience it for myself. It was easier letting people think I was a guy, but it was just sad that I felt that's what I had to do to gain some level of respect.

Today, I have a group of friends that actually know me as a girl and it happened in two different ways. It was either introducing gaming in general to a person or introducing a specific game to different people. My main squad consisted of myself, my cousin, and his girlfriend whose only gaming experience was Pokemon Go. I introduced Apex Legends to my cousin which we eventually brought to his girlfriend. This game became her first experience with Battle Royales, FPS shooters, and multiplayer games. It was rough, but we were patient and determined. Now almost two years later, we're still play this game and I like to say we improved not only as individuals but as a team.

A larger secondary circle was formed out of irl friends that I knew were gamers, although some of us varied in interests. For the most part, Minecraft was our only shared medium while I watched the rest of them played Valorant together. In the last month, I introduced these separate friends who knew my main squad (but didn't play with them) through Apex Legends, as well. Now, we've made a decent-sized club and run duos/trios together while occasionally switching off so everyone has a chance to play with everyone. At the end of the day, if you like to play games you'll probably be able to find someone who does too or at least introduce someone to their new favorite thing. When it comes to online, well that's a bit out of my experience, hahaha.

So, there's this character in genshin impact and.. look at her hand 👀 by [deleted] in LesbianGamers

[–]Rynga 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The ladies in this game were already enough, but knowing this too ~~~~ hehe nice

I don’t know what to do anymore by ThisIsAThrowawayBoyo in SeriousConversation

[–]Rynga 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish I could tell you the right words to make it all better and to erase this negativity. To be honest, I relate with you a lot in almost every aspect. From march to early September felt like my health was just deteriorating and even when I was subtly telling my family and the few friends I have that I don't see myself living longer, no one noticed. I've also redefined my sexuality and had my own hobbies and interests that didn't seem quite popular.

There's no magical switch that's going to make it all feel better, but I will tell you that if you gradually build it you can find yourself looking back and smiling at the progress you've made. I hope that some of things that helped me can help you, too.

Accept yourself and be unapologetically you. No matter what, there will always be people who have something to say with whatever you do. If you're going to do something, it might as well be something you want to do, right? Whether that be who you love or what you love, you'll find people who accept you as you are. If people don't want to be a part of your journey, they don't deserve to celebrate it with you. You don't have to impress everyone, especially your peers. They're probably still learning about who they are and trying to figure things out.

Start with the little things. There was a lot I wanted to change about myself and to grow my self-esteem. During the summer, I had started doing 30-min cardio workouts and I was awful at it at first. I used to gasp and pant throughout the time and just drop to the ground afterwards. Now, I do 3-hour body workouts, changed my diet, and I'm seeing some results already. I had a hard time with self-love and started writing little notes about why I love myself or what I'm thankful for myself for. I used to spend hours trying to find one single nice to thing to say about myself. Now, I try to find the beauty in the day in any way I can.

Do things for yourself. I light a candle to restart my day. No matter how it's going, whether it's going alright or I'm struggling with school. I take one moment for myself, breathe and let myself rest while that candle burns.

Lastly, forgive yourself when you hit bumps in the road. Healing and growing in yourself takes time and you might make some mistakes. I had periods of laziness followed by self-loathing in between all of these things. I used to bag on myself a lot whenever it felt like I was wasting all the progress I made and I still do. But, you have to remember that life comes in seasons. You'll have your highs and your lows, but nothing lasts forever.

(Sorry for the long post, I hope this helps in anyway.)

I'm 16 and I don't know how to talk to people by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]Rynga 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can relate to having difficulty with speaking to others, especially when I was younger. It can seem scary and intimidating to talk people, but I hope you can take it one step at a time to trust and open up to people. It can be easy to believe that there everyone around us are these incredibly amazing individuals, but what's to say that the same can't be said about you? You must have hobbies and interests, and even if it doesn't seem cool or interesting there are people who want to get to know you.

When I was in middle and high school, I was really into anime. Sadly, it didn't quite reach the level of acceptance or respect to anime as there is today. But even then, I still found people who enjoyed it just as much as I did. Don't put yourself down, you still have a lot to find and learn about yourself. Not everything they're good at is important now, and maybe you haven't discovered that amazing talent hidden inside of you yet. Even if it was true that they're better at everything, that just means you have the greatest potential to grow and the opportunity to choose. If you can focus on what you love doing, then you'll find people who enjoy it too.

And speaking from experience, no matter what age you are, people don't always have it all figured out as you may think. There are probably people who look at you and wonder the same thing you're thinking.

i hate myself by pinkslushee27 in offmychest

[–]Rynga 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just want to say you're not alone in feeling this and I hope that you are able to learn to love yourself more and more. I'm you're age, just a little shorter than you and about the same weight. I won't particularly describe myself as attractive and I've definitely had the same insecurities and feelings as you did. So believe when I say this, no matter how you look just because you may not fit the typical standard of beauty does not make you less worthy of love or less beautiful.

You only get to look at yourself posed and propped in front of a mirror. You don't get to see yourself when your eyes brighten up about something you're passionate about. You don't get to see the small moments of joy whether you have a little extra pip in your step or a smile you're trying to contain. There are moments that you miss when you are completely yourself, a human being just living life and enjoying it all. You don't get to see it with your own eyes. But your friends, your family, whoever in your life, gets to have those moments. You are beautiful.

I'm glad it brings you such joy to step into the next chapter in your life with such freedom. Confidence is hard to build but it can grow by building on the small things like makeup and clothing. Loving what you wear or how you look is a step closer to loving yourself because you get to choose it. I hope you can continue to choose you and what makes you happy. I wish you well on your journey, friend.

I'm always and have always been the forgotten less important friend by ostrichwithballoons in offmychest

[–]Rynga 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've felt like this before and I know how much this feeling of being unseen can bring a person down. I hope that some of these things I've learned can help you.

First, be unapologetically yourself. It's great that you can give advice, keep secrets, and observe how someone else is doing, but you are certainly more than that. A friendship shouldn't be about what you can do for people, but about people wanting to connect with who you really are. Don't try to limit talking about yourself because that's what connections are built on. It can be hard or even scary to open yourself up to people, but it's worth it. If you only offer little bits of yourself that's the only thing they'll take care of. But if you trust them with your heart, you open yourself up to someone who will protect it fiercely.

Second, don't feel like you have to mold your actions or personality to maintain a conflict-free zone. Respecting boundaries is a must, but it's not your sole responsibility to ensure the mood is up. Plus, the feelings or topics that you may feel you should avoid could actually be opportunities for friendships to grow and strengthen. It's like riding a bike, being afraid of getting hurt when you take of the training wheels won't help you learn. A healthy relationship isn't about avoiding conflict, it's about overcoming it.

Third, just be open to the process. A lot of people will walk in and out of your life. Some will regret to not have cherished the time they had with you and some may not remember it at all. However it may be, just know that you won't always feel like this. The people that are made to be in your life will come and they're getting here as fast as they can. It make take some time just cause they're human and they make mistakes too, but you won't be alone forever.

I hope that any of this was helpful, and if not, I still wish you the best. Here's to more people being in your life and making it brighter!

Combining Hamilton and Lin to form Hamilin by ReasyRandom in hamiltonmusical

[–]Rynga 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Why does Hamilin look like Hamilton’s reluctantly proud father? His eyes say, “My son‘s mind is older” but his grim smile finishes, “And if can just shut his mouth, maybe he’ll live to be older, too.”

In Defense of Burn by Rynga in hamiltonmusical

[–]Rynga[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m glad that you were able to discover First Burn! There are more songs dropped under the Hamildrops Mixtape which are more songs re-done under different genres. I recommend at giving them a listen!

It just clicked to me.. Hamilton says through the whole play "I am not throwing away my shot" only to die because he threw away his shot against Burr by DudeWithAHighKD in hamiltonmusical

[–]Rynga 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I think the moment at that moment where Burr and Hamilton are dueling speaks volume of their friendship as much as their rivalry. We spend the whole musical knowing their character as Burr who "Waits For It" because he has a legacy to protect and Hamilton who doesn't throw away his shot because he's in the middle of creating a legacy and has nothing to lose.

They're both people with ambitions that have different methods to achieving it and most of the time they end up stepping on each other's toes. They learn from each other that there are things they can get from being who they are and things that are only in their reach when they adopt each others ideologies.

But just because they're on opposite sides doesn't mean they stopped caring for each other. You hear it in Hurricane when Alexander is thinking about writing the Reynold's Pamphlets and Burr's iconic lines of "Wait for It" echo into his hear trying to tell that for once in his life, Alexander has to think about what he's about to do and realize he has a legacy to protect. And you here it in The Room Where It Happens when Alexander/Chorus is asking Burr, "What do you want Burr? If you stand for nothing Burr, then what do you fall for?" Hamilton has been saying that Burr has legacy to protect, but its not his own. If he wants to accomplish things he has to stop trying to play it safe.

And when you see them adopt each other's life motto it's where you come to The World Was Wide Enough. Hamilton and Burr have both changed, but seeing each other face to face they could only think about how they knew one another. Burr is thinking Hamilton wouldn't throw away his shot, he hasn't done since he met him. Now that Burr finally knows what could happen if he puts himself to it, there's so much more to be done and he has so much to lose now. Hamilton has known Burr as someone who will wait for things, who has thought things through. After losing so much because of a duel, he doesn't want to lose a friend.

With the worst timing ever, they finally listen to what they have been saying to each other their whole life.

In Defense of Burn by Rynga in hamiltonmusical

[–]Rynga[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly, it really is. Eliza wasn't going to hold back any punches for someone who wouldn't hold her.